Hi. I had my ex back last year after an affair and from experience I think that you need to have solid foundations to start again. I feel like my ex never even bothered trying to help me trust him, and therefore I manifested the woman back into his life. We are obviously not together now and although I initially came on here to get him back, I would rather have someone I can trust, so I have decided that I never want him back or the heartache that type of relationship brings. If it was me starting again like you will be, I would 'iron out' stuff right from the start.