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[quote=Blue][quote=Aphrodite11][quote=mrstkg]The way you are going in on yourself, I can see a lot of the issue here. But I won't play psychotherapist. You'll heal. Yeah, you can keep going with focusing in on him to leave her etc...but Lanie advises against that if they are married. I agree. Cry it out. Delete any trace of him. Day by day you'll gain strength, then start affirming YOUR worth. That's a huge issue here. I'm sorry hun. I know it has to hurt. I have a similar story.(he was going through a divorce when we fell in love, i thought for sure we'd be together when it finalized, but nope...he got a GF. Pictures of her alllll over his FB page. And this was after discussing having a child with me) It hurt like hell.I moved on. But he ended calling me a few times trying to see me, even recently. I look at him now like SCREW you bastard. Let him wallow in his regrets. This guy just might as well. You'll see.[/quote] Yes he is married. But wasn't I there first? Weren't the promises made to me broken? Wasn't the commitment made to me broken? Wasn't I hurt? Wasn't I betrayed? Backstabbed ? Didn't he just bounce to someone else in no time? Perhaps even before leaving me? How is all this fair then? How do such people don't go through the consequencesof their actions?[/quote] Aphrodite, when you did all of these techniques and went about your life - were you negative and worrying all the time? Our future is the sum of our feelings, beliefs and visualizations. Is it possible you felt he would meet someone else and that contributed to these circumstances? I'm not saying any of this is your fault, things happen. However, was your faith in him unshaken and did you truly believe deep down he was someone you wanted to be with?[/quote]