I had the same situation where my sex life was great with my boyfriend and not to get too personal, but he loved my bj's and he would usually get one where that's how he would finish once a week. It was like a special treat.
Last month he had a lot more stress at work and was not able to finish or he'd get soft during (getting soft mortified him). I stopped initiating anything sexual to take pressure off him and we'd just enjoy time together where we were both relaxed and no expectations. I also did a lot of BWD on him and soon he became a lot more aggressive in bed and told me how much he missed me "stepping up to the mic".
I am sure your guy has a little performance anxiety after that incident. Just drop the expectation of sex and enjoy being with him easy and breezy. It's great that he wants to hang out with you!
Hey guys. I won't get into details about my situation again but I will just say that my POI (who lives across the country from me) is in town right now and although he asked me to hang out last night (his first night here) with him and his friends I worry now he's getting scared about us hanging out one on one as we have talked about. Our background is friends but we've had this confusing thing going on for almost a year, but sadly it started just as I was about to move across the country (I'm currently in LA and he's in NY). I think the combo of the distance and his commitment issues has made the situation very challenging. But our chemistry and connection is the most intense I've ever experienced and I've had a number of loves, boyfriends and partners. The situation has been for a lot of it us having these intense makeout sessions every time we see each other and confessing how much we like one another. In Jan, last time I saw him we spent more time together and although the foreplay was amazing he had trouble performing. I think this has probably been part of why he's been avoiding letting things develop with us. He smokes a good amount of weed and I think he also was nervous given our history and the build up to this. I'm thinking he's nervous now about that happening again, which might be making him nervous about spending one on one time with me. Has anyone dealt with this with their POI and/or does anyone have any suggestions of things to say in PW to help him feel better and more confident in that area and in general? I'm trying to be positive but I'm scared this is going to hold him on back on taking me on a date, which we've been talking about for a while leading up to this trip.