sag97 wrote:

Hey guys!
It's been so long since I wrote something here! There is this one new guy (well not actually new, he's been one of my best friends for a long time) that I'm in a relationship with. In the begining, he was crazy about me, he would want to be with ALL THE TIME, because he's been in love with me for a long time but I was crazy about that other, H, guy. Then when I told him that I liked him too and we could be in a relationship, he kind of stopped trying to be a good man for me. He now just wants me in bed, I sleep at his place, everything is lovely, he keeps kissing me all night and telling me how happy he is that I'm here, but then when the morning comes he becomes distant, as if we're just friends again... I know he is that kind of guy who doesn't like showing emotions, and you will never hear him say he loves you, he'd never buy you flowers etc. I know how he is, so I try to give him as much space as he wants, he is going out with friends (even girls) whenever he wants (I can't do it, whenever I go out he's like, can you come back already please I miss you)... He almost never texts me now (before he would text me sooo much). On Valentines day he was out with one of his girl co workers, I of course got mad, but then he texted me so much nice stuff, he was like, you're my only one, I haven't loved anyone as much as I love you (and this is the ONLY time when he said something that nice for me (Oh yeah once after sex he told me he loved me haha but we all know why he said that))...
I understand that right now he is in control, but I'm doing everything to change that and nothing's working.. I love him, but I know that I could have so much more, and this to me doesn't even feel like a real relationship... I don't know what to do guys, could you pleaseee help?  
  

  
  
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Someone you're in a relationship with goes out with other women? You're adapting yourself for him and giving space and he's just continuing to be nonchalant?
Have you tried having an up-front discussion with him about the things he does that you don't like? If you have, and he isn't considering your feelings, or even trying to change, is he worth it?

I could be reading too much into this, & making it seem worse than it is (if that's the case sorry about that) but this seems so disrespectful.

I suppose you could use the technique and try to have him become more expressive, loving, & stop seeing others? I'd like to know what everyone else thinks as well.