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[quote=Marz][quote=LightReading]So I've used the cord cutting meditation and p-whip for my ex. I did cord cutting twice and p-whip like 5 times over the course of several weeks. I also stopped myself from thinking negative thoughts about him, and sent positive ones his way. Whenever I would think about our break up, I would deny myself from ruminating on it. I did these techniques because I honestly want an apology and for things to become amicable between us. I think I may have ruined what progress I made. This morning, because of the shocking election, I texted him. We used to talk politics all the time, so I mentioned the win and told him that I hope he's doing well. I hadn't spoken to him in over 7 months, by the way.  He responded that he doesn't know why I messaged him, things aren't okay between us, he wasted time with me and doesn't want to repeat our "cycle", he's okay, and yes, Trump is bad. Now honestly, I think he could have ignored my text if he really didn't want to hear from me, but maybe I'm coloring his response. It did seem oddly emotional and a tad excessive on his part. So... 1. How can I undo what seems like damage from the text I sent? 2. Is this even damage?  3. Should I text back?  [/quote] The fact that he replied that way tells me his feelings are still there. Don't feel bad for texting - it's not as if you begged him at his feet (which I've done before - not literally lol) but even if you did, you can still always change the vibration and direction of where you want to change things. I would apologize for texting and tell him I won't do it again. If anything, this calms the waters just a little bit. Do the PW technique and hear him apologize, feel the apology, feel the emotions, cry if you have to and don't think that this is it. I've literally had this guy tell me to stay the FUCK away from him more than once (long story), but now, we're back on better terms - not together, but there's the familiar warmth that we usually always go back to. You can have the same. PW 5 times over several weeks is not enough IMHO. I would do it atleast daily. I'm currently doing it 3 times a day for 30 days using Lanie's meditation. You may join my challenge if you'd like. I know not everyone can afford the recording, so you can just do the technique per the book :) Feel better and again - if he didn't care, he wouldn't still be upset after so many months. There's emotion there. That's a good thing :)[/quote]