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[quote=AnnanWater][quote=Lanie Stevens][quote=mrstkg]I actually agree with you. This behavior is exactly what happened in my case. We were talking, then...nothing...like, literally mid convo. I thought it was so disrespectful. I didn't even bother with the "???".(I knew he was just fine) People know when they're being rude. He ended up calling me 3 weeks later, to which I ignored. as much as I wanted to answer, as much as I like him. I'm stubborn like that, but at the same time, even doing these techniques we have to make a silent statement that disrespect isn't going to be tolerated. Don't stop if it's what you really desire, but still, don't let them just do whatever. [quote=Aphrodite11]I think you need to stop entertaining his flaky behaviour. You are just always ready and available every time he suggests the gym session even after him flaking. I think it is disrespectful of him to not reply back to a topic like that. At least he should tell you that he can't come. You too must have a busy schedule and you make adjustments to go according to  the plan. He should at least have that much respect. No matter how busy someone is he/she can surely manage to get at least a minute and reply to a conversation like that. You make plans with someone, it's your moral duty to inform them of any changes. People are not robots with whom he can just schedule something and then not bother informing them about anything that concerns the plans. You are just taking his disrespectful behaviour. You are disrespecting yourself. Perhaps next time if he brings this up again, you can tell him that this behaviour  of  him has been disrespectful and he doesn't need to bother you and waste your time by making any plans and then not even confirming or canceling them, by not informing you about anything on those topics. You have other things to do. Stop accepting this behaviour. Stop being available to hang  out so  readily every time he mentions  about spending time.[/quote] [/quote] [color=#000080]Personally if someone shows over and over again they don't respect you I would drop them.  Using the technique works to make him miss you and think about you but he's a flake and most likely will always be a flake.  If that's not what you want in your life now is the time to rid yourself of him and not attract others like him.  [/color][/quote] I told someone recently about the current situation with my target, how he contacted me after 5 months NC and said he wanted to see me, but hasn't yet answered me about where and when. That was almost 3 months ago now! Anyways, this person I told about him said, "This guy doesn't value you", and another guy said "I hope you are not sitting around waiting for him..". I would take something better yes but that hasn't come along! Plus I am still thinking about him all the time and using PW/BWD and other LOA techniques too. I still feel so connected to him. I do not want all this work to be for nothing [img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/depressed.png[/img]. I am with the OP on this one sometimes you just can't help but to want that one person even if they have been out of contact with you when things could be very different. Can we change the flakes instead of giving up on them??[/quote]