Oasiscalm wrote:

Blissful wrote:

Indigo wrote:

  
  
What happened???  I'm dying to know 
  

​It went really well! until she casually brought him up before I could stop her and then it was not so good.. she had no idea we had only just stopped talking to each other 3 weeks ago, she thought it had been over and done with for a year.. she was pretty shocked to find out he was talking to me everyday while he was on holiday with her in America, she basically said he was acting 100% single and flirting with all her friends when he was there and that he seemed really happy and carefree. Not gonna lie that hurt, but I remained cool as a cucumber and she was definitely on my side and said I deserve way better and he is an idiot for letting me go. She said if he asks about me she will gladly tell him that I am looking amazing and doing really well with no mention of talking about him, so that's good but I'm just left feeling really hurt and angry at him. I deleted him off snapchat and facebook..then regretted doing that but sticking to it! So at least seeing her gave me the push I needed to cut him out of my life but it still doesn't feel very good..
 

All that she had to say means nothing. Don't give it any time or energy. The key is to let things go. When you know LOA you will accept that from where your vibration was before you met her, that all the fears and anxiety you had was almost guaranteed to bring about that sort of conversation and her deliver information to you that wasn't going to be what you wanted to hear.

Neither you or she knows what's going on in his head. So you have no reason to be hurt or angry at him.

Keep you focus on making yourself happy and working on getting what you desire.

Thank you for these words, I definitely need to let things go, I was clearly still holding onto that moment in time 6 months ago and it has been holding me back ever since. After I met with her I deleted him off facebook and all social media and for some reason now I feel really bad about it and wishing I didn't do that.. I think it was the right thing to do but the non rational part of my brain thinks this will push him further away from me as he will now think I don't want anything to do with him.. I do just need to get our of my own way and focus on making myself happy and let it all go.. was hard to be the one to walk away but I have to focus on the relationship I want/deserve and not settle for the crumbs he was throwing my way. I totally appreciated your support and advice xo
 

Indigo wrote:

Blissful wrote:

Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on
  

  
  
I am an old woman married to an even older dude.  But I was single for the majority of
my adult life and I have beaucoup experience with men.  My dad was in the military
and I was employed by federal govt on an Army base and it was NOTHING BUT MEN!
And plus I used to meet guys in the city, I used to run personals ads in the newspaper
back in the day.  Do I have some crazy a$$ stories to tell!!!  But I won't.  

Was saying I'm not into getting the ex back because if a man mistreats me or cheats
or whatever, why in the dickens would I want him back?  I don't want his butt after he
has slept with a boatload of women when I can just as easily get a brand new one
with no history and no baggage.  But if a woman wants to get back with an ex, that's
her business.
 
You can decide whether you want to pursue him once you get past this latest upset.
If you think you can get him back and he's worth the hassles of doing so, go for it.
 

Your advice and support is much appreciated! Your life sounds so colorful and interesting! I can only imagine the stories! He has never cheated on me or mistreated me when we were together, but his behavior the past 6 months is not acceptable, keeping me at arms length and only seeing me when it suits him and not committing just doesn't work for me anymore.. but I am hoping I can attract him back as the man I deserve or perhaps I am destined to be with someone else.. I just know in my heart right now he is the one and I want, just need to be strong and not reach out to him. I truly appreciate you taking the time to read my posts and give advice

Blissful wrote:

Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on
  

  
  
I am an old woman married to an even older dude.  But I was single for the majority of
my adult life and I have beaucoup experience with men.  My dad was in the military
and I was employed by federal govt on an Army base and it was NOTHING BUT MEN!
And plus I used to meet guys in the city, I used to run personals ads in the newspaper
back in the day.  Do I have some crazy a$$ stories to tell!!!  But I won't.  

Was saying I'm not into getting the ex back because if a man mistreats me or cheats
or whatever, why in the dickens would I want him back?  I don't want his butt after he
has slept with a boatload of women when I can just as easily get a brand new one
with no history and no baggage.  But if a woman wants to get back with an ex, that's
her business.
 
You can decide whether you want to pursue him once you get past this latest upset.
If you think you can get him back and he's worth the hassles of doing so, go for it.
 
  


 

Indigo wrote:

  
  
That's a bummer and I'm sorry it happened to you, but you wanted to go see
what was up.  I personally don't have a great deal of trust in women, she will
probably go tell him that you're not over him, I can almost guarantee that's
what will happen.  Besides, you can't get over someone you love in a couple
of weeks so when your heart got stuck in your throat, she could  tell.

I'm not into getting your ex back, but if that's what you want to do then read
Lanie's books (and other books) about how to make that happen.  

I really hope you will be alright.
 

Yeah it sucked.. but it was a possibility I knew could happen and I chose to go anyway. So you are not attracting back an ex with the techniques? I have read all her books and have most of the MP3's. I do still want him back.. I am probably crazy and right now I am not in the right head space to get him back because I'm angry and hurt by him.. I should just let him go and move on

Indigo wrote:

  
  
What happened???  I'm dying to know 
  

​It went really well! until she casually brought him up before I could stop her and then it was not so good.. she had no idea we had only just stopped talking to each other 3 weeks ago, she thought it had been over and done with for a year.. she was pretty shocked to find out he was talking to me everyday while he was on holiday with her in America, she basically said he was acting 100% single and flirting with all her friends when he was there and that he seemed really happy and carefree. Not gonna lie that hurt, but I remained cool as a cucumber and she was definitely on my side and said I deserve way better and he is an idiot for letting me go. She said if he asks about me she will gladly tell him that I am looking amazing and doing really well with no mention of talking about him, so that's good but I'm just left feeling really hurt and angry at him. I deleted him off snapchat and facebook..then regretted doing that but sticking to it! So at least seeing her gave me the push I needed to cut him out of my life but it still doesn't feel very good..
 

Indigo wrote:

Blissful wrote:

Thanks Indigo, I wasn't expecting to ever see this girl again as she lives on the other side of the world! and her contacting me to meet up put me in a bit of a tailspin and brought back all these emotions and questions which caused me to offload on here and come across confusing! I am trying to attract a loving committed relationship with him using lanie's techniques, I have been using them for a year but so far he has only come into my life wanting a friends with benefits situation which is why we are currently in NC. If I do see her I think its best to not talk about my guy at all as it could get back to him, I'd rather her say how awesome and happy I am if she does talk to him!
  

  

I hate those around the world friends coming to visit me unexpected and disturbing my groove!!!
Okay.  So don't bring him up and if she does, cut her off and let her know you're not interested
in the least about him.  Pretend you have a pretend boyfriend.  Better yet, hire a hunk of burning
love or get one of your male friends to escort you so she can tell him all about how you have 
another man.  That'll teach him.
 

Haha! Amazing, thanks Indigo I might just bring myself some arm candy.. or have him be there before us and 'bump' into him!

Blissful wrote:

Thanks Indigo, I wasn't expecting to ever see this girl again as she lives on the other side of the world! and her contacting me to meet up put me in a bit of a tailspin and brought back all these emotions and questions which caused me to offload on here and come across confusing! I am trying to attract a loving committed relationship with him using lanie's techniques, I have been using them for a year but so far he has only come into my life wanting a friends with benefits situation which is why we are currently in NC. If I do see her I think its best to not talk about my guy at all as it could get back to him, I'd rather her say how awesome and happy I am if she does talk to him!
  

  

I hate those around the world friends coming to visit me unexpected and disturbing my groove!!!
Okay.  So don't bring him up and if she does, cut her off and let her know you're not interested
in the least about him.  Pretend you have a pretend boyfriend.  Better yet, hire a hunk of burning
love or get one of your male friends to escort you so she can tell him all about how you have 
another man.  That'll teach him.
  
  


 

Indigo wrote:

Blissful wrote:

 
Sorry! its confusing and I guess it was a bit of both.. I was curious to see others opinion on this, I thought maybe I could get some closure from her based on her observations of my guy when they were in America together as he never really articulated why he changed his mind so dramatically.. I guess this is wrong of me to do and I should just let it go.
  

  
  
I don't think you're wrong, and you never really said you were NC.  But you did refer
to him as your love.  If you don't care what he thinks then go for it but if you're doing
NC and you are trying to get him back, do the things that Lanie teaches to make
that happen.

If you all are over and done with, it's natural to want to know why he changed his
mind, but sometimes in life there just is no closure.  I think if a man really cared
for a woman, he would at least tell you how he felt about things just as a courtesy,
instead of leaving you wondering why. 
 

Thanks Indigo, I wasn't expecting to ever see this girl again as she lives on the other side of the world! and her contacting me to meet up put me in a bit of a tailspin and brought back all these emotions and questions which caused me to offload on here and come across confusing! I am trying to attract a loving committed relationship with him using lanie's techniques, I have been using them for a year but so far he has only come into my life wanting a friends with benefits situation which is why we are currently in NC. If I do see her I think its best to not talk about my guy at all as it could get back to him, I'd rather her say how awesome and happy I am if she does talk to him!