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12/03/2016 9:45 am
good for you! 
12/03/2016 5:50 am
HH wrote:
Hi Em! I was reading your post and was wondering how you're progressing after forgiving and using the technique again!
Hi HH! I'm living in complete forgiveness now - to the point I don't even feel like I need to use the technique again. If I hear from him then I hear from him, if not then I'm still content and happy!
12/02/2016 10:49 pm
Hi Em! I was reading your post and was wondering how you're progressing after forgiving and using the technique again!
11/04/2016 6:14 am
Wow. I am going exaclty through the same thing. I am happy, I am moving on but I still keep thinking about him A LOT. I was convinced that I already had closure and forgive him/forget our past to focus on the future. But I am starting to realize it still hurts when I think about possible explanations why our relationship ended and why he "found" a new girl so fast.. I realized that I had to stop thinking about that part and focus on the good stuff/our perfect future together instead (just like woodyluv suggested with her abraham hicks post). Hope this helps for both of us
Lala you have to let go of that "except this particular manifestation" mindset. That in its self is you creating a road block for yourself. Don't you see it? That no matter what wirk yoi do if you keep that beliving in the above... then it will always be the thing that got away..
Simplely because you believed it to be an exception to the rule? So let that statement/feeling go so the thing can come. Remember it is no exception to loa. Because loa is not a rule that works for some. It is a universal law that is always working for all to the Tee of how you feel about things. That's why it never matters what's happen before or even what seems to be happening currently. Because we can change our feeling. Thus changing anything we like. The only road blocks that will ever stop us are the ones we make for ourselves...
Thank you you are right. I am thinking less about it during the day and genuinly enjoying life. Even the PW are not on regular basis now. Only when I feel like doing it.. Don't know if it's a coincedence but now I dreamt about my guy and his family six nights in a row.. I haven't had a dream about him since months.. So there is defenitely something shifting
11/03/2016 3:11 am
I guess I have just been left a little disappointed with this one. So many times I was living in pure faith and wholeheartedly believed I would have heard from him by now. I could FEEL it coming and completely and 100% expected it many times. But then nothing... and the cycle would repeat again of building myself up. If anything things would happen that made me feel like it was getting further away, not closer. But I did persist for quite some time. I'm over 8 months NC now and not sure wether to pick it back up again and try again for what I originally set out for.
Wow. I am going exaclty through the same thing. I am happy, I am moving on but I still keep thinking about him A LOT. I was convinced that I already had closure and forgive him/forget our past to focus on the future. But I am starting to realize it still hurts when I think about possible explanations why our relationship ended and why he "found" a new girl so fast.. I realized that I had to stop thinking about that part and focus on the good stuff/our perfect future together instead (just like woodyluv suggested with her abraham hicks post). Hope this helps for both of us Because I am also frustrated that I can manifest things like crazy, except this particular manifestation..
11/02/2016 6:45 am
Em have you read this? I posted in hopes that it will help anyone get unstuck and I hope it helps you too.
Fantastic, thank you so much pixelpie!
11/02/2016 12:30 am
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11/01/2016 7:21 pm
Thank you Woodyluv! I'm gonna give that a shot. Every time I have a negative thought or a bad memory I'm going to try and replace it with something I liked about him instead and see if that helps too.
Thanks for your responses, ladies x
11/01/2016 1:39 pm
Hey Em,
Abraham-Hicks talks about an exercise called Positive Aspects
The process is one of Abraham's and is in fact called "The Book of Positive Aspects". Abraham suggests using it to raise our vibration and focus on those positive aspects of people and things we feel good about. I have in fact used it successfully to raise my vibration when someone is irking me or I don't feel too good about them. By focusing on only their positive aspects, what was irking me about them seemed to literally disappear and they began showing up in my reality in a mostly positive way.
At the top of the first page write the name of the thing or person you want to focus on.
Next, ask yourself these questions - What do I like about you? *Why do I love you so much?* What are your positive aspects? - If writing about someone that is irking you right now, the 2nd question may be hard to answer immediately; however, as you begin to focus on the positive in the person your vibration will begin to change and you will reach a place of love.
Begin writing down the thoughts that come to you in response to the questions - do not force them. Write as long as the thoughts come easily and then read and enjoy your own words. With someone who is annoying you the process may take a little longer and the thoughts may not come as easily but everyone has positve aspects and if we look hard enough we will see them.
By focusing on the positve we begin raising our vibration to one of appreciation which is a powerful vibration. The more positive aspects we search for, the more we will find and our relationships with these people will change for the better. The more consistently we practice this, the more dominant the vibration will become and our reality will reflect this.
This process has helped move to a loving place where I was able to forgive an ex that was abusive, allowing me to move forward. That ex is not my love, however, it was apart of my healing process and moving forward.
Hope this helps! ✌️️&❤️
11/01/2016 12:12 pm
I agree with Sam that the law works always, no exceptions so there has to be something in your vibration blocking it. I think her advice on forgiveness is marvelous because she's right and you can't move forward in the same mindset that you started with. You have talked in your post about the way he treated you - so it seems, and I could be wrong, that you haven't forgiven him and yourself for the past.
You are both definitely right, I'm going to work on forgiving for now and see if things shift. Thanks guys 💞
11/01/2016 12:07 pm
I agree with Sam that the law works always, no exceptions so there has to be something in your vibration blocking it. I think her advice on forgiveness is marvelous because she's right and you can't move forward in the same mindset that you started with. You have talked in your post about the way he treated you - so it seems, and I could be wrong, that you haven't forgiven him and yourself for the past.
11/01/2016 11:59 am
I guess I have just been left a little disappointed with this one. So many times I was living in pure faith and wholeheartedly believed I would have heard from him by now. I could FEEL it coming and completely and 100% expected it many times. But then nothing... and the cycle would repeat again of building myself up. If anything things would happen that made me feel like it was getting further away, not closer. But I did persist for quite some time. I'm over 8 months NC now and not sure wether to pick it back up again and try again for what I originally set out for.
11/01/2016 11:57 am
My guess would be that you think you've let go but you really haven't. There's some type of resistance in you that's holding him away from you. It's always been my experience that when I reach the right vibe of my desire- it comes fast. That's why it happens so quickly with people you don't have resistance with.
The fact that you say you let him go because you grew tired of trying, I think that's a red flag. There's resistance in that. It's much different than letting go because you trust the universe to bring you what you want.
I think you just have to be really honest with yourself about how you feel when you think of him and how you feel when you think of your future together. Consider what types of thoughts you have about him most often. Whatever it is, it's inside of you.Thanks Sam! Always very informative posts!
I guess when I just look back it's sort of frustrating now. I basically followed Lanie's advice, went out and had fun, dated and hooked up with others, was and am completely open to meeting someone else and someone better. I always knew if I didn't hear from him then I will find happiness elsewhere eventually. Of course I still think about him everyday, he's the love of my life, but again, going off of Lanie's advice and her posts on here, this guy didn't particularly treat me good and I decided he didn't deserve the energy I was putting into it anymore. It was a relief to stop the techniques. I don't really understand how I could have "let go" even more than I did?Because if you perceive him as someone who didn't treat you well and he wasn't worth the effort, then you're putting that energy out there. So why would he be attracted to that, you know? You want a happy and loving relationship with him so in order to get that, you have to put THAT energy out there instead. If you want him back or even just to come back into your life as a friend or acquaintance, then you need to forgive him. You do deserve to be treated well but if you still hold onto how he treated you in the past, you won't ever get the type of behavior from him that you want. Lanie's advice on how people treat you has never resonated with me because if you can attract someone treating you better, you can also attract them treating you worse, which is exactly what we all did to lead to our breakups. There aren't any exemptions to universal laws, just as you attract the good in life you also attract the bad, and the LOA is always working, so truly he can't reflect back to you anything other than what you're first putting out. It's up to you to choose which belief resonates with you but either way, I think the key for you is forgiveness. Letting go out of frustration or exhaustion isn't really letting go. Sure, you may feel relief in general and that's definitely a step in the right direction, but it doesn't erase the unresolved feelings you have on that specific subject. And so you're still blocking it from coming.
Great advice on forgiveness, we get what we truly believe and truly expect always...
11/01/2016 11:56 am
My guess would be that you think you've let go but you really haven't. There's some type of resistance in you that's holding him away from you. It's always been my experience that when I reach the right vibe of my desire- it comes fast. That's why it happens so quickly with people you don't have resistance with.
The fact that you say you let him go because you grew tired of trying, I think that's a red flag. There's resistance in that. It's much different than letting go because you trust the universe to bring you what you want.
I think you just have to be really honest with yourself about how you feel when you think of him and how you feel when you think of your future together. Consider what types of thoughts you have about him most often. Whatever it is, it's inside of you.Thanks Sam! Always very informative posts!
I guess when I just look back it's sort of frustrating now. I basically followed Lanie's advice, went out and had fun, dated and hooked up with others, was and am completely open to meeting someone else and someone better. I always knew if I didn't hear from him then I will find happiness elsewhere eventually. Of course I still think about him everyday, he's the love of my life, but again, going off of Lanie's advice and her posts on here, this guy didn't particularly treat me good and I decided he didn't deserve the energy I was putting into it anymore. It was a relief to stop the techniques. I don't really understand how I could have "let go" even more than I did?Because if you perceive him as someone who didn't treat you well and he wasn't worth the effort, then you're putting that energy out there. So why would he be attracted to that, you know? You want a happy and loving relationship with him so in order to get that, you have to put THAT energy out there instead. If you want him back or even just to come back into your life as a friend or acquaintance, then you need to forgive him. You do deserve to be treated well but if you still hold onto how he treated you in the past, you won't ever get the type of behavior from him that you want. Lanie's advice on how people treat you has never resonated with me because if you can attract someone treating you better, you can also attract them treating you worse, which is exactly what we all did to lead to our breakups. There aren't any exemptions to universal laws, just as you attract the good in life you also attract the bad, and the LOA is always working, so truly he can't reflect back to you anything other than what you're first putting out. It's up to you to choose which belief resonates with you but either way, I think the key for you is forgiveness. Letting go out of frustration or exhaustion isn't really letting go. Sure, you may feel relief in general and that's definitely a step in the right direction, but it doesn't erase the unresolved feelings you have on that specific subject. And so you're still blocking it from coming.
That's what I have always found so confusing. A lot of people state absolutely anything is possible, Lanie's books preach that any man can be changed, yet a lot of her posts on here state the opposite and it's better to give up and move on and find someone who will make you feel worthy. So I did follow that advice and kind of just gave up.
But you are right, if we can attract negative changes in someone then we can just as easily attract positive ones. But there is so much contradictory advice. My main goal was to attract contact and possibly an apology because I felt like that was most important to me, wether it led to another relationship with each other or not. It would obviously be nice to see him regretting his decisions and behaviour but at the same time I don't want to work from a place of ego because I DO love him. I definitely think I need to work on forgiveness. Thank you for making things so much clearer, Sam!
11/01/2016 11:23 am
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