I hope that this finds you well. I too have been broken hearted.  My first love hurt me bad. I didn't think that I could go on. I wanted to share this because I know how you feel. 

Now,  I will say this.  If you are so blessed,  you have a lot of years ahead of you.   You do not want to spend the rest of them being so sad and depressed. Your ex took your happiness because you have given her the power to do so, but don't give her the power to keep it.

There could be a great and happy life awaiting you. But,  you have to be positive and healthy in order to see it.  Right now,  work on getting healthy. Focus on things that make you smile,  people that love you, your hobbies.  Get well!!!!  Then,  worry about your ex. Heck, who knows you may not even want her anymore.

Good luck!

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

Lanie Stevens wrote:

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

I give up. Her sister wants me to never contact her again and tells me "my" girl is disgusted by me and the sister is telling me to move on because it'll never happen. "My" girl doesn't even want to be my friend.

I cant explain what just went down, but her sister said she wasn't happy with me and that she's not the one for me. "My" girl doesn't want to associate herself with me, and they're both screaming at me, telling me that I'm creepy and that it'll never happen between she and i. The sister said she wouldn't even let it.

Whatever happened in any of my previous posts... this one tops all of them. Even the restraining order one. This one was infinitely more "im done. Move on. Have a good life." I told the sister about the hope I had with the LoA, and she said it's bullshit and that there's no chance in HELL that "my" girl would ever step back into my life again.

I cant explain the amount of horrible emotion and sense of "finalization" that went into tonight's dispute (the sister contacted me asking how I was doing - she was spending time with the family so she was with her)...

I can't tell you everything that went down tonight, but, even with LoA, i cant get her back after tonight. Its a "you had to be there to witness" thing. It's over the sister says. "My" girl tells me she never had feelings for me.



Guys, I know you think this is just the same old Timu post, but no. This is the end and they both made it very clear about that fact both in statements and in "sense". The sister and told me not to contact the girl ever again. The amount of "its over" sense from this conversation showed it's over. I know you can't believe me but yup. I've never felt this level of "out of her life for good" before. They've never reached this level with anyone before. I've reached a new low as far as "guys" go for them. I cant explain it, but literally, it's done. They've made it VERY clear.
Made it very clear that I have to move on and I've got no chance of ever being with her. Ever.

Back to suicidal. Or at least sleeping all day and night. Fuck my life.

It's definitely over. Definitely. Definitely. Definitely.
I'm emphasizing this not to be stubborn but to show you just how much they meant it, in comparison to other times.


I lost all hope. That's never happened. I've always had some sense she'd be back. Nope. All hope is gone now. I don't have that sense of hope anymore.



Thanks for the help guys. I appreciate you being there for me. Don't worry. You won't have to deal with my posts anymore. Wish you all the best. I hope you all get what I couldnt.

TIMU I don't usually ask personal questions about the members on the forum because it doesn't matter.  However, I want to ask you how old you are?  My guess is this is your first "true love" and that you are young and somewhat inexperienced.  Is this the case?  If it is maybe we can help relate because it will help us understand where you are coming from.  
 

Hi, yes! Sorry. I'm mid 20s and yes I am.

Trying to stay positive I still want her back and have been imagining her cuddling with me on the couch the entire day, saying she loves me and hopes I feel better soon (im sick so I spent all day on the couch). It makes me feel good. Is it alright to visualize with my eyes open?

Give up.

Stop visualizing HER. 

Visualize YOU, being happy, alone.

Free yourself from her. 

You are wasting your life. 

Sorry. 

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

Aphrodite11 wrote:

Drunk dialing, eh?
That's actually what you shouldn't do. This pushes people away.
Looks like you are doing everything to push her further away.
Why don't you delete her number to prevent such incidences?
NC will reduce her anger, disgust or whatever negative things you think she might be feeling for you.
She needs a calming period. By contacting her every few days you are not even giving her the opportunity to calm down.
Why don't you stop drinking if you know you are likely to drunk dial her? Alcohol actually acts as a depressant too.
Why don't you work on yourself while being in NC? NC is about us.
I am not saying it is going to be easy. It is tough. I understand that you think she might forget you during NC. Such thoughts occur to most people. 
You can't just suddenly stop thinking about someone. But gradually you will. And then you won't get such thoughts. But to reach that stage you need the NC. It will take time.
Whenever you get a thought about the girl forgetting you during NC tell yourself "But I need NC for myself, for my sake, it's for my well being, I have to do this to save myself"

Thank you so much
Those are all really really good ideas!!

But... can I ask you... do you think I missed my chance with her? I really want her back and she just has no interest... i don't exactly know what will pull her back to "having interest in me", from "being disgusted and not having feelings for me"... and please know that however bad this sounds on here, understand its 100% more pathetic and nuts in real life)

You know what I did TIMU?
- I disappeared from his radar
- I deactivated my Facebook
- I stopped drinking (for 4 entire months, not even a glass of wine with my dad).
- I understood how the LOA works
- I began to love myself

Result: WE ARE LIVING TOGETHER, we are going to Spain in February, we are starting 2 businesses together to build the life we want, we are adopting another dog together. It´s like we are husband and wife. 
 

Same, TIMU.
I deactivated all my social media and had absolutely ZERO contact with him for ten months. I had no clue what he was up to and he had no clue what I was up to. Now he's all over me as if we never were apart. Neither of us have brought up the past, it's a brand new relationship.

I've even screwed it up twice since he's been back by going back to doubting and fearing.. but both times I got my shit together and he quickly came back like nothing happened. Now things with us are better than I could have expected.

The people who've had success who tell you.. focus on YOU, love YOURSELF, and trust the universe to work it out for you.. we're not bullshitting you. We tell you that because it works.

Lanie Stevens wrote:

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

I give up. Her sister wants me to never contact her again and tells me "my" girl is disgusted by me and the sister is telling me to move on because it'll never happen. "My" girl doesn't even want to be my friend.

I cant explain what just went down, but her sister said she wasn't happy with me and that she's not the one for me. "My" girl doesn't want to associate herself with me, and they're both screaming at me, telling me that I'm creepy and that it'll never happen between she and i. The sister said she wouldn't even let it.

Whatever happened in any of my previous posts... this one tops all of them. Even the restraining order one. This one was infinitely more "im done. Move on. Have a good life." I told the sister about the hope I had with the LoA, and she said it's bullshit and that there's no chance in HELL that "my" girl would ever step back into my life again.

I cant explain the amount of horrible emotion and sense of "finalization" that went into tonight's dispute (the sister contacted me asking how I was doing - she was spending time with the family so she was with her)...

I can't tell you everything that went down tonight, but, even with LoA, i cant get her back after tonight. Its a "you had to be there to witness" thing. It's over the sister says. "My" girl tells me she never had feelings for me.



Guys, I know you think this is just the same old Timu post, but no. This is the end and they both made it very clear about that fact both in statements and in "sense". The sister and told me not to contact the girl ever again. The amount of "its over" sense from this conversation showed it's over. I know you can't believe me but yup. I've never felt this level of "out of her life for good" before. They've never reached this level with anyone before. I've reached a new low as far as "guys" go for them. I cant explain it, but literally, it's done. They've made it VERY clear.
Made it very clear that I have to move on and I've got no chance of ever being with her. Ever.

Back to suicidal. Or at least sleeping all day and night. Fuck my life.

It's definitely over. Definitely. Definitely. Definitely.
I'm emphasizing this not to be stubborn but to show you just how much they meant it, in comparison to other times.


I lost all hope. That's never happened. I've always had some sense she'd be back. Nope. All hope is gone now. I don't have that sense of hope anymore.



Thanks for the help guys. I appreciate you being there for me. Don't worry. You won't have to deal with my posts anymore. Wish you all the best. I hope you all get what I couldnt.

TIMU I don't usually ask personal questions about the members on the forum because it doesn't matter.  However, I want to ask you how old you are?  My guess is this is your first "true love" and that you are young and somewhat inexperienced.  Is this the case?  If it is maybe we can help relate because it will help us understand where you are coming from.  
 

Hi,  yes! Sorry. I'm mid 20s and yes I am.

Trying to stay positive I still want her back and have been imagining her cuddling with me on the couch the entire day, saying she loves me and hopes I feel better soon (im sick so I spent all day on the couch). It makes me feel good. Is it alright to visualize with my eyes open?

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

I give up. Her sister wants me to never contact her again and tells me "my" girl is disgusted by me and the sister is telling me to move on because it'll never happen. "My" girl doesn't even want to be my friend.

I cant explain what just went down, but her sister said she wasn't happy with me and that she's not the one for me. "My" girl doesn't want to associate herself with me, and they're both screaming at me, telling me that I'm creepy and that it'll never happen between she and i. The sister said she wouldn't even let it.

Whatever happened in any of my previous posts... this one tops all of them. Even the restraining order one. This one was infinitely more "im done. Move on. Have a good life." I told the sister about the hope I had with the LoA, and she said it's bullshit and that there's no chance in HELL that "my" girl would ever step back into my life again.

I cant explain the amount of horrible emotion and sense of "finalization" that went into tonight's dispute (the sister contacted me asking how I was doing - she was spending time with the family so she was with her)...

I can't tell you everything that went down tonight, but, even with LoA, i cant get her back after tonight. Its a "you had to be there to witness" thing. It's over the sister says. "My" girl tells me she never had feelings for me.



Guys, I know you think this is just the same old Timu post, but no. This is the end and they both made it very clear about that fact both in statements and in "sense". The sister and told me not to contact the girl ever again. The amount of "its over" sense from this conversation showed it's over. I know you can't believe me but yup. I've never felt this level of "out of her life for good" before. They've never reached this level with anyone before. I've reached a new low as far as "guys" go for them. I cant explain it, but literally, it's done. They've made it VERY clear.
Made it very clear that I have to move on and I've got no chance of ever being with her. Ever.

Back to suicidal. Or at least sleeping all day and night. Fuck my life.

It's definitely over. Definitely. Definitely. Definitely.
I'm emphasizing this not to be stubborn but to show you just how much they meant it, in comparison to other times.


I lost all hope. That's never happened. I've always had some sense she'd be back. Nope. All hope is gone now. I don't have that sense of hope anymore.



Thanks for the help guys. I appreciate you being there for me. Don't worry. You won't have to deal with my posts anymore. Wish you all the best. I hope you all get what I couldnt.

TIMU I don't usually ask personal questions about the members on the forum because it doesn't matter.  However, I want to ask you how old you are?  My guess is this is your first "true love" and that you are young and somewhat inexperienced.  Is this the case?  If it is maybe we can help relate because it will help us understand where you are coming from.  
 

I am so, so confused. LOA states you must act as if. You need to affirm and be positive which is what I have been doing and to be honest the opposite of what I want has happened. I'm trying to manifest my ex back. I've ben so positive, writing gratitude lists, affirmations, ive been visualizing, doing RS, PW and BWD and I have been telling myself he's back despite the fact he is in a new relationship. He's recently removed me as a friend on Facebook. I had stopped looking at his FB but when I went on and noticed I had less friends,i saw that HE had removed me. Why is the opposite of what I want happening? I'm so confused, I don't know what I am doing wrong? I've been so positive and working on gratitude and now this happens?
Please can someone help me?

eleven wrote:

One can have one’s desires fulfilled by simply making a mental picture of that desire, holding on to it with the will, and without anxiety.

If she is who you want to be with then that is what will happen. Continue with the techniques and remain in complete faith and belief that you will be reunited with her. For now, only communicate with her through PW and BWD rather than physical reality. She will receive all of the messages you send to her energetically.

Maybe take a few days to relax and then start the techniques again when you feel ready.

Do the techniques, but continue on living your daily life as well. Do things that make you happy and read lots of success stories as reminders that this works ​

What if my ex has removed me as friend ive been doing everything you need to do, RS,PW, BWD, gratitude affirmations meditation, asking etc....

Em wrote:

ThisIsMyUsername wrote:

Thanks guys. I think when I get low, i get LOW.

I want her back, but honestly, I just need to focus on my own happiness and get that back right now. If she comes back, sweet! If not, I'll find someone new. I'm a pretty awesome guy so;)

Gotta work on this letting go thing and just focus on myself. I'll bbl gonna go exercise and maybe study for a little.

These are exactly the things you need to keep telling yourself and should have been telling yourself and focusing on for many months. Keep that up and you will feel better eventually. Good luck!

Hey thanks! I don't want to let go so  much so that the universe just ignores that I want her, but, either way, I have to do this for me ha! B)