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4/03/2017 12:24 pm
No, you totally make sense! That's what I've been trying to do. Going out with him I try to act a little more confident. I know he enjoys hanging out with me and spending time with me or else why would he be spending this much time with me?
I know we have great sexual chemistry and we are both still very, very attracted to each other. The feelings part on his end just isn't there yet but I don't doubt that it will change. I know it will. We were together for 6 years (5 officially) so I find it hard to think that literally overnight he was just like eh i'm just not in love with you anymore.
HE'S the one that came back contacting me after we officially broke up and after 10 days of no contact on my end. And he's so far been the one initiating the texts for the last almost two months and we've both been inititating the hangouts and such. I don't know. I feel like things are going too well for it to just be a simple "We're just friends" situation. But that's just me.
4/03/2017 12:19 pm
kdra26 wrote:
Yes, I'm trying to be confident around him. I think also because i'm more easy going around him now and not so tense and TOO worried like "oh gosh whats gonna happen?!" I think that's also why he's warming up a bit more.
I don't know. I don't necessarily believe him when he says he's still not feeling anything. Because like I said, he's showing it more.
I think it can go either way, based on you. As I said, your confidence. If you step out with him knowing that you're amazing, you're fun to be with, you have great romantic chemistry etc then yeah he can be saying anything he wants to say but you have all that you need to whoo him. We all can get sex from anywhere but knowing and believing that you have more to offer than that is what I think will turn the situation in the direction you want it to go.
There are people that have types, but can end up with someone that isn't their type because the person blows them away. People can be hell bent on stopping by someone's house to pick up something and immediately leave but end up staying for a few hours because they enjoy the person. LOL I hope i'm not confusing. LOL
4/03/2017 11:03 am
Yes, I'm trying to be confident around him. I think also because i'm more easy going around him now and not so tense and TOO worried like "oh gosh whats gonna happen?!" I think that's also why he's warming up a bit more.
I don't know. I don't necessarily believe him when he says he's still not feeling anything. Because like I said, he's showing it more.
I follow another coaches teaching while I do these practices too. She talks a lot about leaning back and letting the man lead. It's been helpful to me as well.
4/03/2017 10:55 am
Yes, I'm trying to be confident around him. I think also because i'm more easy going around him now and not so tense and TOO worried like "oh gosh whats gonna happen?!" I think that's also why he's warming up a bit more.
I don't know. I don't necessarily believe him when he says he's still not feeling anything. Because like I said, he's showing it more.
4/03/2017 10:32 am
I've always felt like confidence can change any situation.
4/03/2017 10:30 am
I know! It is all going back to normal between us which is why I'm so confused!! His words say one thing but his actions show something else, you know?
4/03/2017 10:02 am
I really don't want to date other people AND I don't want to settle.
I told him I'm okay with doing what we're doing right now but this can't be forever. And to be completely honest, I can definitely feel like things are changing romantically. Things have become so normal between us (obviously minus most of the typical relationship bits like I love yous and random kisses, hand holding etc.) but he's been warming up to me, getting a bit flirt, and just how he used to be when we were together. And he wasn't like that after we originally broke up back November. We were still hanging out after but he was definitely colder then.
i spent 4 days at his house a few weeks ago cause he wanted me to come and take care of him while sick. While he was sleeping, he would turn over and cuddle with me and then hold my hand and be very sweet but of course would deny t when I told him about it. I honestly think he's just really hiding his true feelings.
His mom and sister while we were at his house were both like "are you guys sure you're not back together because it sure seems like it" lol
Haha that's sweet...it's great that he is opening up, gives me a little faith 
..may your situation turn out the way you want!
4/03/2017 8:30 am
I really don't want to date other people AND I don't want to settle.
I told him I'm okay with doing what we're doing right now but this can't be forever. And to be completely honest, I can definitely feel like things are changing romantically. Things have become so normal between us (obviously minus most of the typical relationship bits like I love yous and random kisses, hand holding etc.) but he's been warming up to me, getting a bit flirt, and just how he used to be when we were together. And he wasn't like that after we originally broke up back November. We were still hanging out after but he was definitely colder then.
i spent 4 days at his house a few weeks ago cause he wanted me to come and take care of him while sick. While he was sleeping, he would turn over and cuddle with me and then hold my hand and be very sweet but of course would deny t when I told him about it. I honestly think he's just really hiding his true feelings.
His mom and sister while we were at his house were both like "are you guys sure you're not back together because it sure seems like it" lol
4/03/2017 4:11 am
So I've posted my story here before. My ex and I have been hanging out a lot and sleeping together. He asked me today if he feels I'm taking advantage of me by sleeping with me and if I'm okay with what we're doing. I told him right now yes I'm okay with it but can't be a friend with benefits forever. And I asked him if there's any other meaning to us being intimate. He told me he spends time with me and sleeps with me because he still really likes me, cares for me, thinks I'm sexy and attractive but the feelings haven't changed since the last time we have talked about this (he officially ended it with me back in February and he told me that he just wasn't IN love with me anymore and when I asked if there's a chance that could change he flat out said no) but he doesn't plan on being with anyone else and just wants to focus on himself.
So of course all of this bummed me out and has gotten me very emotional. But after all of that he was throwing out the compliments. "You looked so nice last night" "you looked really pretty today" "every time I see you I still get so turned on" (lol at least I've still got it?
Gah this was more of a vent. I'm trying to stay positive and I'm going to continue PW. Does anybody have any words of wisdom? Or just send me some good vibes over here lol
I can relate to you a bit and would just like to say that since you want more out of it, you shouldnt settle..Carry on PW and see if he can turn around and be with you exclusively. Or else you might end up hurting a lot..Atleast I did
4/03/2017 2:24 am
Date others. Go do your thing and go after what you want and don't settle. Continue to PW but do your thing. If he changes his mind he will let you know, but if you want a relationship, keep dating others and be open to others. Take him at his word as sucky as it might feel. ❤
4/02/2017 10:04 pm
So I've posted my story here before. My ex and I have been hanging out a lot and sleeping together. He asked me today if he feels I'm taking advantage of me by sleeping with me and if I'm okay with what we're doing. I told him right now yes I'm okay with it but can't be a friend with benefits forever. And I asked him if there's any other meaning to us being intimate. He told me he spends time with me and sleeps with me because he still really likes me, cares for me, thinks I'm sexy and attractive but the feelings haven't changed since the last time we have talked about this (he officially ended it with me back in February and he told me that he just wasn't IN love with me anymore and when I asked if there's a chance that could change he flat out said no) but he doesn't plan on being with anyone else and just wants to focus on himself.
So of course all of this bummed me out and has gotten me very emotional. But after all of that he was throwing out the compliments. "You looked so nice last night" "you looked really pretty today" "every time I see you I still get so turned on" (lol at least I've still got it?
Gah this was more of a vent. I'm trying to stay positive and I'm going to continue PW. Does anybody have any words of wisdom? Or just send me some good vibes over here lol
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