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[quote=Lanie Stevens][quote=amethyst]Hi Lanie! I love your books.. they are so powerful and inspiring and are helping me through a really difficult time. I'm going through a split with my man.. we were engaged... together almost 7 years. We have a son together..  this complicates no contact. I have to talk to him almost everyday and see him regularly. There is obviously no getting around this. How do I try to keep this from affecting my visualizations and us getting back together? I try to keep interactions very short.. but it is very difficult seeing him and speaking to him. I keep texts and conversations only to things related to our child, but I want him back. I want him to be the man I fell in love with again. I planned to get myself back and spend time with my son, work on myself, and my meditations and have him come crawling back to me realizing how foolish is. It's kind of hard to make a transformation with the man who broke your heart showing up to put your son on the bus everyday. Any suggestions please Lanie? You give the best advice.. Thank you so much <3 Blessings to you.. [/quote] [color=#000080]When you see or talk to him be nice, sweet, open and act as if he is a man who interests you but you aren't going to go out of your way for.  In other words, the same as you were early in the relationship.  It throws them off when you aren't bitter, rude, cold or distant.  Act lighthearted and you will become it!  :-)[/color]  [/quote]