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[quote=Aphrodite11][quote=MadMoiselle87][quote=Oasiscalm]That's great. And I glad you got something from both responses. Keep staying focused on what you want.[/quote] It's crazy that I was so positive yesterday morning and in the evening I was crying just because he didn't text me until evening and then he told me he had to work and was online in whatsapp the whole time ... then I immediately start to think he's messaging another girl ... he didn't even wish me a good night eventhough one day before he wrote me in the morning, even wanted to visit me to cuddle and watching movies, wrote me the whole day and wished me a good night with a kiss smiley... it's so stupid ... as soon as he isn't reacting the way I'm expecting I'm going crazy in my mind. Yesterday I wanted to wrote him that he probably doesn't have much to do if he's online in whatsapp all the time... but luckily I wrote my friend instead and kept my mouth shut lol. At least I learned that i shouldn't write him if I'm in such a crazy mood... I don't know guys everytime the crazy thoughts come in my head i can't keep my focus anymore eventhough the day before I was soooo positive and was sooo happy. Yesterday I really thought about just giving up ... that he's in contact with other girls is killing me ... he's single so I can't stop him from doing that but I hate it ... and then he's sending me today a happy 'Nikolaus' day (is like Santa Claus but not a Christmas Day just a day where you also get some presents ^^) with a kiss smiley ... i wish so much he visits me tonight ... it would just give me some hope .. what I really need right now...[/quote] See? This is something you need to work on. So what if he didn't say good night? So what if he talks to other girls? So what if he doesn't text even for a full day? Every once in a while, there used to be one day when my and me we both couldn't even text each other because we were busy, especially him. And if he used to not text, I used to not bother him or even text first. He couldn't stay without contacting me for more than a day though. His best friend is a girl. I don't know why but these things never bothered me. You can reach this place too. You are perfectly capable of being a composed, secure person. Just because you see someone is online on whatsapp doesn't mean someone is using whatsapp for all that time. A boy said to me one that he ses me online but I don't reply. He couldn't wait for twenty minutes. I told him that just because I am online doesn't mean I am using one specific application. I use internet for playing games, surfing net, kindle, etc. Sometimes I just leave internet on and keep phone aside doing other things. I am not not glued to whatsapp. His behaviour irritated me and I thought that this boy is an adult male, does he not have the common sense to understand this? Am I supposed to explain this to him ? I know I shouldn't have thought like this, I was wrong. But still can you see that it irritates people? And dear, it's good that you saw him online and didn't text him but you can do so many other things instead of just being on social media. Mostly social media is a waste of time. There are other things too. Years ago people easily spent their time without such things. You see, you were crying over silly things. The world hasn't ended because he didn't text good night. You are constantly worried that he will start being with some other girl. See worrying about it will lead to it. You know, you are doing so well with PW/BWD. I actually like it that you have done so well. You have a contact with him and things are progressing but these things are hindering it. Work on yourself. A lot. He is yours and only yours. There is only one girl in his life and that's you.[/quote]