It sounds like you and your POI need to start over after everything that's happened. Maybe you can acknowledge, through PW, that you've both been through hell lately and you should start over. I think it's okay to mention this stuff on PW, because it's part of how you move forward.

I wouldn't get too hung up on the fact that he didn't take you on actual dates, I'd start more with rebuilding the main relationship itself first.

My POI finally texted me today after I posted on FB about my attack and asked if I was ok and admitted he's been shut down after finding out about his mentor's death. I think I even used those words in a PW and how he was trying to break out of it. Do you guys think it's a good idea to use the experiences both me and my POI have gone through in PW to help motivate him to seize the day (sorta speak) with us, given that he just lost someone close to him and I got attacked and hit in my head, which could've been much more serious? I think my POI;s biggest issue is he has a fear of commitment as well as trouble dealing with some of his emotions (and therefore blocks them).

Have you tried meditation and chakra aligning? You can really just find some things off of youtube or google pretty easily. I find that has helped me when I've come into a negative little spin.
It's surprising how much it can help just by meditating and aligning yourself even just 20 minutes a day.
It seems like things tend to act as domino effects- if it's good or bad.
You just gotta find that switch to flip it around.
wishing you all the best!!
(note: you might want to google vortex Abraham hicks. it has helped me. I hope this is alright to post- it's easily found with just a little google search)

jellyb thanks so much. I haven't tried Must Sparks. Can you send me links to that and any subliminals you've liked?

I don't mean to contribute to negativity, especially since I feel PW has really helped my situations in some ways over the last few months I've been doing it. BUT my situation has kind of gone to shit the last few days for a few different reasons and even bigger than that, I feel like somehow I'm attracting very negative things into my life. If you saw my last post I mentioned that my POI (who lives across the country from me) is in my city right now. Although we did see each other a couple of times while he was here the last time we saw each other on Thurs things really ended the opposite of how I wanted them to.

On top of that we both have had really negative happens to us the last 24 hours. While he's been here he found out a mentor of his and someone he's been close with for years had his cancer come back and I just found he ended up dying yesterday.  On my end last night I was meeting friends at a bar and while I was waiting for them I went to a block away to sit at a bus stop and put some powder on my face and this terrible person snuck up from behind me and hit me over the head with a beer bottle. I literally can't make this shit up. A bunch of people came to help me and the paramedics came and were shocked I wasn't bleeding. They said to monitor if I have any symptoms but most likely I should be ok. This is the second time in 4 months I've been assaulted while living in LA (I moved here last June and in Dec a man tried to attack me as well).

So besides wondering how I can help with my POI and what he's going through and how I think I've become a source of pressure to him during this difficult time...and now he's just not dealing with me. I'm also wondering if I'm somehow attracting these predators into my life and in general negative people or experiences. A part of me has been missing my hometown (which is NY) the entire time I've been here, partially because my POI is there and partially because it's been my home my entire life. I'm not sure if that's part of why I'm attracting these negative incidents in my life in a way that I've really never experienced before, but I really want to change it NOW. Does anyone have any advice on how I can start attracting more positive things and people into my life? I've also had some good things happen while I'm here of course and have met some great people, it's just hard not to notice these negative things and see an awful trend. Also of course any advice on ways to help my situation with POI would be great too.