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1/19/2020 10:30 pm
HH wrote:
I saw my ex today at a mutual friends wedding today... feelings came back and it was very unexpected and frustrating to divert backwards... He was with a new woman, his third fiancé.... I thought last i saw him I was healed and over him... this time I saw him with her and it made me feel so sad. The way he looked at her, I missed. His entire family was there also. I left the wedding as soon as it started... my heart was sad. Not sure how last time I was so strong and over him and today I am going backwards...
Hh I feel for You! I recently had the same experience. Me and my ex broke up a few months ago. We stated a business 13 years ago and work closely daily. I started working on self-love before we broke up so this has been a pleasant experience. We eat lunch together daily and communication is great. A week ago on it was on my way home and saw his truck at a house we are flipping and stopped honked the horn like I usually do and waited for him to come Out! Lol instead a woman he has always had an attraction for steps out. At first she is all smiles until she realized who I was then she was very nasty to me I just smiled and drove off. I later found out that this relationship has been going on for a long time.. As I drove off every hurt that I worked so hard to get rid of came flying back. I immediately started working on my self love and a exit plan. I deserve better he has cheated for years and a con and I don't want him back. Every time I feel this hurt I except it and let it go . Where ever I feel that pain I just imagine there is a door there that I own and let the hurt fly out replacing that f place with peace and love...I hope this helps.Thank you!! Big hugs.
Big hugs right back!,
1/19/2020 9:38 am
I saw my ex today at a mutual friends wedding today... feelings came back and it was very unexpected and frustrating to divert backwards... He was with a new woman, his third fiancé.... I thought last i saw him I was healed and over him... this time I saw him with her and it made me feel so sad. The way he looked at her, I missed. His entire family was there also. I left the wedding as soon as it started... my heart was sad. Not sure how last time I was so strong and over him and today I am going backwards...
Hh I feel for You! I recently had the same experience. Me and my ex broke up a few months ago. We stated a business 13 years ago and work closely daily. I started working on self-love before we broke up so this has been a pleasant experience. We eat lunch together daily and communication is great. A week ago on it was on my way home and saw his truck at a house we are flipping and stopped honked the horn like I usually do and waited for him to come Out! Lol instead a woman he has always had an attraction for steps out. At first she is all smiles until she realized who I was then she was very nasty to me I just smiled and drove off. I later found out that this relationship has been going on for a long time.. As I drove off every hurt that I worked so hard to get rid of came flying back. I immediately started working on my self love and a exit plan. I deserve better he has cheated for years and a con and I don't want him back. Every time I feel this hurt I except it and let it go . Where ever I feel that pain I just imagine there is a door there that I own and let the hurt fly out replacing that f place with peace and love...I hope this helps.
Thank you!! Big hugs.
1/19/2020 8:50 am
I saw my ex today at a mutual friends wedding today... feelings came back and it was very unexpected and frustrating to divert backwards... He was with a new woman, his third fiancé.... I thought last i saw him I was healed and over him... this time I saw him with her and it made me feel so sad. The way he looked at her, I missed. His entire family was there also. I left the wedding as soon as it started... my heart was sad. Not sure how last time I was so strong and over him and today I am going backwards...
Hh I feel for You! I recently had the same experience. Me and my ex broke up a few months ago. We stated a business 13 years ago and work closely daily. I started working on self-love before we broke up so this has been a pleasant experience. We eat lunch together daily and communication is great. A week ago on it was on my way home and saw his truck at a house we are flipping and stopped honked the horn like I usually do and waited for him to come Out! Lol instead a woman he has always had an attraction for steps out. At first she is all smiles until she realized who I was then she was very nasty to me I just smiled and drove off. I later found out that this relationship has been going on for a long time.. As I drove off every hurt that I worked so hard to get rid of came flying back. I immediately started working on my self love and a exit plan. I deserve better he has cheated for years and a con and I don't want him back. Every time I feel this hurt I except it and let it go . Where ever I feel that pain I just imagine there is a door there that I own and let the hurt fly out replacing that f place with peace and love...I hope this helps.
1/19/2020 2:24 am
I saw my ex today at a mutual friends wedding today... feelings came back and it was very unexpected and frustrating to divert backwards... He was with a new woman, his third fiancé.... I thought last i saw him I was healed and over him... this time I saw him with her and it made me feel so sad. The way he looked at her, I missed. His entire family was there also. I left the wedding as soon as it started... my heart was sad. Not sure how last time I was so strong and over him and today I am going backwards...
10/25/2019 7:36 am
Thanks DC!! Love yourself is an awsome book!! Got it readed it and am appling it!! I have been struggling with self love and this book was perfect!! Thanks again!!
10/17/2019 10:49 am
It's not supposed to be hard. It's supposed to feel good, and you are supposed to trust.
By the questions that you are asking, it seems as though you are very attached and are trying to move things along.
There was a post by Colonel Roosevelt on Veronica's forum that might help (below), but there is a great deal of resistance that most people on here are trying to overcome because of their own emotional state. You are literally supposed to do the techniques and then go about your life. People are so busy questioning and doubting that they end up building hurdles for themselves.
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I've told people so many times to focus on healing themselves first. It's so hard to deliberately put these exercises into practice when the heartache, sadness, fear, and depression are basically in control. Hell, maybe they wouldn't even need to do these LoA exercises if they released the heartache first.
But very few listen. It's like they don't want to heal or take care of themselves first, they just want to jump right into this stuff for a quick fix. They pretend that the negative feelings don't exist and just pretend to be happy as if they are in another universe. A month passes, three months, a year, several years...those negative feelings are still there boiling beneath the surface. That's why I'm not a big fan of the multiple universes idea. People think they can just bypass all the negative feelings they have by entering another universe. That's denial. And what happens when you enter this other universe where everything is perfect? Your subconscious feelings won't accept it because they are still in control, so this universe just stays the same because change has to start within first.
I have a theory that unresolved fear and sadness from heartache and depression could be secretly ruling our subconscious, thus all the clingy and desperate posts we see across the forums. Sure, we could just consciously change our focus and maybe we'd see results...but it doesn't change what's going on beneath the surface. We mask these subconscious feelings with the cover of positive thinking, but it's all still there, powerful as ever. So then we need to also release these stuck feelings, challenge them, face them, outgrow them, accept them, bring them into awareness. That's what healing ourselves from heartbreak is about. But I see people are too scared to accept their own fears, it's as if they think LoA teaches them to shove their feelings away and put a smiley sticker on it. That's not healthy. So then they do LoA exercises in heartbreak mode, the sad state of mind just stays in place. It's like FDR said, we have nothing to fear but fear itself, and people here are too scared to even acknowledge that they have fears, thus fear is still in control.
I've tried the whole "focus on something positive when you feel fear and doubt" thing and I realized I was getting nowhere with it. The resistance was still there, ruling me from within, and I was ignoring it. That's why if you've ever read Larry Crane's "Love Yourself", it says to say "Yes" to all of your negative feelings, accepting them helps us heal, it's not about "ignoring current reality", it's about radical acceptance (the opposite of resistance). Buddhism preaches something similar. A lot of LoA advice I read here either rejects this or never talks about it.
Thank you I reall needed this! Beautifully said!~
3/02/2019 10:32 pm
thank you for all your love, knowledge and support. <3
big hugs
I love the stories on here so much that I pinned this topic. Sometimes the thing you think you want isn't really all that great once it comes back. Thank y'all so much for sharing your experiences. xoxoxoxoxo
3/02/2019 12:05 am
I love the stories on here so much that I pinned this topic. Sometimes the thing you think you want isn't really all that great once it comes back. Thank y'all so much for sharing your experiences. xoxoxoxoxo
3/01/2019 11:57 pm
It really is interesting!! it's been more than a year!!! I honestly healed from it. We met and I healed at that moment to know that he was not the right guy. It took me SO LONG to come to the realization that he's not the one for me. I sat across from him and was amazed and surprised at the same time. I feel free. I think the technique works but you have to keep doing it. it's not a one time or a few time thing. It would have to be constant and ongoing even during the relationship... I think when you find the right guy and your energy matches, you won't have to do the technique so much because you are in a constant state of positivity and love. I also think the technique works easier on people who are more open to feelings.
It feels good. I truly appreciate your post!! you nailed it!
I am so happy it was uplifting for you and others!!
My only advice is love yourself whole heartedly first and realize your true worth. And when you do, you might not even want him anymore! I am really happy for you and wish you the best!! and come back with an update!!!
omg youre srory is so uplfiting. I was doing PW twice a day on somebody for months and i gave up on him and 2 hours after i gave up i got a "are you in town" text. but then when i answered i was ignored again. I got sick of it and i let go of him AGAIN and 2 days later "are you here??" this happens a lot with this guy. I played it cool this time, well nt playing, i genuinely was turned off by his wishy washy behaviour and teres been no contact but i dont care so much anymore. 2 days ago i was hit out of nowhere with these intense missing him feelings so the next day i did PW for the the first time in months. last night i had a dream that he texted me "im thinking about you a lot and i miss you. im so grateful for everything about you". it was a nice dream. i was put off by PW for the exact same reason as you . i was doing it intensely for months and the moment i gave up beocs nothing appeared to be happening, i got a text, but when i answered he was worse than ever!!! The thing is tho i feel like i found PW for a reason and if i give up and nothing useful happens in the end whats the point? so in a way deep down i kinda feel like i have to give it another shot, even if its just for fun/to test my own abilities (the guy has been taken off in the pedestal in my mind now so its not a loss if i dont get him anymore, not consciously anyway) cos it cant all be for nothing. Universe doesnt work that way. Your story was SUPER inspiring and uplifting for me cos i can identify the feelings u experienced and the frustration and hopelessness etc. and now that youve come here and posted that youve seen mASSIve success is wonderful. I suppose its good in a way that he didnt come back to you when you NEEDED him, becos it forced you to move on and rescue yourself and now hes coming back to you in a position where it seems like HE needs YOU rather than the other way round!!! Go girl!!! well done!!!! and thank you so much for posting your story!! YOur hleping so many others in the same boat that you dont evem know about!!!
Hey babe!! omg so did he want to get back with you!? Would you say it was from the technique?? I am having urges to do the technique but more as an experiment and to get justice for myself if that makes sense! I want someone better long term tho. I guess tbh I just want to see that it works and have confidence in my own magic. Did you feel good when he said he wanted to get back together? That´s so funny to me and i hate to sound like unspiritual but i think it serves him right after i read your sad posts in the beginning of the thread. I´m glad you got your justice and your inner peace at the end and saw you deserve much better and now your heart is free to attract somebody who is truly worth of you!!!!!!!! x Isn´t it funny how things turn out!!! I bet you never thought a year ago that the tables will have turned in such a way!!!
2/11/2019 8:15 am
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2/10/2019 8:58 pm
I am so happy it was uplifting for you and others!! I really had to learn to let go and learn that I don't need him to be happy. And as soon as I learned to let go I found someone else and he ended up coming back. It took a LONG time but it works... I met him this weekend and I honestly did not feel the urge to get back with him. I no longer see him as my partner in life, as much as I can have him back!
My only advice is love yourself whole heartedly first and realize your true worth. And when you do, you might not even want him anymore! I am really happy for you and wish you the best!! and come back with an update!!!
It's been over a year since i've written and about 3+ years since the breakup! I came back to let everyone know that my ex that I wrote about has cut if off with his newly fiancé and he sent me a message that he wants to meet up this weekend. I am confident he wants to get back. It took a very long!! I still have a spot for him in my heart but I don't think he is exactly what I want at this point in my life and not sure I would go back... I also broke it off with the last guy I dated. I am going to see him this weekend just to see how I feel.
I figured I'd give an update!!omg youre srory is so uplfiting. I was doing PW twice a day on somebody for months and i gave up on him and 2 hours after i gave up i got a "are you in town" text. but then when i answered i was ignored again. I got sick of it and i let go of him AGAIN and 2 days later "are you here??" this happens a lot with this guy. I played it cool this time, well nt playing, i genuinely was turned off by his wishy washy behaviour and teres been no contact but i dont care so much anymore. 2 days ago i was hit out of nowhere with these intense missing him feelings so the next day i did PW for the the first time in months. last night i had a dream that he texted me "im thinking about you a lot and i miss you. im so grateful for everything about you". it was a nice dream. i was put off by PW for the exact same reason as you . i was doing it intensely for months and the moment i gave up beocs nothing appeared to be happening, i got a text, but when i answered he was worse than ever!!! The thing is tho i feel like i found PW for a reason and if i give up and nothing useful happens in the end whats the point? so in a way deep down i kinda feel like i have to give it another shot, even if its just for fun/to test my own abilities (the guy has been taken off in the pedestal in my mind now so its not a loss if i dont get him anymore, not consciously anyway) cos it cant all be for nothing. Universe doesnt work that way. Your story was SUPER inspiring and uplifting for me cos i can identify the feelings u experienced and the frustration and hopelessness etc. and now that youve come here and posted that youve seen mASSIve success is wonderful. I suppose its good in a way that he didnt come back to you when you NEEDED him, becos it forced you to move on and rescue yourself and now hes coming back to you in a position where it seems like HE needs YOU rather than the other way round!!! Go girl!!! well done!!!! and thank you so much for posting your story!! YOur hleping so many others in the same boat that you dont evem know about!!!
2/10/2019 5:17 am
sdv
2/07/2019 7:47 am
Yesssss show no mercy 
2/06/2019 10:45 pm
You bet... I'll do it before I go to bed..I feel when he starts to resist.. So I'll man back for a day and then start again...lol
2/06/2019 10:38 pm
Cool .. It's been almost two yrs for me and I did the rubbing out technique.. With my ex and his gf... He is single again... So I'm trying the PW again to draw him to me.... While I'm not attached like I use to be ...I still have feelings for him. And I definably know that he's coming back to me...I believe he will.
Love it!! you got this
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