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    4/27/2020 2:54 pm

    hi this is brilliant , I know it works and when I see others getting results I tell myself if others can so can I xx

    4/07/2020 8:15 pm

    Dearest,
    Your messages give me the light and make me feel immensely peaceful knowing he is coming back to me. You have no idea but I look forward to ur messages so much these days because I know you understand my pain and also the desire to be with him. I also heard of Repelling Outside influence. Have you tried that by any chance. It seems people have used that to remove third parties and all.
    I would love to hear from you the effect of Love Spell.  From all the information that you so generously shared with me here are my takeaways:
    1) I still feel very very empty on his thought especially as soon as I sit to do PW. Hence I am not able to continue  coz I literally cannot feel my heartbeat. It feels so useless. But again I cannot say if I have really religiously applied ur tip of looking at his pic: Now with additional tip of adding a song that he had dedicated to me; I hope I can feel more alive when I sit down to do PW. Will add BWD as well
    2) Brad Yates Love Magnet: I saw his video long back; but couldn’t extract anything useful
    3) CTC to detach
    Have you ever scripted and what sort of affirmations you used to say out loud. I keep on saying he loves me truly very very frequently throughout day. Do you have any phrase that really makes you feel instant connection with him. During PW, what do u make him tell you and do you repeat all that he tells u? Also Lanie tells to let the person go in the end. How do you do that? Do you call his name during the beginning of PW? I am not using guided meditation, I might start doing so that I can get more relaxed. I feel the part where he actually is sharing his feelings is shorter and when we are doing on our own we can make it as long as we want. The disadvantage i feel with not doing guided is the relaxation part. How do you generally relax and calm ur mind before doing PW.
    Please do tell me how are things going with him especially when he told u about this other girl. Do you think you want to try RepellingOutside influence?
    I am so thankful to have found you in this forum.

    4/07/2020 12:52 am

    Hi Believe
    It is ok I am 35  so I definitely know how you feel! We dont want to hit 50 with no one. So I know how your parents feel and I have seen many friends of mine wasted 10 years of their lives chasing someone who cheated and hurted them. I can't tell them lanie's techniques because they are very closed minded. 
    What I can tell you is this. Don't let your parents and or too many people in your life know your pain and longing because their concern and stress for you actually attracts negative energy for you and him. 
    So last night my ex called me and although he told me that he really likes his one girl etc etc which she is very attractive but I decided I was going to do Lanie's LS on him. I did it today so let's see if we can see any movement but I felt really good doing it. 

    If you feel that your ex is the one, then dont feel threatened by any girl or anyone. Just put on your sad love ones and play it while you do pw or bwd. Those sappy love songs get me emotionally charged with missing him and thats what you  need. When I  miss him,  I am able to use that emotion of missing and love, yearning and desire and I pretend that its him missing me and feeling those emotions and him telling me all the things I want to hear. Yes cry if you need to, release all that emotions as if they were his and youre feeling it. After wards you will feel really great. During the day when negativity creeps in, just remind yourself he is madly in love with you and dismiss any sad feeling, like just smile to yourself knowing he is thinking of you everytime you feel that missing or sadness. When you get too attached or desperate, use her CTC method and make up your mind that he is waiting for you but youre not accepting him any less than the man you desire him to be. My ex is confessing that I'm the love of his life yesterday, that is unbelievable news to me. Then he tells me, he doesnt feel that way anymore but I dont care what he says, I have convinced myself that he knows I am the love of his life. 

    Also during our relationship, I always felt that I was not good enough for him. Now I feel that he is chasing me somewhat even though he is holding back and doesn't text or call everyday. I NO LONGER call nor initiate any texts messages now. I let the lingering effects of pw do the work. If I feel like doing bwd/pw then I do it. I only do it when I get excited or lets just say, when I get horny.. I am sorry I dont want to say that, but thats the only time I get motivated now to do the bwd/pw but it works! also do EFT Brad Yates love magnet, It will clear away a lot of the insecurities and worries you have, Do it a lot until you feel peace, then do pw/bwd and really start believing he is madly in love with you because he is!! He really is. 

    I know this is long but one thing I forgot to mention. So my ex has never had a girl ever hurt him or break his heart. They pretty much made him happy all the time because they were really into him and so was I. I never made him unhappy until we broke up and I was super rude, cold, callous and just a plain jerk to him. 
    I think because he went through the pain of hurt, anger, sadness, loneliness over me, he actually wanted me more. So therefore use this no contact to let your ex feel the pain of not having you. While you do bwd /pw and let that gnaw at him and make his heart ache for you insanely while you live your life happily, knowing he is sitting there in no contact suffering over you. My ex told me this during our no contact and it was confirmation to know I didn't have to suffer the entire time when I let him go, yet still did pw etc and he was the one missing me and yearning for me. 

    Believe in you and your belief will form for you what you feel is true. Right now you feel that he doesnt love you so he won't. Start feeling that he wants you and is crazy for you and that's where lanies technqies help. Her methods dont change your reality, it changes your beliefs and once you accept that what you visualize is true, then and only then, you will have it come true. Do not have negativity and fear as those things will make all this work go even slower. Play a game with yourself and pretend he loves you, pretend the visualizaton pw was a new way of video chatting and that he really did say those things. ONce you have convinced yourself, you will be telling your success story too.  

    4/06/2020 9:04 am

    Hello dear, your message brings me hope everytime. I am feeling so defeated and tired. I havent really done any technique with full discipline. When he was talking as friends, I was still sad to see him being so happy and okay with the fact that we are nothing more than friends. Now that we are NC, I still feel sad because everytime my phone pings, I run to see it it is his message.
    So many thoughts of him being into someone keep scaring me. We have been in relationship since 2015 and every single minute I spent praying and dedicating my heart soul into this because him coming into my life was a miracle. It has been almost a year since he called it quits. For him we are past and he keeps saying that. He keeps saying move on, find someone; now that we are NC, my heart keep longing for him. I just want to be able to sit down and practice Lanie’s techniques but I also worry I might get too attached and desperate.
    Thank you for being there and giving me that ray of hope. My parents wants me to start looking for someone else. I am 36 now and they are worried for how long I will wait.  I have no answer for anyone. I am just very torn. I feel traumatized that he left me in this deep mess at age when in our culture girls are already settled.
    I had fought with my family and convinced them that he was one for me and it took me a year to be able to talk to them.
    I have fought so many battles for him and here he is so casual about the relationship we had and calls it a past now.
    I am very torn today but I still pray for a miracle that he turns around and this time he comes only to marry me and no games.
    I hope to gather myself up today and maybe start applying these techiques. My heart still yearns for him and I know that I have no energy and desire to be with anyone else but him. Was it too much to ask? God knows how much I begged and prayed.

    4/06/2020 4:11 am

    Don't worry, no contact is even better! This makes him ache and yearn for you like crazy when you do pw and I also realize you have to do  bwd too. Yep I did a few techniques recently where I did Bwd and pw right after and I am telling you, that really gets their attention. It is instant results even if he doesn't call you. How I know is, I broke down my ex resistance. He called me the same night or the very next morning, saying he misses me. We had a fight a few days before that and i acted like a jerk to him. Tonight he calls me and the crazy part is, I have not been doing pw or bwd on him for over a week. Im not trying hard at all and I am not even thinking about him like that. But I think the effects lingers for them. Tonight I felt him missing me and how I know that is, if you're doing something random and you suddenly miss the person, that's because he is missing you!! 
    Anyhow he calls me tonight and slipped up during our 4 hour convo and said along the lines that I was the love of his life. These are words I had him telling me, they're not even words he would ever say! Remember he never told me loved me ever ever ever during our relationship. He also told me he was dating a few girls and i asked for pics and text messages which he sent. And although the women were very attractive and also ready to sleep with him so fast and sexual messages... I was bothered by it, but at the same time, not threatened because I know if I really wanted him back completely, I can go back to pw and bwd. Trust me, I wouldn't tell you this to give you false hope, I can see from my experience.  Even though I don't do it much at all, they will still feel that love for you. I mean we were on the phone 4 hours and he is trying to make me super jealous. Again, any of us girls including me, would have been so hurt and devastated if they seen another attractive woman or women that your man has moved on with,  but although I did show signs of jealousy,  I am not worried at all. If I can break a man like that down then I think you can surely get your man back. You have to start believing that when you talk to him, it is real and already happened when you're done.  

    4/02/2020 12:28 am

    As of couple of days ago, we had a fall out and he told me to leave him, live and let live. I have mixed reaction to that. Hurt because of how he again asked me to leave him after all these couple of months of being in touch as friends. But there is some peace also I am feeling, because now i dont have to pretend to be his frriend. I dont have to laugh  at his jokes just to make him feel I am cool.  I had very bad couple of days, was really hurt but now i am picking myself again. I want to discipline myself and get onto Lanies methods. So Yea, since last time I told you, now we are back to no contact. So I wont be able to see wat PW is doing to him, but hoping for a miracle.
    Don’t know what to expect moving forward. But I know for sure that I love him and desire to be with him as his wife.

    4/01/2020 10:45 pm

    I honestly think, men always say they can be your friend but the truth is, they have no interest in being your friend. IF they are your friend, it is because they have some form of interest. Either they're trying to work their way in as your new bf or they're trying to keep you around to soothe their heart ache until they can move on from you completely. That is why, I know he has feelings for you. This is really the best time to use the techniques because you can see first hand his reactions when it does hit him all at once. He is resisting but when his guard is down, then yep, all those strong feelings come rushing over him. As for my ex, when I told him I wanted nothing to do with him romantically and I would never get back to him. Guess what, He put his guard down thinking, oh she doesn't want me back. So when I do pw on him or bwd, he responds very very fast because there is no resistance there. There was only resistance form him when he thought I wanted something or there was expectations. 

    3/26/2020 7:30 pm

    Thank you for this reassurance. Honestkg, the current reality is screaming that he has really moved on and only reason he came back was because he felt this guilt that he wronged me. Before contacting me after 5 months of silence, he talked to a common friend and told her he feels guilty but he want to just be friends. He thinks we are very different people. He seems very stubborn and sounds like he made up his mind. He called me today just to check on me if I was doing fine due to pandemic and I just talked and laughed with him pretending that I am also cool but immediately after call I felt horrible coz I get this feeling from him that he just only sees me as a friend. Sometimes I feel is he just using me to get over this guilt; to clear his conscience. I dont know, but I am still holding on. I will. Your comment that if he is in touch  that means he has some feeling for me is reassuring but the way he is talking and texting me screams like I am nothing more than a friend for him. He has never called me late at night. I am all by myself and working from home these days. I wanted to use this time to apply Lanies techniques but somehow everyday I wake up with this emptiness and no energy to continue this. I really really want to ask him to come over and stay with me for couple of days during this lockdown period, but I dont know how to word it and I am afraid it might backfire.. I keep saying the statements like he loves me all the time. But I have been so lazy or demotivated based on current situation that I havent really been able to discipline myself to apply these techniques. I can’t thank you enough because your responses are so positive and I keep reading the last message that you sent me because it gave me alot of positivity. I really want to pick myself up and succeed at bringing him back to my life as my lover and him proposing me and marrying me.

    3/26/2020 5:13 am

    On you wondering if he has any feelings for you at all.  The truth is he is probably still in love with you because no man would want his ex gf around as  friend unless he still had some kind of feelings for her. He needs to have you around as a friend because he needs you to fill his emptiness. He will never admit that to you. There were times, I felt my ex moved on as we went through months of no contact. However, when I would feel that he had moved on or didn't care about me anymore, I would do Lanie's pw and as I imagined him saying these wonderful things to me, I started feeing better and soon I was lying to myself or telling myself, he is crazy obsessed with me. I kept telling myself this and even though everything was screaming, no he doesn't care about you, he doesn't miss you, I would change how I felt. So I changed the feeling of anxiety of, he is dating someone, or he has moved on to convincing myself, even though it was lying to myself at first it didn't feel natural, but with pw, I soon felt happiness hearing him say those words to me. I felt so happy I would cry during pw hearing him propose to me. And soon I was able to convince myself to the point that the hurt wasn't there anymore. Because the truth is, if you felt that he was madly in love with you, you would not feel hurt. And that is what I had to do, lie to myself until I started believing that he was in love with me and needed me back etc, only when I felt that way the hurt wasn't there. However, I didn't see results until I was so hurt by him meeting my friend online that I was angry and wanted to be done with him. Once I did the ctc method and decided to move on. I guess all the pw sessions came crashing down on him or something because suddenly he came back, needing me, wanting me and literally begging to get me to admit that at some point, I had love him at least once. Believe me, no man wants to be friends with any woman unless he thought he could get something from her, whether its sex or whatever, but even if its sex, that means he is still attracted to you. And even if he 1% attracted to you, you can and will get him back. Keep doing the pw and truly believe this will work for you, honestly, believe he is feeling this as you are doing the pw to him because he does feel it. Also one key note, if you truly want marriage, then let some of your pw be where he is in his wedding attire and you're looking at him and you hear him say, I do!! feel that intense happiness of love when your man is saying this to you on your wedding day. This will also put those pictures in his mind as well. Trust me, my ex started talking about us being soulmates and all.. Which he is not the type to even talk like that.

    3/25/2020 1:07 am

    Thank you so so much for your valuable input dear.  I have been giving him silent treatment on and off. But he seems to be very determined to not want anything else from me except being friends and I say so becuse when I expressed  to him a week ago that I still havent moved on and I cannot unlove him; he swiftly replied saying you have to and find someone else; I broke down really bad on hearing those words from him but couple of days later I gathered myself again. I started think he might be into someone and all, although there is no really any evidence to say or think like that.
    . When I go silent, he seems to try to send messages more frequently most of which  are forwarded jokes. I do know he wants to keep in touch. I am failing to understand  if he has any feeling left for me watsover, thats y i feel emptiness. Sometimes I feel discouraged thinking if  will he ever turn around; But I know also that I really have prayed to be with him as his wife. Thats Y i am holding on and I want to keep trying and hold on to that belief that I worked so hard and dedicated my everything into relationship; that God will do miracle and make him realise that he loves me truly and he comes back to me and marries me.

    3/25/2020 12:12 am

    Another thing on him, He wants to keep you around because having you as a friend and knowing you want him, makes him feel secure. NOO! Do not let him feel secure with you. While doing pw on him, act as if you don't really need him. That means taking a lot longer to text back or don't even text back. I know  your'e not supposed to play games but the truth is, even if he feels strongly for you, if he thinks you are a backup, he will go out and have his fun knowing your're sitting around waiting.  Try to have fun without him and when you talk to him, act like your life is going great and you've never been happier, blah blah. He will wonder that you are moving on and you kinda want to act like you are. Don't bring up how he feels about you and all that stuff. Don't do it. The minute they think you want them, it's kinda hard to break through with them on pw. Let him come to you, in the mean time, do pw, and act like you don't even need him and ghost him every now and then. It will make him mad and that's the point, right now your'e tepid water for him. Make him want you by being scarce, and then with pw.. He is going to yearn for you because now he is thinking about you and your'e moving on and uninterested. I can't wait to hear your success down the road. I know it is hard because you love him, but it's better that right now you temporarily don't have him then to lose him forever just being his security blanket. 

    3/24/2020 1:42 pm

    Thank you Thank you Thank you! That is a great tip! Looking at his pic and talking to him; I think I can really connect with the pic and bring those emotions;I do see our pics together often and even took print outs of pics but I will make sure to use the emotions I build while looking at those pics an follow it with PW; I dont  even feel hurt like I used to before; I  feel more like emptiness ,very confused state where I know I still very much want him to come back and tell me that he wants to marry me and be with me but off late I feel very empty. I will definitely incorporate this tip hence forth and see if I can raise my vibrations and feel anything of sorts to bring to life  my desire of him coming back to me and telling me that he wants to marry me.
    Although he has been texting me more often than usual but whenever I asked him clearly about us he has still maintained that he has moved on and blah and blah. Some days when he texts me (jokes and some funny memes), I keep silent  because I am so confused to continue in this "friends" type relationship; this  is not the end result I wanted when I devoted myself to this relationship with him 4 years back. Nevertheless, I am holding on because I really love him still and being with him and feeling of marrying him one day and being his partner gives me immense happiness. I know He is the one for me.

    3/23/2020 10:21 pm

    Ok I can help you a little bit on that on the emotion part. So in the beginning it might be hard for you to visualize doing pw and feeling everything. What I would do is I would pull up a pic of him I really liked and talk to it like I was talking to him. Then I pretended that he was talking to me back. Now when you pull up pics and look at his pics, you will feel that hurt. that's ok take that hurt and even though you're hurting, hear him say, babe Im sorry, I love you so much, dont cry. Let yourself cry if you need to. Even if youre feeling hurt, let that hurt out and hear him say all the things you wanted him to say. I would often do this if I felt no emotion, and I would close my eyes after i look at his pic, see him in my mind with the light between our 3rd eye and hear him say, Will you marry me? and all the things He would never say in real life as he never expressed his emotions to me. But nevertheless he will feel these emotions whether he tells you or not by the way he acts.

    Soon after doing this, i got used to bringing up emotions of love or hurt or whatever and i could close my eyes and do pw. For me the meditation helps with her recording bc it does relax you. But try to use the hurt to fuel you to feel something and then have him apologize while you feel this hurt, then feel the hurt subsiding bc in real life if he was apologizing and saying he wants to marry you, Wouldn't you be excited??! yeah get there, truly feel that when you imagine him saying this, he is really there with you. His spirit feels you so when you are doing this, he feels you too. 

    3/23/2020 3:28 pm

    That is really detailed and very helpful insight to the journey you embarked. I can’t thank you enough for being so patient in going through such details. Mine is stubborn one too,, although he is back in touch with me but he claims to be back only as friend, which I refuse to accept because we had a very committed relationship for 4 years and we had plans to get settled down this year. Its difficult for me to pretend to be his friend when my heart aches for him. I am much better now than I was last year. He had decided to drift away last may and hasnt looked back towards me as a partner. I have known Lanies technique but have never been able to follow a routine. While I dont use the guided meditation, when I am doing technique I dont even feel my heartbeat and no emotions as such, i feel I am just lying down and visualizing him saying things but its hard to feel that happiness out of that moment. I dont know how to amp my happy vibration while doing the technique. Do you think guided PW is better than just doing my own PW?

    3/23/2020 2:44 am

    Yes I can break down Lanie's routine. In the beginning after the break up when I first started Lanie's routine, naturally I had sleepless nights and that needy I miss him feeling. I started doing PW probably 3-4 nights before bed just so I could sleep. I ended up buying Lanie's package set, I think it was $69 for CTC, PW and some other meditations. Worth it!!! This helped me in the beginning because I really needed to calm down and her voice, it really puts you to sleep.

    I also probably did pw when my heart ached, it could be 2-3x a day and skip 2 days then 2x a day and skip a day. .  There were days I missed him everyday so I just did it when ever I needed him.  Doing Pw made me feel good because I truly tricked my brain to think, that him speaking to me was in real time as if it were really happening. Now sometimes, I had my eyes open while I talked to him, this helped me feel that it was more real. I felt all the strong emotions of happiness when He said he was madly in love with me and that he couldn't live without me. There were times, during pw my mind would wonder so instead of bringing it back to him, I saw him in his room super depressed over me.  

    Eventually the pain subsided as doing these pw viz, helped me feel good and I started telling myself whenever my heart ached, so and so is madly in love with me. Sometimes I would laugh because it got to the point, I just knew he was in love with me. That is how powerful your mind is. When you have convinced yourself of something, it will deliver it. I convinced myself he had regrets over losing me and that he was crzy in love with me. 

    I did bwd a few times maybe 6 times total?.. I hate to say this because its embarrassing but there were times I took care of myself intimately and Did bwd with it. I know he felt these because when he started reaching out to me again, I did a bwd intimate session and he called me and we talked for 2.5 hours one night. These last few nights he has been calling, texting etc and shown interest. Since this post, he texts or calls everyday. Not sure how long this will last, but as my heart is not hurting anymore, my heart doesn't look forward to his calls or expect it. If he calls great, if not, there is no wanting or yearning. I do like that he does because I still care for him. He also admitted he was intensely depress, he just didn't say over me.

    My pw  sessions went from 2-3 times a day on days I missed him to eventually 2-3 x a week and then to just whenever i ached over him but again, because I was doing them, I started getting attached eventually later as well. Because when I was getting attached I would do more. Eventually I had to force myself to detach and do less so I could live my life without being obsesed over him. But it wasn't until the embarrassing things he said about me to my friend that I needed to cut feelings for him with the CTC, I used Lanie's recordings both time and it felt good letting all that hurt and baggage go.

    Again, once I did the ctc, if I felt hurt or pain over him. I would remind myself that he wasn't worthy of me and I would be open to better men for me out there. Although I was forcing myself to be over him, I still kept telling myself everytime I thought of him, that he was madly in love with me and crazy about me. Once I started talking to other guys who were great that also helped with getting over him. When I truly was not yearning for him was when he started reaching out. 

    ps one more thing, I know this is personal. He as a man, wanted to sleep with me. I am still attracted to him and wanted to but I held my ground and wouldnt. I told him, I dont sleep with anyone who isn't my partner. Another thing too, I also told him, I would never go back to him and that I had made up my mind and there was no changing it. I think these two things also made him a little crazy and that could also contribute to him calling and or texting everyday. 

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