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[quote=wanderlusting]Honestly, thinking about it. I don't think I could open myself up to him again nor do I think I would fully be able to trust him either. We actually have gone through this similar situation before when we broke up 3 years ago. He fooled around with a few girls during the break up and then came back and me thinking I could forgive him and let it go, nope, I always held it against him, which I know isn't fair but it created and caused a lot of trust issues and problems in our relationship this time around, leading to a break up I assume. So, I almost feel like I would be predicting the relationship this next go around if it happened and I am not sure I could re-live going through that again. It actually grosses me out and disgusts me. I do love him and I do care about him but his choices that he is making, pushes me further away from him. Guess I will find out what my therapist says about it all in a couple of days. Haha. [quote=Jag123]That sounds like a familiar battle :)  I think the question you  really need to ask, is can you forgive him?  In order to move forward you will need to forgive him anyway, because the only person it hurts when you think about him with anyone else is yourself.  When you learn to forgive him, you will find the pain will lessen and you will be in a better position to make an informed decision about what you want.  You may find that when you let what he has done go - with love if you can - that you don't want the relationship.  However, if you hold on to it, it will forever colour your future relationship choices, with  or without him. [/quote]  [/quote]