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[quote=Cherished][quote=Lanie Stevens][quote=Oasiscalm]No contact is the way to go. I tell all my girlfriends to do it. A lot don't listen and I know it is difficult but it is one of those processes that when you get out on the other side you realise how much stronger you feel having just worked through things in your own time. It will be a bit of a roller coaster of emotions, if you believe you won't be strong enough to not contact them then delete delete delete. Remove the temptation. Even now although me and my love are on speaking terms I never initiate contact. It puts you in a place of power and that's where we need to be coming from.[/quote] [color=#000080]I was with my fiancé' 4 years when we broke up.  I immediately deleted all of his contact information.  With smart phones who knows phone numbers, etc?  I could have looked it up on my bill or something if I became a nut case but I didn't.  I sent him messages I knew he would receive and be unable to block.  The power of my thoughts.  [img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/happy.png[/img][/color][/quote]   Absolutely! People try to contact their ex and portray their confidence with "just one friendly little message.." But it's an immediate fail because you cannot hide your underlying vibration. Your energy speaks more powerfully than your words EVER will. And I think that's where so many people trip up. What your process attains is a certain vibration of power. Suddenly you feel you can exercise control with this new relationship version in your subconscious. And you absolutely CAN. It reverses ALL of the power back to you. Love you Lanie. 😘[/quote]