Well, after a few months of using Lanie's technique on a guy (not an ex, someone I don't see) we have spoken on the phone and arranged to meet.

Today I remembered that a good few years ago he wrote a comedy series. I hadn't seen it, but today I just googled it. Don't know why. I then found out it is being repeated -  starting today. I really couldn't believe it. 

I'm just going to have to give it a go, aren't I?? !!