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10/08/2018 1:59 pm
Hi, How did this turn out? Can you give us an update? My man can send confusing messages as well. Thanks!
3/27/2017 1:02 pm
BettyBlue wrote:
The strange thing is, I disappeared from social media for a week because I have a relative being treated in hospital. Just before I went I posted something on my FB wall about hating hospitals but loving the view from the top floor. I included a couple of sunset photos, and a guy on my friend list asked me what I was doing there and if everything was ok.
Well I found that he liked the photos, and a few days later he wrote me a message asking if my relative was better now. So I guess I was on his mind. Also if he had read the conversation with the other guy then he is clearly interested in what I am doing, because you have to actively click on those kind of conversations to read them. Anyway I thanked him and told him briefly what had happened, and I asked him for prayers. He wrote me out a really good prayer, which was sweet of him. I said only "Amen. Thank you so much."
I had the urge to message him today to tell him that the prayer seems to be working, but on reflection I have decided not to. I don't want to chase.
In this situation, I don't think you're chasing him. You're following up on an active conversation. If he didn't want to talk about it or anything, he wouldn't have messaged and looked into it.
So perhaps I should message him to tell him it seems to be working (my relative did pick up with his health quite drastically since yesterday) and thank him, then leave it at that? He has also liked my new cover pic today which made me feel good.
Yes, try not to think to hard about it. It can become stressful. Allow things to happen naturally in this situation. It's completely fine to let him know how much the person improved if he's praying for them. It's likely he will reply and you can continue on from there
3/27/2017 12:37 pm
The strange thing is, I disappeared from social media for a week because I have a relative being treated in hospital. Just before I went I posted something on my FB wall about hating hospitals but loving the view from the top floor. I included a couple of sunset photos, and a guy on my friend list asked me what I was doing there and if everything was ok.
Well I found that he liked the photos, and a few days later he wrote me a message asking if my relative was better now. So I guess I was on his mind. Also if he had read the conversation with the other guy then he is clearly interested in what I am doing, because you have to actively click on those kind of conversations to read them. Anyway I thanked him and told him briefly what had happened, and I asked him for prayers. He wrote me out a really good prayer, which was sweet of him. I said only "Amen. Thank you so much."
I had the urge to message him today to tell him that the prayer seems to be working, but on reflection I have decided not to. I don't want to chase.
In this situation, I don't think you're chasing him. You're following up on an active conversation. If he didn't want to talk about it or anything, he wouldn't have messaged and looked into it.
So perhaps I should message him to tell him it seems to be working (my relative did pick up with his health quite drastically since yesterday) and thank him, then leave it at that? He has also liked my new cover pic today which made me feel good.
3/27/2017 12:28 pm
The strange thing is, I disappeared from social media for a week because I have a relative being treated in hospital. Just before I went I posted something on my FB wall about hating hospitals but loving the view from the top floor. I included a couple of sunset photos, and a guy on my friend list asked me what I was doing there and if everything was ok.
Well I found that he liked the photos, and a few days later he wrote me a message asking if my relative was better now. So I guess I was on his mind. Also if he had read the conversation with the other guy then he is clearly interested in what I am doing, because you have to actively click on those kind of conversations to read them. Anyway I thanked him and told him briefly what had happened, and I asked him for prayers. He wrote me out a really good prayer, which was sweet of him. I said only "Amen. Thank you so much."
I had the urge to message him today to tell him that the prayer seems to be working, but on reflection I have decided not to. I don't want to chase.
In this situation, I don't think you're chasing him. You're following up on an active conversation. If he didn't want to talk about it or anything, he wouldn't have messaged and looked into it.
3/27/2017 12:22 pm
The strange thing is, I disappeared from social media for a week because I have a relative being treated in hospital. Just before I went I posted something on my FB wall about hating hospitals but loving the view from the top floor. I included a couple of sunset photos, and a guy on my friend list asked me what I was doing there and if everything was ok.
Well I found that he liked the photos, and a few days later he wrote me a message asking if my relative was better now. So I guess I was on his mind. Also if he had read the conversation with the other guy then he is clearly interested in what I am doing, because you have to actively click on those kind of conversations to read them. Anyway I thanked him and told him briefly what had happened, and I asked him for prayers. He wrote me out a really good prayer, which was sweet of him. I said only "Amen. Thank you so much."
I had the urge to message him today to tell him that the prayer seems to be working, but on reflection I have decided not to. I don't want to chase.
3/21/2017 9:06 pm
I would personally stop replying to him so readily, at least for awhile. He seems like he's kinda playing mind games with you, trying to play hot and cold to see if you'll reply.
He needs to make way more of an effort to get your time and attention, in my opinionAt least you know you're on his mind, but he needs to work for it more than this.
Yeah...I sort of regret replying at all. I laughed to myself when I found the message and I was thinking ""oh that love spell is really working!" But then I started to feel frustrated and down because he's so clearly looking for attention but being really immature about it and also being so cold and nasty when he does get a response. I've had it up to the neck with him, basically.
I'm going to keep up with the pw and the spell. But apart from that, this childish man is not worth my energy.
I don't blame you at all for that. I tend to have a low tolerance for that kind of thing myself, I think because I wasted a few years on a man who was pretty much the same way. PW & BWD is a great tool, no doubt about it, but I truly feel like some guys aren't worth the effort and men who run hot and cold too that list for me.
3/21/2017 10:44 am
I would leave the recent message incident alone. It is doubtful that he deleted the entire conversation. Even if he did, you two sorted the confusion out(that's if he isn't playing). In either event, I wouldn't want the excess stress and confusion.
3/21/2017 10:29 am
I would personally stop replying to him so readily, at least for awhile. He seems like he's kinda playing mind games with you, trying to play hot and cold to see if you'll reply.
He needs to make way more of an effort to get your time and attention, in my opinion
Yeah...I sort of regret replying at all. I laughed to myself when I found the message and I was thinking ""oh that love spell is really working!" But then I started to feel frustrated and down because he's so clearly looking for attention but being really immature about it and also being so cold and nasty when he does get a response. I've had it up to the neck with him, basically.
I'm going to keep up with the pw and the spell. But apart from that, this childish man is not worth my energy.
3/20/2017 9:06 pm
Agree with SK,
you're only going to work yourself up over this wondering what is he saying / what does he mean etc.
Just focus on PW and LS for now and only respond when he really makes an effort.
3/20/2017 5:00 pm
I would personally stop replying to him so readily, at least for awhile. He seems like he's kinda playing mind games with you, trying to play hot and cold to see if you'll reply.
He needs to make way more of an effort to get your time and attention, in my opinion At least you know you're on his mind, but he needs to work for it more than this.
3/20/2017 10:45 am
Updating again...
Two days ago he sent a message through my FB. It was one of those pink love hearts. But then underneath it he said "oops...sorry....I was sending a message to my nephew but it went to you by accident."
I didn't see the message until now as I haven't been online for a couple of days. But I decided to answer him. I said "Lol. ok, no worries X (his name)".
He replied with a "?".
I said again "its ok, X (his name) no worries"
And he said "can you tell me what it is you are messaging me for? You have called my name twice."
I said "no, no, I was answering the message you sent to me." He said "ok" and we stopped communicating from there.
But I'd just like your opinions on that because I'm confused....did he really send that message by accident to me? Or was it deliberate, and him just trying to get some kind of communication between us? I'm not sure....
3/17/2017 1:30 pm
It almost sounds like he's trying to get you to say something, like. I'm not seeing another guy" or something like that, wanting you to tell him something about how you feel. It's so hard to know when they act like this, but this is just my opinion.
Yes I think you're right. I think he is trying to get me to say something or do something but I'm not sure what. As it is, he was online a lot today - much more than usual - but we never messaged each other. I guess he's being stubborn and I certainly won't be initiating.
3/17/2017 7:29 am
It almost sounds like he's trying to get you to say something, like. I'm not seeing another guy" or something like that, wanting you to tell him something about how you feel. It's so hard to know when they act like this, but this is just my opinion.
3/17/2017 6:01 am
Hmmm...Well last night I found he had sent me the words to one of the songs. I won't bore you all with the whole thing, but it said that my eyes had made him drunk and now all he lived for was my love. But that I had cast him aside and ruined him, and now he wondered what other foolish man will be my victim.
I think he is saying I'm into other guys or something.
When I replied to his message it was 4:30 am (I couldn't sleep) and he replied, saying he hadn't been sleeping either. He stayed with me until I finally said I was going to sleep, but he was very formal and not affectionate at all.
3/16/2017 5:30 pm
Well just to update, I finally did what Indigo suggested. I told him I really did like the songs and that I hadn't said much about it yesterday because I was busy.
He just replied to me a little while ago, when I went online. I was going online for reasons other than him, but he replied the minute I signed in. He was a bit weird. He said "it's ok. I'm fine about it". I then asked him what the songs were about (they were in his mothertongue that I don't understand) and he explained...
He said the first one was singing "come to me my love", and that usually is sung at weddings. The second song was a duet and it was a guy telling his girl that she'd betrayed him by going off with some other guy.
Now I'm even more confused. I don't mean to be overthinking...but what was all that about?
He seemed to be willing to talk more, but I decided to cut it short. I thanked him for explaining about the songs, and I said that it was late so I would say goodnight now. He said nothing but "hmmmm". I saw him start typing for a moment, and so I waited, but then he stopped and changed his mind, and whatever he was typing didn't get sent.
Men are such a mystery, always doing things to keep us guessing.
They also have funny ways of expressing their feelings. Just keep
doing PW on him, what you're doing is working.
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