donna89 wrote:

Thank you for replying your like my agony aunt on here - much appreciated . I will re read the book and try and absorb it . i think because of my stupid ocd i doubt it and think im doing it wrong but everything you mentioned is exactly how i do it. i just imagine him saying what i like to hear, i dont tell him and then have him repeat it - just wanted to make sure i dont need to literally plant it in his head. i just need to understand and believe that everything i want him to say he will register in his mind as his own thoughts . hope this works will try again from scratch 
  

  
  
Awww!  I like being your agony aunt
  
  

 

donna89 wrote:

hey guys ive been using the pw and bwd technique for a while now no results yet... but i jsut wanted to clarify somethin that is probably making me not get the whole thing. ive bought lanies books and use them but this may seem a sily question but am i supposed to visualize them saying what i want eg - i love you etc or am i supposed to have them in front of me and i say You love me and it goes to them and they dont say it . i think this is where im goin wrong not knowin and if i want to use this technique on say a friend of his who doesnt want him to contact me what would i do or say. thanks guys ! 
and also if these thoughts i have are supposed to translate to their own idea isnt it better to just tell them - U will call donna etc if that makes sense. 
basically to cut a long story short do i see them sayin it to me or im sayin it to them about me in the visaulisation. 
thanks
  
 

  
  
In the meditative state during your visualization you would envision your target saying
to you "I love you, I need you, I can't live without you" or whatever.  Keep it simple and
don't have him recite the Encyclopedia Britannica.  After that, Lanie says that you are
supposed to say something back to him which I personally don't ever do but it works for
me the way I'm doing it so I don't worry about it.  Please re-read chapter 6 of PW it's all
in there.  When I first started doing PW I made a short to-do of how to do the meditation
and using that list made things so much easier for me until I got the hang of it.  I also
have a very long list of all the things I want my target to say to me, and from that list
I choose two-three things that I want him to say during that session and I repeat those
same phrases for several sessions and then I move on to the next set of things I want
him to say.  Donna - It really helps if you believe it works.  Okay.