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2/12/2019 10:37 am
Sunshine&Dreams wrote:
Thank you for your input. What I need to do now is just focusing on myself, so to speak? I do love myself but sometimes I got to think why this thing happened to me. I mean we used to be so good, so sweet and somehow it turns bitter down the road. I asked for a clear and honest answer but yet I didn't get any. Some of them say stop asking if he loves you because that's needy. So what should I do?
They say we can manifest anything yet I feel so many resistance. How focusing on myself will actually change the scenario and he eventually comes back by himself?See, that's where that resistance comes in. I say this from dealing with it myself so I hold no judgment or anything. We can say we love ourselves, and maybe we do for one moment or one instance, but as I've noticed about myself, then I start going down that same resistance path. Which is me putting labels into actions of another, or thinking why did they do this, that, etc. Yet that is showing us where we need work. Take my one issue is not focusing my time better. So then my person doesn't prioritize me, and I see it as not being important to him. But it's because I am the one not focusing on me. That's me pushed out (where that idea comes in). Whatever he does to you, there is something in your life, which you're not doing for yourself, and where that self-love comes in. If they aren't prioritizing you then ask where you're not prioritizing yourself. If they are saying they're busy, then where are you not managing your time better? If they aren't focusing on you, where aren't you focusing on yourself? That's why we gotta work on ourselves.
Yes, focus on yourself, first. You even said it. You reached out, he said he was busy. You're still focused on him, so he's still focused on him, hence the resistance. That resistance you feel tells you that yes, working on yourself right now is what you should be doing. Don't take this advice if it doesn't feel right (always listen to your intuition inside most of all on how to do things), but I'd advise not reaching out and allowing him to come to you. Otherwise you're going to continue to get that resistance. NOT reaching out is the hardest thing to do, but it gets easier in time.
I also agree with Piper's thoughts.
Whoa I got to see this reply after half year, lol. I haven't been on this forum for so long. Thank you again for your inputs. Well, I have given up in manifesting that guy. Nothing happened despite techniques. Now I am focusing on manifesting my ex back (i called him my love). May this year will be the year of mine getting married with him.
6/22/2018 12:43 pm
Thank you for your input. What I need to do now is just focusing on myself, so to speak? I do love myself but sometimes I got to think why this thing happened to me. I mean we used to be so good, so sweet and somehow it turns bitter down the road. I asked for a clear and honest answer but yet I didn't get any. Some of them say stop asking if he loves you because that's needy. So what should I do?
They say we can manifest anything yet I feel so many resistance. How focusing on myself will actually change the scenario and he eventually comes back by himself?
See, that's where that resistance comes in. I say this from dealing with it myself so I hold no judgment or anything. We can say we love ourselves, and maybe we do for one moment or one instance, but as I've noticed about myself, then I start going down that same resistance path. Which is me putting labels into actions of another, or thinking why did they do this, that, etc. Yet that is showing us where we need work. Take my one issue is not focusing my time better. So then my person doesn't prioritize me, and I see it as not being important to him. But it's because I am the one not focusing on me. That's me pushed out (where that idea comes in). Whatever he does to you, there is something in your life, which you're not doing for yourself, and where that self-love comes in. If they aren't prioritizing you then ask where you're not prioritizing yourself. If they are saying they're busy, then where are you not managing your time better? If they aren't focusing on you, where aren't you focusing on yourself? That's why we gotta work on ourselves.
Yes, focus on yourself, first. You even said it. You reached out, he said he was busy. You're still focused on him, so he's still focused on him, hence the resistance. That resistance you feel tells you that yes, working on yourself right now is what you should be doing. Don't take this advice if it doesn't feel right (always listen to your intuition inside most of all on how to do things), but I'd advise not reaching out and allowing him to come to you. Otherwise you're going to continue to get that resistance. NOT reaching out is the hardest thing to do, but it gets easier in time.
I also agree with Piper's thoughts.
6/22/2018 8:30 am
People like to state their opinion and their limiting beliefs and that is why i never share any work i am doing with anyone who is not of the same mindset as me.
If it is a true desire, continue doing what you're doing. If, however, it is an ego baded want, you will tire of it and eventually give up. This is my experience and others i know.
My belief is there is no one outside if you - everything comes from within and we are the cause if everything in our lives, including the bad shit. If we went through a break up, it's our fault because of our beliefs we held about that person/situation. So, to get someone back you much first take responsibility that you caused it and then go within and do the work from there. Some like to focus on self love, and that's important, but you also need to change your perspective and beliefs about that person.
Just my 2 cents.Thank you Piper for taking the time to give your input.
Yes, I have learned my lesson that I won't simply share anything about my thing to anybody including my closest friends.
I do get tired honestly but certainly not coming from ego. This is my heartiest desire ever though he asked me if I'm still hoping on him and gone distant. I want to ask him so badly but I don't want to seem as clingy and needy and make things worse.
So what would be your suggestion then? Just put aside and solely focus on myself for the time being? And believe he comes back and he is indeed coming back?He is YOU, and you are him. Everything/everyone is just a projection of your inner self - it's an illusion. You cannot change anything on the outside until you first change you. Focus on changing your beliefs of him and don't think of him as being separate from you - he is you. Read LOTS of Neville and you will understand. I don't practice any techniques except Neville techniques and pw, since it is Nev based. You should work on self love if you think that's important. I also don't believe the "this or something better" stuff. A desire is a gift, and it must be so.
So from now onwards, I need to change my perception about him and work strongly on myself first? Today i reached out for him after 2 days, he replied he was so busy and yada yada yada (well he used to spend some time thou he was so damn bz back then).
Yes i do read Neville's too. But too many of it, hardly grasp. Me either. i dont believe on someone better cuz since we are conscious creator, we can manifest something better in that person.
6/21/2018 9:59 pm
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊People like to state their opinion and their limiting beliefs and that is why i never share any work i am doing with anyone who is not of the same mindset as me.
If it is a true desire, continue doing what you're doing. If, however, it is an ego baded want, you will tire of it and eventually give up. This is my experience and others i know.
My belief is there is no one outside if you - everything comes from within and we are the cause if everything in our lives, including the bad shit. If we went through a break up, it's our fault because of our beliefs we held about that person/situation. So, to get someone back you much first take responsibility that you caused it and then go within and do the work from there. Some like to focus on self love, and that's important, but you also need to change your perspective and beliefs about that person.
Just my 2 cents.Thank you Piper for taking the time to give your input.
Yes, I have learned my lesson that I won't simply share anything about my thing to anybody including my closest friends.
I do get tired honestly but certainly not coming from ego. This is my heartiest desire ever though he asked me if I'm still hoping on him and gone distant. I want to ask him so badly but I don't want to seem as clingy and needy and make things worse.
So what would be your suggestion then? Just put aside and solely focus on myself for the time being? And believe he comes back and he is indeed coming back?
He is YOU, and you are him. Everything/everyone is just a projection of your inner self - it's an illusion. You cannot change anything on the outside until you first change you. Focus on changing your beliefs of him and don't think of him as being separate from you - he is you. Read LOTS of Neville and you will understand. I don't practice any techniques except Neville techniques and pw, since it is Nev based. You should work on self love if you think that's important. I also don't believe the "this or something better" stuff. A desire is a gift, and it must be so.
6/21/2018 9:00 pm
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊People like to state their opinion and their limiting beliefs and that is why i never share any work i am doing with anyone who is not of the same mindset as me.
If it is a true desire, continue doing what you're doing. If, however, it is an ego baded want, you will tire of it and eventually give up. This is my experience and others i know.
My belief is there is no one outside if you - everything comes from within and we are the cause if everything in our lives, including the bad shit. If we went through a break up, it's our fault because of our beliefs we held about that person/situation. So, to get someone back you much first take responsibility that you caused it and then go within and do the work from there. Some like to focus on self love, and that's important, but you also need to change your perspective and beliefs about that person.
Just my 2 cents.
Thank you Piper for taking the time to give your input.
Yes, I have learned my lesson that I won't simply share anything about my thing to anybody including my closest friends.
I do get tired honestly but certainly not coming from ego. This is my heartiest desire ever though he asked me if I'm still hoping on him and gone distant. I want to ask him so badly but I don't want to seem as clingy and needy and make things worse. 
So what would be your suggestion then? Just put aside and solely focus on myself for the time being? And believe he comes back and he is indeed coming back?
6/21/2018 7:58 pm
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊
People like to state their opinion and their limiting beliefs and that is why i never share any work i am doing with anyone who is not of the same mindset as me.
If it is a true desire, continue doing what you're doing. If, however, it is an ego baded want, you will tire of it and eventually give up. This is my experience and others i know.
My belief is there is no one outside if you - everything comes from within and we are the cause if everything in our lives, including the bad shit. If we went through a break up, it's our fault because of our beliefs we held about that person/situation. So, to get someone back you much first take responsibility that you caused it and then go within and do the work from there. Some like to focus on self love, and that's important, but you also need to change your perspective and beliefs about that person.
Just my 2 cents.
6/21/2018 7:36 pm
The self-love aspects force us to focus on us more than them. It reminds us of what's important, helps us to be in a better place. That projects outward to those who've connected with us, who're close to us, and who we're mentally connecting to. Then mentally they start thinking in a way, "I should treat her better." Or thinking of us differently (more positively). It's almost like we don't care about getting them back (we do, but the stress and fear of not having them lets up) so when they feel that lightness, they drift back like we're the lighthouse in the storm. The main goal is that when we focus on ourselves and project that love and happiness to the world, everyone is guided to that light (us).
When we focus on us, they focus on us. When we focus on them, they focus on them. Just like giving too much to family, friends, etc. Who are we focused on? Them. Who are they focused on? Themselves. I changed my relationship with a highly abusive mother (emotionally especially) simply by changing the way it affected me and loved myself more, but didn't focus much on her and the outbursts. Is she 100% better? No, and I think it's partly me too still having work to do. But she has never treated anyone in an about-face like she has me. DRASTIC improvement. All that changed was my own self-love, focus, and when she cuts me down, telling her to stop taking her anger out on me. I speak my truth. Exact same methods we do to manifest money, our SP, etc.When we change us, the world changes how it treats us as does the people in our world.
Thank you for your input. What I need to do now is just focusing on myself, so to speak? I do love myself but sometimes I got to think why this thing happened to me. I mean we used to be so good, so sweet and somehow it turns bitter down the road. I asked for a clear and honest answer but yet I didn't get any. Some of them say stop asking if he loves you because that's needy. So what should I do?
They say we can manifest anything yet I feel so many resistance. How focusing on myself will actually change the scenario and he eventually comes back by himself?
6/21/2018 12:39 pm
The self-love aspects force us to focus on us more than them. It reminds us of what's important, helps us to be in a better place. That projects outward to those who've connected with us, who're close to us, and who we're mentally connecting to. Then mentally they start thinking in a way, "I should treat her better." Or thinking of us differently (more positively). It's almost like we don't care about getting them back (we do, but the stress and fear of not having them lets up) so when they feel that lightness, they drift back like we're the lighthouse in the storm. The main goal is that when we focus on ourselves and project that love and happiness to the world, everyone is guided to that light (us).
When we focus on us, they focus on us. When we focus on them, they focus on them. Just like giving too much to family, friends, etc. Who are we focused on? Them. Who are they focused on? Themselves. I changed my relationship with a highly abusive mother (emotionally especially) simply by changing the way it affected me and loved myself more, but didn't focus much on her and the outbursts. Is she 100% better? No, and I think it's partly me too still having work to do. But she has never treated anyone in an about-face like she has me. DRASTIC improvement. All that changed was my own self-love, focus, and when she cuts me down, telling her to stop taking her anger out on me. I speak my truth. Exact same methods we do to manifest money, our SP, etc. When we change us, the world changes how it treats us as does the people in our world.
6/21/2018 10:28 am
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊I honestly don't think you should listen too much to what others are saying about moving on. You know what's best for you. I would however, suggest that you detach and let it come to you. Don't wait 17 years like my aunt to finally be okay without him. Be okay with yoursef as soon as you can and once you're happy with you, everything else will be easy.
There are a lot of self love meditations on Youtube that I enjoy using and they really help me to feel better. You should look up Agnes Vivarelli and Brad Yates if you aren't already familiar with their work. I heard a success story on Agnes' Youtube channel yesterday where a girl got her ex back and said that once she started loving herself, she could project that love onto her ex and he came back right away. So it all starts with you. No one can love you if you don't love and appreciate yourself. Let that be the first thing you focus on. It has helped me tremendously!
Honestly, I dont want to give up as I feel it's worth it. But current reality hinders me so much. We aren't ex but we are certainly distant now. I thought i have detached myself fully but sometimes doubt creeps in. I even using rubbing technique but it seems that he and the third party turns better. 😖😖 Maybe I should stop doing it?
Yes I have been watching couples of Agnes's vids and even did some of the meditations. But I stopped when I felt so worn out. And somehow I wonder how does self love helps us manifesting love like he suddenly came back or when we start care less, they crawling back hard. So did you manifest him back 100%? 😀
So i should just let it be right now?
6/21/2018 6:28 am
I loved reading this story and it meant such a lot to me today, thank you for sharing it.
I’ve been trying to manifest my SP back I was seeing little positive steps, then there’s been family problems with my parents, which is now leading to them separting, I’m truly heartbroken by it, so it’s had a knock on effect on my work for manifesting my SP. They separated over 25years ago for 2years then got back together but then it was in much worse circumstances so I guess I’m a little angry with them for giving in this time. I’ve been so emotionally drained by it all everything in my life’s been suffering, not sleeping then I’m too tired to do my PW BWD, then I feel anxious for not doing them. I know with LOA we have to detach from the outcome for our own manifestations but I think the biggest thing I need to do is learn to detach myself from everyone else’s problems because I’m there for everyone’s problems but then I can’t shut off from their emotions. I’m truly hoping that like your Aunt and Uncle after some time apart my parents realise they still love each other, my Dad is angry with my Mum because of debt she keeps getting herself into, so I pray once the anger goes he realises he does still love my mum.
By trying to fix everyone else’s problem I’m putting more effort into theirs and not fixing my own. So today I’ve decided I will always love my parents and look after them no matter what, but for people to get the best from me I need to be selfish and put myself first because by putting myself first I can then give people the best of me.
My laptop broke with all Lanies meditations on it😭, I’m waiting for it to be repaired, so today I’ve started reading Lanies books again I’m only a few pages in and it’s amazing how inspired feel, I know what I need to do now, self love and PW this gorgeous human until he realises what he’s missing😁.
Thank you again for your Story and I hope your Aunt and Uncle have a loving and blessed life together ❤️❤️❤️
6/21/2018 5:18 am
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊
I honestly don't think you should listen too much to what others are saying about moving on. You know what's best for you. I would however, suggest that you detach and let it come to you. Don't wait 17 years like my aunt to finally be okay without him. Be okay with yoursef as soon as you can and once you're happy with you, everything else will be easy.
There are a lot of self love meditations on Youtube that I enjoy using and they really help me to feel better. You should look up Agnes Vivarelli and Brad Yates if you aren't already familiar with their work. I heard a success story on Agnes' Youtube channel yesterday where a girl got her ex back and said that once she started loving herself, she could project that love onto her ex and he came back right away. So it all starts with you. No one can love you if you don't love and appreciate yourself. Let that be the first thing you focus on. It has helped me tremendously!
6/17/2018 9:07 pm
Hi stardust
Your story gives me hope. Hopefully I'm able to manifest ij such a way. Me and my man arent in good terms now and many of them suggested me to move on. But I think we shouldnt give up that easily right? 😊
6/08/2018 5:42 pm
I have to agree with that. Also probably how much time each person spends on all their efforts, even being able to let go quicker and feel better will most likely change that time period too.
6/08/2018 3:53 pm
What a gorgeous story. Super inspiring. And personally I like hearing stories where people take more than a few weeks of time to get someone back. Not that we should try for 17 years (then again, if that's what someone wants, who am I to say otherwise), but it's nice to see longer stories. So many shared are the "A few weeks later," or "two months later," and realistically not many don't go that fast. So it's nice to read something like that. We can ALWAYS get them back. Even if they hate our guts, haha.
I think most people who do it in a few days or weeks probably just had an argument with their person so the circumstances are different. But then again, it's all possible. Lucky them! I have seen the most impossible things become possible and I know that we too can turn around something we think is impossible just by not seeing it as impossible.
6/08/2018 12:38 pm
What a gorgeous story. Super inspiring. And personally I like hearing stories where people take more than a few weeks of time to get someone back. Not that we should try for 17 years (then again, if that's what someone wants, who am I to say otherwise), but it's nice to see longer stories. So many shared are the "A few weeks later," or "two months later," and realistically not many don't go that fast. So it's nice to read something like that. We can ALWAYS get them back. Even if they hate our guts, haha.
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