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    2/08/2018 9:07 pm

    No, of course it isn't hopeless.  Nothing is ever hopeless and that has been proven to me thousands of times by readers as well as myself.  I was just pointing out not to ignore the fact that he is saying he doesn't want a relationship.  It could be that he doesn't want one right now for a variety of reasons, too.  Just use the technique, let it work its' magic, and make yourself happy independent of him.  When you do he will find you more attractive and desirable and you will feel much happier and content.  :-)

     

    1/27/2018 2:08 pm

    Lanie Stevens wrote:

    Loveunicorn wrote:

    Lanie Stevens wrote:

    Are you in a sexual relationship with him or just platonic roommate situation?

    We used to be in a sexual relationship but when I told him I liked him I also decided to stop the sexual stuff because I knew I wouldn;t be able to take it

     
    That would be difficult to care so much about a person AND have them living with you.  You can't go back and change the situation but it is the reason you need to make sure that you're on the same wavelength as far as relationships are concerned before you get into the physical connection.  Had you dated and discussed it you would hopefully have backed out before getting so emotionally attached.  

    You can use the PW technique on him but when someone says they don't want a relationship, although you would be the perfect person for them, they are either saying:  1)  They really don't want to be a relationship with anyone; or 2) They don't see themselves with you regardless of how great you are.  Either way, I would focus my attention elsewhere.  When you do he may realize that it's possible for him to lose you and he may change his mind about how he feels about you.  

    The better you feel about yourself, the more independent you are, the more confident and secure the more attractive you are to ALL men...including your POI.

      
    Yeah it isn't easy...I will focus my attention more on myself and doing well at university but surely my case isn't hopeless right?

     

    1/27/2018 1:20 pm

    Loveunicorn wrote:

    Lanie Stevens wrote:

    Are you in a sexual relationship with him or just platonic roommate situation?

    We used to be in a sexual relationship but when I told him I liked him I also decided to stop the sexual stuff because I knew I wouldn;t be able to take it

     
    That would be difficult to care so much about a person AND have them living with you.  You can't go back and change the situation but it is the reason you need to make sure that you're on the same wavelength as far as relationships are concerned before you get into the physical connection.  Had you dated and discussed it you would hopefully have backed out before getting so emotionally attached.  

    You can use the PW technique on him but when someone says they don't want a relationship, although you would be the perfect person for them, they are either saying:  1)  They really don't want to be a relationship with anyone; or 2) They don't see themselves with you regardless of how great you are.  Either way, I would focus my attention elsewhere.  When you do he may realize that it's possible for him to lose you and he may change his mind about how he feels about you.  

    The better you feel about yourself, the more independent you are, the more confident and secure the more attractive you are to ALL men...including your POI.

    1/26/2018 3:08 am

    Lanie Stevens wrote:

    Are you in a sexual relationship with him or just platonic roommate situation?

    We used to be in a sexual relationship but when I told him I liked him I also decided to stop the sexual stuff because I knew I wouldn;t be able to take it

    1/25/2018 8:42 pm

    Are you in a sexual relationship with him or just platonic roommate situation?

    1/22/2018 3:09 pm

    Avaelle wrote:

    Loveunicorn wrote:

    No...there's no way he is gay and I do my own stuff like we go to different unis I meet u with my own friends, I go gym and yoga and he goes jiu jitsu so we are not always together, but we cook together we have dinner together and we watch tv series together!

    I'll keeo doing PW I mean it's only been a month and we are getting closer in a way...also we have these deep conversations although he has a dark past 

    I feel like it should separate more.  Maybe have dinner with someone else a couple of days or watch tv alone. Make him long for you!  Right now,  it is like your with him, but not with him. If that makes sense.

    Yeah I get what you mean, my friend is always telling me that it's like the two of us are dating but we aren't...maybe I'll go have dinner with my friend tomorrow. Because he does value me and he is grateful and all that for everything he is a great guy,,,but maybe if I'm not as available it will work


     

    1/22/2018 2:59 pm

    Loveunicorn wrote:

    No...there's no way he is gay and I do my own stuff like we go to different unis I meet u with my own friends, I go gym and yoga and he goes jiu jitsu so we are not always together, but we cook together we have dinner together and we watch tv series together!

    I'll keeo doing PW I mean it's only been a month and we are getting closer in a way...also we have these deep conversations although he has a dark past 

    I feel like it should separate more.  Maybe have dinner with someone else a couple of days or watch tv alone. Make him long for you!  Right now,  it is like your'e with him, but not with him. If that makes sense.

    1/22/2018 2:13 pm

    No...there's no way he is gay and I do my own stuff like we go to different unis I meet u with my own friends, I go gym and yoga and he goes jiu jitsu so we are not always together, but we cook together we have dinner together and we watch tv series together!

    I'll keeo doing PW I mean it's only been a month and we are getting closer in a way...also we have these deep conversations although he has a dark past 

    1/22/2018 12:12 pm

    I'd give him something to desire. Don't pour your insecurities out to him and try to have a separate life.

    1/22/2018 11:29 am

    Just keep doing the work and ignore what you see with your eyes. Live in the desired wish fulfilled. 

    1/22/2018 11:02 am

    could he be gay?

    1/22/2018 8:29 am

    Missy wrote:

    How long have you been doing pw?

    I've been doing it consistently for about a month

    1/22/2018 8:27 am

    How long have you been doing pw?

    1/22/2018 6:28 am

    Hello everyone!!! <3

    Soooo yesterday me and my POI were talking (because we live together and we are always together) and he told me he isn't ready for a relationship at the moment because he feels like he can't emotionally connect to people in that way. So since then I have been imagining us emotionally connecting and having a stronger bond than usual do you think this is the right thing to do?

    After I told him I get jealous because of my own insecurities he sent me a snapchat saying:
    'Dude it has nothing to do with you being enough, when xxx was asking me about my type, I couldn't say anything because you're literally wonderful and fit into every category! it's nothing to do with you or anyone else at all for that matter, no wonder woman is suddenly going to walk past and fix me because its a problem with me, i don't want to be with anyone, regardless of who they are, it's nothing to do with you'

    So what do you all think??

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