Aphrodite11 wrote:

DANLOVESME wrote:

Aphrodite11 wrote:

I am glad whatever I wrote was of some advantage to you. You are welcome. 
You can hear him tell you during your visualisations that he wants to have sex only with you. See him thinking like that.
He wants to satisfy you sexually. He wants please you in every way you want. He wants to make you wet. He wants to be in a physical shape that makes your nipples hard and your vagina flutter with blood flow when you see him.
He wants to make you come and give you that intense pleasure you deserve. See him begging to satisfy you. See him thinking of satisfying you.
Combine it with PW for emotional part as well.

You see darling, women can really do EVERYTHING men can. We don't need men for other things.
But sex is where you need a man. That's a pleasure we can't give ourselves not even with a vibrator (unless you are addicted to a vibrator/masturbation).
That's a pleasure only a man can give. They are created to fulfill our needs. It's their job to satisfy us in bed. We need them in bed, nowhere else.

So it's all in your hands. You are queen who deserves to be pleased in every way.

Thanks again, could you possibly help me with this. I made another post but no-one has replied
Thank you to Lanie for such amazing books they are really giving me confidence I need I have a few questions.

​1. Is it ok for me to do PW and BWD with my eyes open, during the day?
2. Do I have to lay on my back or can I be in any comfortable position because sometimes I find laying on my back uncomfortable?
​3. Sometimes, when I'm visualizing, I can smell his cologne (and he's not in the room with me or even been there) Is this a sign?
​4. Also, I only went on 2 dates with him. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see me again but then just started ignoring me and is now in a relationship with someone else (he didn't cheat though) because I wasn't with him very long, can PW and BWD still work. We had some sexual contact when we were together and we passionately kissed but we never had full sex?

​I should point out that I do feel good and a lot better now since starting the techniques. I feel a positive vibes but nothing has happened yet. I'm not doubting I know it works and I trust it - but I would really appreciate it if someone could answer these questions just to give me a little guidance

 

1) It's perfectly okay to  do it with open eyes, as long as it doesn't affect your concentration or doesn't affect you negatively or in an unwanted way. I knew a woman once who used to meditate (not our loa visualisation) with open eyes because she used to feel sleepy if she closed them. She was one of the most calm, understanding, non judgmental, wise, person I have ever met.

2) You can do it in any position. You can lay on back or be in a chair or any other position you are comfortable with at least in the beginning.
In the book Lanie says not to cross our hands and legs. 
I was at a meditation centre once, we were asked to cross our palms, legs and close the eyes in order to preserve the energy in ourselves. 
So perhaps in the book Lanie instructed to leave hands and legs uncrossed in order to let the energy flow in the universe and reach our targets. I hope I am not wrong about this. It is just my guess. Only she can answer this best. 
I have noticed that when I visualise I feel a sensation in my palms and feet. This shows that my energy flows in the universe and I am connected to him.
So avoid crossing them no matter what position you are in. Leave them free and relaxed.

3) If you smell his cologne while visualising then my guess is that you are connected to him. You are working well then. Keep it up.
Is it a sign? Maybe. I don't look for signs. But whatever you are doing is working.

I smelled my exes body scent once suddenly but I wasn't visualising at that time and it was only for a second.

4) Dear, how can someone be your "boyfriend" in only two dates? Are you so quickly attached to people? It isn't healthy to be attached too soon. I admit I do not exactly understand this "dating" concept where people just date random stranger whom they don't know and get attached to them too soon. For me a guy has to be my friend, we should get along well, spend time, I feel good with him and then if I develope some feelings for him and he feels too, I might consider a relationship with him. I need to fall in love with my friend before I enter a relationship. 
If I don't love him, he doesn't love me then we can just stay friends, maybe if I feel like it I might use him for sex, that's all. no relationship for me without love.
So why care if it's a stranger you know nothing about and you don't love.
Why get attached much? There is a plus point (and minus point too) I have because of ADHD that I find most people dull and uninteresting. I am not saying other are boring, I am saying that I get bored too quickly. Also I just don't get attached easily. I take a lot of time. It's just the way I am, it comes to me naturally. I feel something for them only if I feel very amazing with them, if I find them extraordinarily amazing, fun, thrilling and it also depends on how they make me feel.
This is the reason I want my ex. It's my feelings for HIM, how I felt with HIM and not just anyone. 
Some people just want SOMEONE, In my case I don't want someone, I feel fulfilled in myself, I want HIM.
Just wanting SOMEONE shows desperation. Maybe that's why some people get attached too soon although I do not believe it's real attachment even if they think it is.

If you want your ex, instead of just some guy whom you met only twice then work on your ex. But do it because you feel something for ex and want that specific person, not because you just want "someone".

So relax, you can get anything and everything you want.
And yes techniques make us feel fucking amazing. You are doing well dear, keep it up. Good luck.

 

​Thank you for replying. We were talking to each other online for 3 weeks before we met and for 2 of those weeks I was on holiday and he spoke to me for the entire time I was out there and then when we met we clicked instantly. We may have only been on 2 dates but we were together for 3 weeks but because we were both working we didn't see each other.
​I know I can still get him back though. I'm 100% sure he's the one.
 

Aphrodite11 wrote:

I am glad whatever I wrote was of some advantage to you. You are welcome. 
You can hear him tell you during your visualisations that he wants to have sex only with you. See him thinking like that.
He wants to satisfy you sexually. He wants please you in every way you want. He wants to make you wet. He wants to be in a physical shape that makes your nipples hard and your vagina flutter with blood flow when you see him.
He wants to make you come and give you that intense pleasure you deserve. See him begging to satisfy you. See him thinking of satisfying you.
Combine it with PW for emotional part as well.

You see darling, women can really do EVERYTHING men can. We don't need men for other things.
But sex is where you need a man. That's a pleasure we can't give ourselves not even with a vibrator (unless you are addicted to a vibrator/masturbation).
That's a pleasure only a man can give. They are created to fulfill our needs. It's their job to satisfy us in bed. We need them in bed, nowhere else.

So it's all in your hands. You are queen who deserves to be pleased in every way.

Thanks again, could you possibly help me with this. I made another post but no-one has replied
Thank you to Lanie for such amazing books they are really giving me confidence I need I have a few questions.

​1. Is it ok for me to do PW and BWD with my eyes open, during the day?
2. Do I have to lay on my back or can I be in any comfortable position because sometimes I find laying on my back uncomfortable?
​3. Sometimes, when I'm visualizing, I can smell his cologne (and he's not in the room with me or even been there) Is this a sign?
​4. Also, I only went on 2 dates with him. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see me again but then just started ignoring me and is now in a relationship with someone else (he didn't cheat though) because I wasn't with him very long, can PW and BWD still work. We had some sexual contact when we were together and we passionately kissed but we never had full sex?

​I should point out that I do feel good and a lot better now since starting the techniques. I feel a positive vibes but nothing has happened yet. I'm not doubting I know it works and I trust it - but I would really appreciate it if someone could answer these questions just to give me a little guidance

 

Aphrodite11 wrote:

DANLOVESME wrote:

I yawn almost everytime and sometimes I itch and other times parts of my body like my feet usually sometimes goes into like a spasm. I did PW last night and the night before. The night before I felt a real sense of connection and sort of a protective feeling, I felt really safe. I felt good and could visualize clearly. Last night wasn't as good but wasn't bad either. I felt the connection and even got aroused. My question is, is getting aroused a good or bad thing?

How can getting turned on ever be a bad thing sweetheart?  
If I find a guy physically attractive, I get turned on when I see him, I get turned in his presence even if I don't see him, I get turned on my mere thought of him. That amazing blood flow in the body........
So yes I get turned on too during PW but since I am using it on my ex mostly, I don't get turned on that much because well, I don't want to sound mean, I am sexually bored of him.
So relax. You are a woman and women have more nerve endings than men, we have more erogenous parts than men, we are as visual as men (sometimes more than them), we have better peripheral vision, we get turned on in public all the time and barely anyone finds out, and we can hide all the pleasure we feel in public since there is no big erection to show it. 
BENEFITS OF BEING WOMEN. There is no downside of being a woman except maybe annoying periods.
Women are horny. Nature created us like that. Why be ashamed of it?
Having fun while doing it is awesome. You perhaps just combined PW with BWD which in my opinion is good. He must have been turned on too thinking of you. Take the advantage of being a woman. The right advantage. Enjoy and have fun while. Utilize that gift you have been given to feel that intense pleasure.
Sure you are using PW/BWD to achieve your goal but have that fun while doing it because it's basically about you and how you feel while you do it and after you do it. So as long as you feel anything good, you are doing good things.

​Thank you for replying This has given me even more positivity and confidence
 

I yawn almost everytime and sometimes I itch and other times parts of my body like my feet usually sometimes goes into like a spasm. I did PW last night and the night before. The night before I felt a real sense of connection and sort of a protective feeling, I felt really safe. I felt good and could visualize clearly. Last night wasn't as good but wasn't bad either. I felt the connection and even got aroused. My question is, is getting aroused a good or bad thing?

Aphrodite11 wrote:

I do not yawn either. But I itch, sometimes more sometimes less, I find it distracting and I have to scratch.
I also feel warm, tingling, wave like sensation in my palms and feet. This feeling in palms and feet stays till the end, till I open my eyes and move them.
If I imagine my heart chakra and solar plesxus connecting with his, I feel strange, sometimes warm sensation there for few seconds and then that sensation goes away.
If I imagine my third eye connecting his third eye, I feel strange sensation there.
I have noticed I breathe slightly heavily than normal from time to time.
And sometimes, I feel nothing, I hope I still connect when I feel nothing.

As far as emotions and feelings are concerned, I am starting to learn to not pay attention on other things and put a smile on my face to feel happiness while visualising. I hope it is still as effective as when you feel it without actually begining to smile. I was more focused on hurt, anger, sadness as well.

What more do the rest of you feel apart from yawning? Does it distract you?
I have noticed if I PW at night, I see him in my dreams (which I hate). That's one reason why I avoid PW at night but the problem is it is also the best time to do it.
Do you people end up dreaming about your exes too if you PW at night?

I think itching means you have not entered the meditative state, you have not relaxed yet, it happens to me too until I relax.  The yawning does not distract me but it is so repetitive, so often that it is weird because I don't yawn like this in any other circumstances.
I personally don't dream about my target (he is not an ex for me but someone I wish to attract), I .have random completely unrelated dreams.
But doing the PW really makes me smile, I cannot stop my grin while am doing it, the emotion is definitely there. 
The weird thing is that I see him responding so eagerly- I wonder if that is just my wishful thinking or he feels like that too. Must be scary for him to feel what I see him feeling lol. 
I had a deeply intense feeling twice,last night was one of those occasions, when I could feel my body vibrating while doing the technique, it was not physically moving my body but felt like waves were going through me and I was more light headed. It is possible that this is how it is supposed to feel.
 

Joshbemine wrote:

I don't yawn but I do take a big sigh when I look into his eyes. Could that be the same thing?

Yeah I guess so
 

I don't yawn but I do take a big sigh when I look into his eyes. Could that be the same thing?