Hi Sisters! 

I am new to manifesting and have been doing this for about a week. I have to say it has been a beautiful week and I am so happy I found PW on a spirituality forum. 

I am currently living with a partner I am pretty sure I manifested into my life. At the time I met my current partner, I was broken up my ex. I was so mad that the love of my life did not want commitment and did not want to create a life with me in a new state he had moved to. I really saw myself travelling and building a home with my ex but he said he wasn't ready at that time. So I said that would be the last time I try with him and I started to take care of myself and travel with friends. I met my current partner online and immediately we talked all day everyday his energy was so powerful and endearing, I invited him on a random trip to New Orleans on a whim. Before I even saw him I said to myself that he would be the man I married (jokingly because I was so over my ex) but I admit I also wanted him because he lived in a state that was closer to my ex. In my head, I wanted to prove my ex wrong and show him that I can move and build a new life and travel the world without him. 

Despite some obstacles and with a little help from my this new guy I moved and started a new job. I continued to see this new man because I felt a little owed to him for helping me and he wanted to help so I didn't say no. He offered me to move in to save money so that we can travel more and I agreed (funny at the same time my ex was getting serious with a new woman too). This new relationship had all the commitment and communication I wanted with my ex but it did not have any of fire, passion, and love I felt for my ex.. our conversations always felt like business transactions. We travelled a lot together but each trip was a mess. His bad temper would erupt on each trip and I would think about my ex.

I started to realize I was fooling myself and I didn't have real love for this new man. I kept going because I thought I couldn't have a perfect man that has the emotional and physical attributes I want. This man has never been Brad Pitt, but every day he gets more and more unattractive and I really don't want to give him more of my intimacy and energy. All of this tension has really caused me a lot of pain. I felt helpless because I had manipulated my way here to be miserable and alone. I want to stand up to him but I can't bear a confrontation, I don't want to attract more negative energy. He is also going through a rough personal time, he quit his job to be an entrepreneur and it isn't going too well for him... hes also on depression medication which does not make him a joy to be around. 

With the start of this new year I have started to invest in myself again (this time spiritually). I recently received a great raise at my job so now I can actually see myself being independent but I still fear the loneliness.

Feeling stuck and confused for so long, I recently spoke to a psychic who told me the reason my ex and I broke up was due to fear and insecurity from his side.. he couldn't handle our connection and did not know how to treat me correctly. This made me so happy because I always felt it but I needed confirmation. She asked me to send him love to recover that energy we felt in the beginning. So after I found PW I thought even better.... 

Now FINALLY my question is this... which would come first?  I after sending a few messages to my ex he has shown small signs of life but I have a hard time manifesting in the home I share with my current partner. I feel like my current partner may be clinging harder now that he sees my actively trying to be happy and not sulking at home. Should I try to get him to leave for his own or ask for strength to confront him? And should I hold off on working on my ex until this man is completely out of my life?  I do not want to attract more negativity to myself. I want to protect my energy because after two years of depression I finally feel strong again and like my true self. 

Thanks soo much!