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[quote=Blissful]Hello wonderful people, I am coming to you all with hope of some advice.. My love and I met each other for the first time in a month last weekend, he contacted me the night before saying he was in a bad way and needed help. He is suffering from depression at the moment and has just started therapy but he doesn't want to take any medication. I called him straight away and he was very drunk and wanted me to come over but I was visiting family four hours away and so I couldn't make it, I stayed talking to him until he walked home and got into bed. I msg'd him the next day to see how he was and he just tried to act like it wasn't a big deal and he probably made it sound worse then it did and he shouldn't have contacted me and worried me. I asked if he still wanted to catch up and he said he did but only if we didn't talk about 'us' or his mental situation, which is very typical of him as he just cant seem to deal with everything at the moment. I agreed and we met at a bar and just enjoyed each others company and caught each other up on what's been going on in our lives etc. he was touching my leg every now and then and saying he was proud of me at how strong I have been and how much I've changed for the better. I dropped him home and he asked if I'd like to come in which of course I wanted to.. then one thing led to another and we slept together. I tried to just focus on this as a step forward and that he still needs time to be ready for a committed relationship and not to be too bummed that he didn't want to get back together yet. I reached out to him a few days later asking if he could drop off a back pack he borrowed as I am going on holiday, he said he would drop it round and that was last night. He came over late and I could tell he was not in a very good way and looked so tired and run down. He was talking to me about how he is looking into travelling overseas to live/work as he feels like he is running out of time and wants to experience new things before he is 30 (he is 28 next January) and it did upset me a bit because it just seems like he wants to run away rather then try to work things out with me.. he could tell I was upset and he said he's sorry he cant give me what I want right now but he is so confused in his own mind at the moment and just doesn't know what the hell he wants to do. I can see the pain in him and I know he is struggling really badly and he just pushes me away emotionally but then he wants me physically.. we ended up sleeping together again last night and a part of me was happy then another part of me thought is this the right thing to be doing? Are we just becoming friends with benefits or is this how it has to be for now until he clears his head.. I am so confused on what to do moving forward.. its so hard with him being so unwell because if his desire to run away overseas is stronger then my desire to be with him then I just don't see us being together. I know I create my own reality but he creates his too and dealing with someone who has a mental health issue is challenging because I feel like my PW sessions and love I send him are being blocked and not getting through to him.. sorry this is so long! I just needed to get it all out and hopefully get some clarity on the situation. I love him and I know we can have a beautiful relationship but its difficult when he keeps resisting and only wanting me on a physical level and never wants to talk about us or how he feels..  [/quote]