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[quote=wanderlusting][quote=Cherished]Im cross posting this from another forum because I think some of you could also gain from this perspective. I hope it can help someone to move forward. Lots of love. If you want the fastest, most efficient and easiest path back to your love it is going to be through YOUR implementation of the NO CONTACT RULE. .[/quote] This is my issue with the NC rule. I know a lot of people and "gurus" suggest that there is a minimum 30 day NC period that you are supposed to go through before you make an attempt to reach out. While I am currently going through NC right now, I get a little unsure on how to proceed after the 30 days. One of the reasons he told me that we broke up, was because he didn't want to focus on a relationship and that he just wanted space and time to focus on himself only, nothing else. Well, knowing this is a guy we are talking to, that could be anything from 1 week to years down the road. So my concern is, what if I contact him before he is "ready" to focus on outside things. Wouldn't that push him further away because it would be like I am not respecting his decision and his wishes? So a part of me wants to wait until he makes the first contact but then again, I really don't feel like waiting around months and years for that to happen. [/quote]