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[quote=emmiline]Hi violetback, welcome (smile) I think i can understand what youre going through here. So from what ive read, you are not together romantically in fact he is in a relationship with someone else even though you both harbour feelings for each other. I am offering you some practical advice here. I think you need clear boundaries with him because the current situation is taking a toll on you mentally and emotionally. Are you able to leave the business, can he buy you out? It must be torture seeing him everyday and asking yourself all these questions, doubting. The way i see it, he wants the best of both worlds. He cant commit to you because he chose someone else, but doesnt want you out of his life. Its like you fulfil some kind of need he has. I like how you said youre a 0 or 1 girl, and i hope youve communicated this to him so he knows where you stand. Now make a list of everything he does that is bordering on relationship territory with you. Then tell him to stop it, and keep your relationship professional. Not even 'just friends', cut him off emotionally, dont even be there for him thats what his gf is for thats why he is with her (for now). If you can, keep doing PW on him but hold on to your power. Keep your cool, be professional unless he proves by his actions he wants a serious relationship with you. I might sound harsh and you may not want to go to this extreme (like leaving the business (smile)), but i am supporting you and your well being, not his. *hugs*[/quote]