this post is exactly what I need right now. Thanks for sharing, and happy to hear your success story

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Sam wrote:

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share with you some "mistakes" and experiences I've had throughout my journey of reconciling with my boyfriend. These things I've gone through are cold, hard, PROOF that your past with your person, or anyone for that matter DOESN'T MATTER AT ALL! Truly!

First of all, we broke up exactly a year ago (ironic how I'm writing this today lol) and it was a bad break up. I acted like a crazy person. I picked yet another fight with him which was the final straw. He started to ignore me and I proceeded to call and text him repeatedly. All weekend long I did that and I even left him voicemails sobbing. Omg I turned insane. Naturally he dumped me. He told me to find someone else, he blocked me everywhere and we didn't speak for 10 MONTHS. During that period of no contact, I worked on myself. I learned to forgive him, forgive myself, resolved my insecurities, learned to love myself, and learned to let the past go. How was I supposed to have a new and better relationship with him if I was holding our past mistakes, arguments, and fights? Well, he came back into my life two months ago and guess what? HE thought I hated HIM! What?? After how I acted he should hate me right?? Lol no! In fact, he has never once mentioned anything negative about me or our past relationship, he only reminisces about the good parts. Neither one of us had to apologize, there was no big talk about what happened between us.. it truly is a BRAND NEW relationship as if the past never happened.

The second instance happened about a month ago. He had become really flirty and I was getting excited thinking this is it- we're getting back together! Nope.. he said something very "friendzone-y" and it hurt so bad. I lost my cool and straight up asked him, "Why did you act that way if you don't love me?" Talk about a loaded question, right? Needless to say, things got awkward and we stopped talking. I felt like crap, I was just starting to see progress with him, talking a couple times each week.. and I went and messed it all up because of a knee-jerk reaction. BUT I got my shit back together. I returned back to love and trust, I worked on re-centering myself. I told myself it didn't matter that I "screwed up", the past is the only past and I want to move forward. And my mental work paid off because a week later he reached out to me like nothing happened. Seriously, we went back to talking normally like my freak out never existed. Not only that, but he started contacting me DAILY. Every single morning I'd wake up to a text and we'd talk all day long, and he'd say goodnight. It was wonderful!

Thirdly, and this one JUST happened. Like just this past Saturday. Everything was progressing so nicely. We were flirting almost non-stop, we started calling each other baby again, he asked me to COME SEE HIM, and we started planning a dinner and movie date! Ahh! But, silly me went and effed it up again. He made a crude joke and I got really offended by it. He made me feel like I was just some unimportant girl. Truly, I took it the wrong way (he's really the kindest guy). He immediately apologized and felt HORRIBLE. But I wasn't done yet. I went on a complete rant about how he can't keep stringing me along, and if he wants to be with me then he has to tell me, and to leave me alone until he decides. Basically, I gave the poor guy an ultimatum. I was acting like a crazy girlfriend all over again.. of course he never replied- my vibration was all over the place. I felt so much regret and guilt. I was mad at myself for sabotaging myself AGAIN! BUT!! There's always a BUT! I reminded myself how letting go of the past has always worked for me. I once again returned back to love and ease, and I trusted the universe to sort this out for me. I didn't care about the logic, I didn't care about how on earth he'd forgive me yet again or be able to forget what I said. I even told my friend "Ideally he'll just come back as if nothing ever happened"- and he did! Two days later I woke up to him saying "Hey you " Lol it was amazing!! That was this morning and we've been talking all day, and he even asked me what I want for my birthday next week. He wants to get me a present!? After how dramatic I acted just two days ago?? Yup, and not ONCE did he even acknowledge what happened on Saturday..

These are all great examples of if you just let it go, it ceases to matter- it ceases to even EXIST!

But this next one is what amazes me the most. See, when we were together I didn't eat meat (still don't) and it was something we argued over often. I was very forward about my views on animal rights and he's a hunter. This was one of the differences between us that helped his decision to break up with me. However, one of the things I worked on during our time of NC was learning to love him UNCONDITIONALLY, despite our differences. I learned to love him for exactly who he is, whether I agree with it or not. And I let it all go. I forgot the argument and told myself that none of that mattered anymore. SO enough backstory.. last week he had to travel for work and they provided him with fancy restaurant meals. He sent me pictures of his fancy meals, lobster.. steak.. things he NEVER would have sent me last year knowing how strongly I felt about animal rights. Then, to top it all off, he asked me to go on a sushi date with him and try out his favorite kind- the volcano roll, which definitely has fish it it. I almost laughed out loud. He'd LITERALLY forgotten that I don't eat meat. This man who I dated and was going to marry.. forgot about the fact that I don't eat meat and has forgotten all the arguments we had about it. WHAT?? LOL it's hilarious!

Anyway, I hope these examples I've given have helped show you that the past ABSOLUTELY MEANS NOTHING unless you hold onto it. Let it go.. forgive your person.. forgive yourself.. and set the past free, and you BOTH really truly will be free of it.


 

 
Thanks for sharing this! It truly does not matter you're right!!

I LOVE this!!!!! Much appreciated. And great work, that's amazing! ❤️

Sam wrote:

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share with you some "mistakes" and experiences I've had throughout my journey of reconciling with my boyfriend. These things I've gone through are cold, hard, PROOF that your past with your person, or anyone for that matter DOESN'T MATTER AT ALL! Truly!

First of all, we broke up exactly a year ago (ironic how I'm writing this today lol) and it was a bad break up. I acted like a crazy person. I picked yet another fight with him which was the final straw. He started to ignore me and I proceeded to call and text him repeatedly. All weekend long I did that and I even left him voicemails sobbing. Omg I turned insane. Naturally he dumped me. He told me to find someone else, he blocked me everywhere and we didn't speak for 10 MONTHS. During that period of no contact, I worked on myself. I learned to forgive him, forgive myself, resolved my insecurities, learned to love myself, and learned to let the past go. How was I supposed to have a new and better relationship with him if I was holding our past mistakes, arguments, and fights? Well, he came back into my life two months ago and guess what? HE thought I hated HIM! What?? After how I acted he should hate me right?? Lol no! In fact, he has never once mentioned anything negative about me or our past relationship, he only reminisces about the good parts. Neither one of us had to apologize, there was no big talk about what happened between us.. it truly is a BRAND NEW relationship as if the past never happened.

The second instance happened about a month ago. He had become really flirty and I was getting excited thinking this is it- we're getting back together! Nope.. he said something very "friendzone-y" and it hurt so bad. I lost my cool and straight up asked him, "Why did you act that way if you don't love me?" Talk about a loaded question, right? Needless to say, things got awkward and we stopped talking. I felt like crap, I was just starting to see progress with him, talking a couple times each week.. and I went and messed it all up because of a knee-jerk reaction. BUT I got my shit back together. I returned back to love and trust, I worked on re-centering myself. I told myself it didn't matter that I "screwed up", the past is the only past and I want to move forward. And my mental work paid off because a week later he reached out to me like nothing happened. Seriously, we went back to talking normally like my freak out never existed. Not only that, but he started contacting me DAILY. Every single morning I'd wake up to a text and we'd talk all day long, and he'd say goodnight. It was wonderful!

Thirdly, and this one JUST happened. Like just this past Saturday. Everything was progressing so nicely. We were flirting almost non-stop, we started calling each other baby again, he asked me to COME SEE HIM, and we started planning a dinner and movie date! Ahh! But, silly me went and effed it up again. He made a crude joke and I got really offended by it. He made me feel like I was just some unimportant girl. Truly, I took it the wrong way (he's really the kindest guy). He immediately apologized and felt HORRIBLE. But I wasn't done yet. I went on a complete rant about how he can't keep stringing me along, and if he wants to be with me then he has to tell me, and to leave me alone until he decides. Basically, I gave the poor guy an ultimatum. I was acting like a crazy girlfriend all over again.. of course he never replied- my vibration was all over the place. I felt so much regret and guilt. I was mad at myself for sabotaging myself AGAIN! BUT!! There's always a BUT! I reminded myself how letting go of the past has always worked for me. I once again returned back to love and ease, and I trusted the universe to sort this out for me. I didn't care about the logic, I didn't care about how on earth he'd forgive me yet again or be able to forget what I said. I even told my friend "Ideally he'll just come back as if nothing ever happened"- and he did! Two days later I woke up to him saying "Hey you " Lol it was amazing!! That was this morning and we've been talking all day, and he even asked me what I want for my birthday next week. He wants to get me a present!? After how dramatic I acted just two days ago?? Yup, and not ONCE did he even acknowledge what happened on Saturday..

These are all great examples of if you just let it go, it ceases to matter- it ceases to even EXIST!

But this next one is what amazes me the most. See, when we were together I didn't eat meat (still don't) and it was something we argued over often. I was very forward about my views on animal rights and he's a hunter. This was one of the differences between us that helped his decision to break up with me. However, one of the things I worked on during our time of NC was learning to love him UNCONDITIONALLY, despite our differences. I learned to love him for exactly who he is, whether I agree with it or not. And I let it all go. I forgot the argument and told myself that none of that mattered anymore. SO enough backstory.. last week he had to travel for work and they provided him with fancy restaurant meals. He sent me pictures of his fancy meals, lobster.. steak.. things he NEVER would have sent me last year knowing how strongly I felt about animal rights. Then, to top it all off, he asked me to go on a sushi date with him and try out his favorite kind- the volcano roll, which definitely has fish it it. I almost laughed out loud. He'd LITERALLY forgotten that I don't eat meat. This man who I dated and was going to marry.. forgot about the fact that I don't eat meat and has forgotten all the arguments we had about it. WHAT?? LOL it's hilarious!

Anyway, I hope these examples I've given have helped show you that the past ABSOLUTELY MEANS NOTHING unless you hold onto it. Let it go.. forgive your person.. forgive yourself.. and set the past free, and you BOTH really truly will be free of it.


 

THANK YOU!!!! Well done you!!  This post has made my day -Fabulous and just what I needed to read for encouragement.  Im printing it out! xx