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[quote=Lanie Stevens][quote=Hattie]My husband of 7 years fell prey to a vamp of a woman who has broken more homes than I can count; the more people hear of my story, the more names drop of whose husband she slept with before. Problem is, I KNOW she is using this technique to lure the men she gets - I recognize the tricks! I don't envy the karma coming her way, but how do I save my husband from her expert clutches? He will not let her go but we are still married and he still loves me. I would NOT waste my energy on a cheater if I didn't know he is truly a good man and father to our little three year old daughter; I am NOT about to let this villain ruin my marriage. My question is; will our history and family/home life play more of a powerful role in seducing him back? Or should I focus my attention on her standing the f*ck down?!?! How a sister could do this to another womans man when she knows me, (we are neighbors - we live in a VERY small town and she is working her way down a veritable list of young, attractive UNAVAILABLE men - almost like she wants to see how far she can take it). He is in danger with this tramp! I'm at my wits end. The sexual energy is still strong between us, it's the confused emotional tug-of-war that he is feeling. What do I do? [/quote] [color=#000080]Hattie the love you have between you and the child is a very strong emotional pull that is hard to break but you must do everything you can.  You know him well and you will know whether an ultimatum will work or not.  A lot of men will rebel if they are given one but he can't be allowed to continue to have you both. I have an acquaintance whose husband had an affair and she threw him out.  He ended up marrying the other woman and they have been together 20 years.  Backfired.  A friend of mine had the same thing happen.  Both men said they were in love with their wife AND the other woman.  Since the wife made the decision to let them go they were off the hook for the decision.  Only you know whether you are ready to risk losing them but it will hard on you and your self-esteem to hold on. Do the technique and visualize him being MADLY in love with you like in the beginning of the relationship.  Send him love and feel him sending it back to you.  Tell him "you will think of me when you are with her" or hear him say "I'm sorry and I will never leave or hurt you".  xoxoxoxoxo[/color][/quote]