Jen wrote:

BelieverOfLOA wrote:

Jen wrote:

The reaaon(s) behind you going NC make much better sense for me and I completely understand why you need the space.

Thank you for opening up and sharing that with us.

Given your circumstances and the fact that you're unsure of whether you would ultimately want a future with him, I would personally continue visualising everything you need for him to say to you and do it in small steps.

Visualise small, allow for the manifestation to occur and then continue on with what you need from him next.

I'd make a plan on what you would like him to say in stages.

But, in order for you to receive what you're needing for him to say and acknowledge, I'd answer his calls to provide him that opportunity.

And if you are happy with what he says, move on and start manifesting what you'd like him to say/acknowledge next.

Although my circumstances are very different, I blocked my one from everything over the weekend as I felt he took advantage of me but am continuing with my visualisation technique to manifest a solid, loving and healthy relationship with him.

You will do the exact same.

Make the plan 💖

🙏Thank you so much for your words🙏

I appreciate you taking the time to respond as you did. I will definitely make a plan... and agree I will need to speak with him sometime soon, I am just not ready for that now. Even with the cord cutting speaking to him weakens me, he is quick to act like we are cool, when in fact we are not. He jokes to avoid the real issues, and I am not ok with that. So, I will take some time for at least a month - then I will allow him in, on my terms.

I like your idea of small steps and a plan, I will do this as well.

I really like what you are visualizing "solid, loving, healthy relationship" So, I will sit down and write out what I really desire from all this. In my ideal world he would rise up and be the man I know he is capable of being, he would be faithful, he would be honest, he would be a good man, but I will not settle for less so that is why I am trying to keep my future husband faceless - I feel it will let the universe deliver what is right.

Again, thank you so so much! All the best with your manifestations 💛

You're more than welcome 😗

I would suggest phase one of 'the plan' be for you to visualise and manifest for him to stop trying to get your attention with his light hearted jokes and acknowledge his wrong doings followed by a sincere, genuine and heartfelt apology.

Once that is manifested, phase two kicks in 😉
 

I like this... I will hold onto it. I am working on my anger during this no contact period... I know it doesn't help he or I, but I am very mad at him for the deceit. I am doing self work and staying open to love. I'm feeling a ring on my finger again - so whomever this lover is he's on his way 💛☺

BelieverOfLOA wrote:

Jen wrote:

The reaaon(s) behind you going NC make much better sense for me and I completely understand why you need the space.

Thank you for opening up and sharing that with us.

Given your circumstances and the fact that you're unsure of whether you would ultimately want a future with him, I would personally continue visualising everything you need for him to say to you and do it in small steps.

Visualise small, allow for the manifestation to occur and then continue on with what you need from him next.

I'd make a plan on what you would like him to say in stages.

But, in order for you to receive what you're needing for him to say and acknowledge, I'd answer his calls to provide him that opportunity.

And if you are happy with what he says, move on and start manifesting what you'd like him to say/acknowledge next.

Although my circumstances are very different, I blocked my one from everything over the weekend as I felt he took advantage of me but am continuing with my visualisation technique to manifest a solid, loving and healthy relationship with him.

You will do the exact same.

Make the plan 💖

🙏Thank you so much for your words🙏

I appreciate you taking the time to respond as you did. I will definitely make a plan... and agree I will need to speak with him sometime soon, I am just not ready for that now. Even with the cord cutting speaking to him weakens me, he is quick to act like we are cool, when in fact we are not. He jokes to avoid the real issues, and I am not ok with that. So, I will take some time for at least a month - then I will allow him in, on my terms.

I like your idea of small steps and a plan, I will do this as well.

I really like what you are visualizing "solid, loving, healthy relationship" So, I will sit down and write out what I really desire from all this. In my ideal world he would rise up and be the man I know he is capable of being, he would be faithful, he would be honest, he would be a good man, but I will not settle for less so that is why I am trying to keep my future husband faceless - I feel it will let the universe deliver what is right.

Again, thank you so so much! All the best with your manifestations 💛

You're more than welcome 😗

I would suggest phase one of 'the plan' be for you to visualise and manifest for him to stop trying to get your attention with his light hearted jokes and acknowledge his wrong doings followed by a sincere, genuine and heartfelt apology.

Once that is manifested, phase two kicks in 😉
 

Jen wrote:

The reaaon(s) behind you going NC make much better sense for me and I completely understand why you need the space.

Thank you for opening up and sharing that with us.

Given your circumstances and the fact that you're unsure of whether you would ultimately want a future with him, I would personally continue visualising everything you need for him to say to you and do it in small steps.

Visualise small, allow for the manifestation to occur and then continue on with what you need from him next.

I'd make a plan on what you would like him to say in stages.

But, in order for you to receive what you're needing for him to say and acknowledge, I'd answer his calls to provide him that opportunity.

And if you are happy with what he says, move on and start manifesting what you'd like him to say/acknowledge next.

Although my circumstances are very different, I blocked my one from everything over the weekend as I felt he took advantage of me but am continuing with my visualisation technique to manifest a solid, loving and healthy relationship with him.

You will do the exact same.

Make the plan 💖

🙏Thank you so much for your words🙏

I appreciate you taking the time to respond as you did. I will definitely make a plan... and agree I will need to speak with him sometime soon, I am just not ready for that now. Even with the cord cutting speaking to him weakens me, he is quick to act like we are cool, when in fact we are not. He jokes to avoid the real issues, and I am not ok with that. So, I will take some time for at least a month - then I will allow him in, on my terms.

I like your idea of small steps and a plan, I will do this as well.

I really like what you are visualizing "solid, loving, healthy relationship" So, I will sit down and write out what I really desire from all this. In my ideal world he would rise up and be the man I know he is capable of being, he would be faithful, he would be honest, he would be a good man, but I will not settle for less so that is why I am trying to keep my future husband faceless - I feel it will let the universe deliver what is right.

Again, thank you so so much! All the best with your manifestations 💛

The reaaon(s) behind you going NC make much better sense for me and I completely understand why you need the space.

Thank you for opening up and sharing that with us.

Given your circumstances and the fact that you're unsure of whether you would ultimately want a future with him, I would personally continue visualising everything you need for him to say to you and do it in small steps.

Visualise small, allow for the manifestation to occur and then continue on with what you need from him next.

I'd make a plan on what you would like him to say in stages.

But, in order for you to receive what you're needing for him to say and acknowledge, I'd answer his calls to provide him that opportunity.

And if you are happy with what he says, move on and start manifesting what you'd like him to say/acknowledge next.

Although my circumstances are very different, I blocked my one from everything over the weekend as I felt he took advantage of me but am continuing with my visualisation technique to manifest a solid, loving and healthy relationship with him.

You will do the exact same.

Make the plan 💖

Jen wrote:

I think most members (if not all) perform these techniques because they actually want their ex back.

If your sessions are purely to make him feel bad about his actions and he's been contacting you every day, I'd respond to hear what he has to say to you and if it's an apology you need and he provides one for you, I'd stop the techniques and set him free 😊

I am currently pregnant with our child. I am not doing at as a way to make him feel bad but because I need the space and he views out communication as a game. He has a gf that he cheated on me with, yet still risked bringing our child into this world... so, I envision him waking up, apologizing, realizing how his actions affect others, and wanting me back. I am undecided on wanting him back. I am doing a vision for myself for marriage - whoever is worthy, even if it is him, will come I do agree with setting someone free... and am only doing my meditations from a space of love.

No contact for him helps him to see that he can't come and go as he pleases. Lie to me. Use my body, as he has done. Etc. He can not have his cake and eat it too with me. Period.

Thanks for the advice

I think most members (if not all) perform these techniques because they actually want their ex back.

If your sessions are purely to make him feel bad about his actions and he's been contacting you every day, I'd respond to hear what he has to say to you and if it's an apology you need and he provides one for you, I'd stop the techniques and set him free 😊