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[quote=Oasiscalm][quote=Aphrodite11][quote=AnnanWater][quote=Lanie Stevens] [color=#000080]Personally if someone shows over and over again they don't respect you I would drop them.  Using the technique works to make him miss you and think about you but he's a flake and most likely will always be a flake.  If that's not what you want in your life now is the time to rid yourself of him and not attract others like him.  [/color][/quote] I told someone recently about the current situation with my target, how he contacted me after 5 months NC and said he wanted to see me, but hasn't yet answered me about where and when. That was almost 3 months ago now! Anyways, this person I told about him said, "This guy doesn't value you", and another guy said "I hope you are not sitting around waiting for him..". I would take something better yes but that hasn't come along! Plus I am still thinking about him all the time and using PW/BWD and other LOA techniques too. I still feel so connected to him. I do not want all this work to be for nothing [img]http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/depressed.png[/img]. I am with the OP on this one sometimes you just can't help but to want that one person even if they have been out of contact with you when things could be very different. Can we change the flakes instead of giving up on them??[/quote] From what I have noticed, we see someone's bad qualities and we focus a lot on their negative qualities. This leads to an increase in the negative qualities and they continue that way. If we change our perception, then situations and people can change. Try considering that the person behaves well and respects others. Assume they have those good qualities you want in them even if they don't actually have it right now. It really does work.  In your case it happened only once and I don't know much details, so perhaps your guiy didn't contact because he must have gotten very confused with his feelings for you.  [/quote] Exactly as Aphrodite says. What you focus on, you will create more of.[/quote]