Jag123 wrote:

Hello all and Happy New Year!

I wanted to come back and post that I have been unblocked.  I've been lurking occasionally on this board, but felt posting at that time, was keeping me in that space of wanting.  The text came out of the blue yesterday with a Happy New Year message. I also received a very strange message from his "girlfriend" to say they were not together and that he had been saying awful things about me to her when they were and to "beware".  That made me laugh and gave even further confirmation of sour grapes on her part and what I always knew - that he made a terrible mistake.  

Although it is the time of year for such messages, we hadn't spoken in two months , and made a final break 4 months ago.  The  last texts exchanged were absolutely awful.   I  really couldn't see a way back.  In terms of PW and BWD I had been doing them sporadically and just before I received both messages, I had a lovely BWD session and went off to a NYE party with a sense of knowing. Not necessarily that I would receive contact, but that all was well.  That feeling of knowing is priceless and I do need to learn to trust that more.

So now I am in very early days, I responded to the message in the same cursory fashion but will be upping the ante on BWD because it's bloody working!!!!

Hooray!!!!

 

That's brilliant.

Keep up the techniques and use the turn of events to boost your confidence that you are getting through to him.

It seems to be a normal reaction.  They seem to try to decide how they want to react to the way they are feeling.

Jag123 wrote:

Collie

"I didn't send too much that could count as harassment" - that made me laugh my head off!

Thank you so much for the PDF that you sent me - that paragraph in particular (in your post) really resonated when I read it this morning.  It was like a god send because I really was feeling so so stuck yesterday.  I'll be honest, I sat in tears of pure frustration and pain.  I think it was a good thing because I needed to feel it, and cry out the resistance.  I've woken up this morning feeling so much better, and your link confirmed everything I concluded before I went to sleep which was "stop pushing against the situation and allow" .  Your post reminded me how, and the feeling stuck part was all part of the process.  I am so glad that I took no action during last night's downtime (I was so close to texting him) especially as I feel so different now.  Now, I'm excited and clear again.

Thank you so much again for your support xx

I am so happy that it helped. Well done for not texting him. You will see...he will definitely be in touch. This forum is amazing..everyone is supportive and wants to genuinely help.

Jag123 wrote:

Collie, 

Thank you so much.  You're so right he's blocked me because he doesn't want contact and I need to respect that.  I'm not sure why today is especially hard.  Probably because it's been the longest time that even if we haven't spoken, I still know what's happening in his life.  This feels very cut off, because it is lol!  I believe we will re-connect, I just need patience.   For some reason all of the LOA videos and scripting aren't resonating with me at the moment, because I feel quite raw.  I just need to let it pass.  Maybe some meditation before bed.  Thank you so much again, I really appreciate it.  

I feel for you and your situation.  I would find it very hard not to be jealous of his wife, let alone anyone else.  It must take huge resolve not to focus on reality in front you.  It must take up all of your headspace.  Are you able to  visualise effectively without bringing all of the drama in? 

Sometimes , i am able to visualise without thinking of the other girls and when I can't I stop immediately. Even if he was single I would still be jealous..have always been the jealous type. With him however, I feel like I have never felt with anyone else..not even my ex-husband. I even sweat sometimes..so embarrassing.

When I was in NC with my guy for real some days were harder for me and I didn't know about LOA...so i sent him emails..some he answered others he didn't. But each time he asked me not to contact him..to respect his wishes. He said that I am great and there is nobody like me but to respect his wishes. But I didn't send too many that could count as harassment

I just read Manifestation Mastery and came across this paragraph which might help you..i haven't tried it.

- Anytime you feel discouraged, unmotivated, or stuck, to the point where you don’t even want to visualize or work on your limiting beliefs, close your eyes, take a deep breath or three, and sincerely ask your higher self, your subconscious, the universe, your soul, all of the highest beings of the universe, ask these higher forces to help you in your manifestation, to provide you with guidance and clarity, to fill you with inspiration and energy and faith, to clear you of anything blocking you from having your highest happiness, your highest good, and to fill you with light. Then let go, relax, and just forget about your goals for a little while. This is a very effective way to move past parts of the manifestation process where you feel too blocked or confused to move on.  
 
 

Jag123 wrote:

That's great news Collie!  Are you happy and feeling things are moving further forward with him?

I must admit, I had a strong desire to text my boy because I miss him.  I need to stay strong though!! It's awful because the urge is overwhelming. Ordinarily he is such a big part of my life, I feel like I'm missing a limb  

Jag123 I know how you are feeling. It is so hard not having someone in your life and sharing stuff with them.
I felt it so much when my guy went NC on me for a year. Sometimes something happened and i wanted to text him and then I remembered I can't..he blocked me and doesn't want contact.It was so hard as I also love getting his advice. So, I feel for you and I wish I had something wise and helpful to share with you. Just know that everyone told me when my guy went NC on me for a year (actually more) that he will only be in contact if he leaves his wife which probably won't happen. And it did happen..but I never really believed he will never be in touch again.
Do you script? Maybe try that. Or maybe listen to some LOA video on youtube to help you?

We currently can't go further as he isn't single ...yet. I read somewhere that if it happened once it can happen again and also someone told me that about me wanting to return to the bank where I worked.
If I am happy..happy he unblocked (at first i was soo upset until I found out the reason and that it was only for a week) but unhappy coz I let my jealousy get the better of me and was being manipulative and fearful about the new girl he works with and me not going back to work at the bank. Apparently, coz of me he is wary of her and wants me to try find out stuff about her from a mutual friend. Usually I am very nice...when it comes to girls around him turns out I can be a manipulative bitch and that is bad.
 

Oasiscalm wrote:

collie wrote:

Hi,

So today my guy unblocked me after a week.He told our mutual friend that he is blocking me for a week. Today, our mutual friend reminded him that a week as passed. So he unblocked me and writes..i hope i am not making a mistake and a week as really gone by..that i am not unblocking you sooner. I replied..I hope so too that it has been a week otherwise, how embarrassing for you .
I asked why he blocked so he said..no reason. He continued to send me messages..asked how my hand is and if I am working. We chatted for a bit. I knew today I would hear from him.

 

Lool you asked him why he blocked you. Avoid getting into petty games with him.

Great that you have manifested contact, keep up the high vibes. 👏👏

When he said no reason I let it go. It is funny to him.
I am in better vibes now but today, I let current reality get the better of me..i acted like a jealous bitch when we talked about the new girl he hired for his team. However, this is off topic...not related to being blocked.
 

Hi,

So today my guy unblocked me after a week.He told our mutual friend that he is blocking me for a week. Today, our mutual friend reminded him that a week as passed. So he unblocked me and writes..i hope i am not making a mistake and a week as really gone by..that i am not unblocking you sooner. I replied..I hope so too that it has been a week otherwise, how embarrassing for you .
I asked why he blocked so he said..no reason. He continued to send me messages..asked how my hand is and if I am working. We chatted for a bit. I knew today I would hear from him.