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[quote=DC]Hi!!! I'm really sorry about your situation, and sadly I've been there. I would look at Dr Lee Baucom's material. Lots of awesome free podcasts and combine that with Lanie's methods. http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/author/lbaucom/ His approach works to heal relationships. His material is the best in the league and I did a ton of research at the time. From what I recall, if you buy his book, you get a free coaching session. The one thing I would caution you against is doing something based on your emotional state. You can absolutely have him back, if that's what you want but, if you seem irrational aka flying off the handle, you're just going to push him into her arms. The cooler you can play, the more leverage you have. This doesn't mean accepting his behaviour, but rather not screaming and yelling or causing drama. Read or listen to his material. He'll teach you the kinds of conversations to have while you influence him energetically with Lanie's methods. Best of luck! I'm curious though, how do you know she's using this method?[/quote]