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[quote=KateyBerry]Hi Wunderlusting, I'm sorry you're going through this...doesn't sound like any fun. Here are my thoughts on it all.... [b]Is there hope in your situation?[/b]  Absolutely. [u]BUT - that depends entirely on you[/u].  Do YOU believe there's hope in your situation? Do YOU believe you have the power and the resources to change the situation into what you really want? If the answer is 'yes', then make a commitment to change it. Your love said he doesn't want a relationship anymore. OK - for now...but you can change that simply by using the techniques to change his mindset about being in a relationship. He said he wants to focus on himself, so let him...and you do the same for you. In focusing on yourself, I encourage you to keep up with the NC, and use this time to: 1) BREATHE; 2) Process and cry if you need to (to get all those negative emotions out) 3) Study, study STUDY the techniques and their foundation, so that they will be easy to use when you are ready; and 4) Make the changes YOU need to make in order to have the relationship you want.  If your Love's point about you needing to change was valid, then take a hard look at yourself and see what you can do to become completely irresistible and relationship ready. NOW - technically, you can do all of this at the same time. You can also start immediately on the technique if you want to. Personally, I'm a fan of reflection and study before I do anything, because I want to make sure what I'm doing is right for me (but to each her own).  All that said - however you decide to proceed PLEASE make sure your actions are coming from a place of love:  Love for yourself first, and then for him.  If you start from a place of desperation and fear, it will hinder your progress; so think about your vibration and make sure your frequency is turned up to LOVE.  I guarantee you, the rest will fall into place.  [/quote]