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[quote=Justaspeckintheuniverse][quote=Aphrodite11][quote=mrstkg]That's got to hurt. I know you don't want to hear it right now, but you're free at least. Free to be pursued by a better match. You'll look back and be like "thank God". But, I'm a little confused "he said his marriage is just an adjustment". Did he tell you he was getting married?[/quote] I think you are unaware of my story. I will try to repeat. It can be exhausting to repeat. We were friends with benefits. He started developing feelings for me. He couldn't be with other girls. I started having feelings for him gradually. This was unusual for me as I do not develop serious feelings easily. He wanted to marry me. Our relationship started in September 2015. I have ADHD and so does my brother. We were diagnosed in 2015. All these years I didn't even know something like that existed. He knew about this before entering the relationship. It was a long distance relationship. He came back in town in the end of March and his behaviour started changing. He was distant. He didn't meet me enough. And I am not a person who demands to meet everyday. He was avoiding me a lot. I didn't realize he was avoiding me. Then he went back to the city where he is posted (he is a soldier). And few days after that....... BOOM !!!!!! He broke up with me !!!!!!!!! On the phone !!!!!!! And he fell asleep after he broke up and I was crying and weeping !!!!!!!!!! My mom spoke to him two days later, he blamed me for everything !!!!!!!!!! He blamed me saying that I procrastinate, that I don't sleep in time and don't wake up everyday in time, that I do not carry out tasks in time, etc!!!!!! Mind me these are all symptoms of my illness !!!!!!!!!! I suffer from insomnia, nearly no focus, anger outbursts, and a whole list of symptoms add to it the abuse I suffered during my entire childhood !!!!!!! My mom even tried to explain very politely that it is due to illness and that finally I am receiving good treatment !!!!!!! He denied all that !!!!!! I finally started reaching office in time, sleeping in time, waking up fresh, etc and he said I was faking all that !!!!!!!!!  Then few days later his best friend told me that he had called her up and told her that his engagement has been fixed (arrange marriage we are from shit place called India). He started posting all the lovey dovey stuff. After the break up he had told me that whichever girl he is going to marry it will just be an adjustment !!!!!!! This is an adjustment !!!!!!!!!! All this lovey dovey nonsense !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I spoke to him on 17th August 2015 about this and he said "It's not in the sense in which you are taking it". That's the last time we spoke. And really !!!!!! It's not in the sense in which I am taking it !!!!! Then what sense is it !!!!!!!!! Who the fuck posts all such things when you don't truly feel something for another person !!!!!!!!!! I know I would never post those things if I didn't truly love a person !!!!!!!!! And who the fuck falls in love so quickly after ending a relationship !!!!!!!! Now that I see back, few days ago he did post a few things which make me doubt if he knew her before he broke up with me !!!!! But I am unsure and I have no way of knowing !!!!!!! I just don't know what happened !!!!!!!!!! His best friend told me that he said about me "She is a nice girl, I wanted to be with her, but my....." and he stopped. She asked him what but he didn't finish the sentence. I don't know how much truth is there in it. I remember him posting few days after the break up "If someone asks you why whatever happened happened? Then say that whoever you wabted wasn't in your destiny and whoever you got was approved by God". He is an atheist and he posted this !!!!!! All this is so confusing!!!!!!!!! He looks so happy with her !!!!! They look as if they know each other since long, as if they are friends too !!!!!!!! I want to throw up !!!!!!!!!!!! Oh God !!!!! What have I gotten myself into !!!!!!!!!! All my fault !!!!! I am the piece of shit here !!!!!!!!!! My fault !!!!!!!!!!![/quote]   Couples often like putting on a fake front for show. It doesn't mean they are really happy. The more they try to shove in everyone's faces how "happy" they are the less likely it is so.[/quote]