When you consciously visualize, that’s when you literally create something out of nothing. Sometimes, after the visualization, you have the tendency to have unconscious thoughts. And these unconscious thoughts tend to wander and might entertain thoughts that are contrary to your visualization, like “How come he’s not contacting me yet?”, “I’m still blocked on social media!”, “But she’s with another guy now!”,’”Why isn’t this working?” These thoughts get compounded and become your predominant thoughts, which are unfortunately negative thoughts and not helping you get what you want.The more you think about your ex outside of conscious visualization, the higher the probability of entertaining contradictory thoughts. That’s the only reason you should not think about your ex when not visualizing.