DC wrote:

I think your technique is fine. The thing I do differently is I don't phrase my whispers in the third person. If I lean over into his ear, I would say things like "you will tell me that you love me" and then as he repeats it back he'll say "I love you, DC". I always get him to repeat my name because it feels better to me having him acknowledge me. I don't know if that's right, but I feel better inside.

I see. Agnes said her whisper technique is "tell Agnes you're sorry about the fight" and repeat the phrase a few times. I'll try having him acknowledge me. He's a name-sayer in real life so it won't be hard.

I don't know if I'm doing this right. Let me give a quick rundown of what I do and how.

I always listen to music. Always Theta music, but today I found some RS playlist on YouTube and it immediately put me into alpha. I lay back and begin to meditate. I count down backwards imagining my black background with white numbers. Sometimes I go to my happy place, which is me imagining swinging on a swing and then imagining my kids faces with big silly smiles. It brings my happiness level way up. Then I imagine him standing on a beach. Hearing the water. Smelling the salty air. I see him looking over the ocean.  I call him over. He walks over happy to be with me. We begin a conversation. He tells me a variety of things. "I love you. I don't want any other woman. No woman compares to you. You're beautiful. I want forever with you". Things like that. I respond accordingly. He touches my face. I touch his face. I feel his lips on mine. Throughout I lean in and whisper in his ear "Tell (me) that you miss her" or "tell (me) that she's he only woman for you". I repeat it several times. We go back to the conversations. Then we begin kissing. Sometimes we make love. Sometimes we just touch and kiss. Then we go back to the conversation about our love and how we feel and how we're getting married and having a lifetime together.

I sometimes feel like I'm floating. Always definitely in alpha. I just don't know step by step how others do it and I don't want to get it wrong. I've seen movement, but recently learned there's a new woman he's semi serious about. I'm planning to do some rubbing out on that situation.

Is this right? Or close to it? I've been doing it like this (or a variation of this) since February.