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[quote=Oasiscalm][quote=getitgirl]Just to summarize what has been going on: we broke up in Feb, I regretted it but didn't want to reconcile right away, did PW/RS/sending love for about 4 months straight, then another 5 months I did it a bit less but at least 2-3 times a week.  I saw him at the gym in the summer, didn't expect it but he approached and hugged me.. said he'd text me, but he didn't.  Another few months, I accidentally emailed him something intended for a friend. He tried to continue the convo, suggested we workout together. I said, awesome I'm available m/w/f, let me know! No followup. Another few months (this month) - sent him a birthday message with no expectations, said I was up for workout and catching up on our fitness progress if he was still up for it. He said he was always up for a gym session, but thought it sounded lame so I ignored that comment.  But he brought it back to the topic, suggested we workout on a Sunday at my gym or come downtown at his gym!  I said I couldn't go to his gym anymore, but if he was ok coming to my gym it'd be lovely.. Asked if the 18th worked.  He said "Yep the 18 works... what time were you thinking" I replied "Either 11am or 4pm, my usual workout times. Do you have a pref?" And.... silence. It's been an entire week, and we're supposed to meet tomorrow, but I'm 100% sure he's flaking on me without an explanation at this point. Ladies - WHAT THE F HAPPENED? :( I'm just so angry, I feel like smashing a wall. If he flaked for whatever reason, I'd be annoyed but I'd get over it. But how could he just disappear on me without an explanation? Not even a socially polite response or a lie "sorry I'm sick, let's reschedule." I guess I'm so mad because every time I PW him, his feelings are so strong for me (I do the step inside sometimes to really connect with him), he misses me, etc..... but in reality he just treated me like absolute shit. No respect for me. What did I do wrong? I no longer had strong feelings of reconciliation like I did months ago, I've been a lot more detached, I'm even excited about some of my other dates...  at the very least, I thought he'd treat me with basic respect like a friend. Sorry for the vent session, but how can I do PW and still experience this?!!!!!  I guess I should PW tonight and have him apologize, but I really don't know how to believe in my visualization abilities.[/quote] The is only really one answer to this situation and that is that he isn't where you want him to be right now. Stop thinking about what you did wrong. You haven't done anything wrong. There are a million reasons why he has been flaky. And I would bet that it hasn't nothing to do with you personally. Think about times you have bailed on others and just couldn't be bothered to meet up or reply. Was it because you didn't like or care about them? You have done the right thing by not chasing him. Just take a step back and leave him to do his own thing. You don't need to be confrontational. If he suggests another gym date, tell him "he is too unreliable so we will see how it goes" From your side clean up your energy stop being so affected by what he is or isn't doing. If you want him back accept that at this time it isn't here yet, but you have the faith and then believe you will have what you desire.[/quote]