Avaelle wrote:

When I was growing up, I had 3 friends of mine that I spoke to every single day.  Now,  I only speak to one of them daily.  For one of them, weeks and even months can pass before we speak again.  The other,  we talk maybe weekly and mostly about celebs.  As we grow, our interests and hobbies change and with that - the environment of our relationships can change. It's not really anything to be sad about,  you can still talk to them and live out life with them by partaking on your new interests together. I shared this because I wanted you to see that you're not alone.

You're in college now!  Awesome!! Please don't feel bad.  You can still hang out with him!  Yes, he makes other friends that you may not mesh with but you and him can still do things together!  Who knows,  you may even like his other friends.

From the sounds of it, PW is working beautifully. Realize that PW creates a connection between you. So while you're checking to see if he's online,  if he read your message and how long it took him to reply - he can subconsciously feel that.  It is not a good way to be because no one wants to be obsessed over.  He liked your post, yes he remembers - now please leave it there.  Don't let your assumptions get the best of you.  Continue to PW and focus on what a great friendship you have with him.  


 

Awesome advice. I will continue to PW him and just imagine him to be more 'social' - but I won't get my high hopes for any miracles (this will prevent any obsession i hope.)

Thank you!

*Bumping this because I am still struggling in this regard!

So, I used to have this best mate in my primary school (for you in the US, i believe it is known as Elementary school but don't count me on that!), we used to hang out all the time in and out of school. Then when we left primary school to go into high school, we went our separate ways and hardly ever saw each other.

Now I am in college, and he is now in the same college as me. We walk home a similar way so we get to talk then yet when we see each other in college, we hardly speak due to our very distant friend groups. But I have now began feeling things for this guy that I never felt before and I have really started to like him. 

We have two years in college and the first year is almost over. I really desire to just be with him more - like we used to be. I hope PW can help with that. 

Anyway, I am starting to use PW and he waited for me after college on Friday (something he never does). He didn't make it explicitly clear that he waited for me, but he was stood outside alone and when I walked past, he began walking with me. He said that his family have gone on holiday for a week now and that he is left alone at home. I am hoping he will invite me over at some point in the week. 

So when I use PW, i visualize him asking me to come over and hang out. yet now I find myself in almost an obsessive manner - i will keep checking my FB messages, and he is on my mind almost all the time. I even sent him a picture (meme) of something we have in common (a game we used to play years ago). He replied, HOURS after I sent it with literally the word "Wow" and a crying emoji 3 times. I replied saying do you remember XXXXX and i am yet to get a response. I see he is active on FB at certain points during the day, yet he doesn't read my message. Now I am not sure how the active FB thing works but I have heard/read it can be well off the mark in accuracy. But it just makes me feel like he is talking to other people and intentionally ignoring me - his best friend from childhood (tbh his only real friend as he was late in joining school and people treated him like an alien xD). But now 5 years later on, he treats me like I am an acquaintance and it sort of hurts me just to think the massive friendship we have has just vanished. I want it back...

Anyway, clearly I am super attached to this desire and need some advice in how to stop this attachment and let go!  

Thank you for reading!