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[quote=wanderlusting]Thank you so much for your response. I do think he has a hard time with dealing with my changes because he is always looking for the one time that I show anything remotely similar to any past reactions that I have done. He definitely is a grudge holder and apparently has a hard time with letting go and forgiveness and I brought this up to him the other night. Hopefully he will continue going to therapy and learn the art of forgiveness, not for other people but also for himself. I too have struggled with this but I have also realized that not forgiving someone doesn't necessarily hurt them, but it hurts the unforgiving party more.   [quote=BettyBlue]I agree with what Aphrodite11 and emmiline have said here. I also think he is doing this to punish you and have emmotional control over you. He is making a total dickhead of himself with the partying and the other (meaningless) women. He is desperately lashing out at you for the pain he is feeling and he is also wanting your attention very badly - even if it is bad attention. It's the behaviour of a naughty child trying everything to get a reaction from the mommie who is ignoring him. This guy's heart is so clearly yours, so be cool, carry on with the pw and any of the other things you have been doing, and go about your life as usual.  Oh and one more thing: although it does take two to tango when a relationship breaks down, he seemed to be a little too insistant about your needing to change and work on yourself. From where I see it you have been working on yourself beautifully. If anything, the one who needs to change is him, not you.  [/quote]  [/quote]