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[quote=Aphrodite11][quote=Oasiscalm][quote=Aphrodite11][quote=mrstkg]The way you are going in on yourself, I can see a lot of the issue here. But I won't play psychotherapist. You'll heal. Yeah, you can keep going with focusing in on him to leave her etc...but Lanie advises against that if they are married. I agree. Cry it out. Delete any trace of him. Day by day you'll gain strength, then start affirming YOUR worth. That's a huge issue here. I'm sorry hun. I know it has to hurt. I have a similar story.(he was going through a divorce when we fell in love, i thought for sure we'd be together when it finalized, but nope...[b]he got a GF. Pictures of her alllll over his FB page. And this was after discussing having a child with me)[/b] It hurt like hell.I moved on. But he ended calling me a few times trying to see me, even recently. I look at him now like SCREW you bastard. Let him wallow in his regrets. This guy just might as well. You'll see.[/quote] I just don't understand how do these people hop from one person to next especially after talking about important things. Don't they feel anything for the previous person? Don't they feel anything for anyone? Fucking monkeys I tell you !!! The hell even monkeys are more stable !!!  And their insensitivity baffles the fuck out of me !!! As a human they can at least understand that the other person will be hurt by such posts, can't they? It's not rocket science. It's common sense. Don't they think even once that he/she will be hurt by this. He has posted so much, at least he can block me so that I don't see all this. He might have to post all that but he can block me so I don't see and then continue posting. But no !!!! He won't block me !!! If you broke up with me, want me out of your life, want nothing to do with me then why not just block me? Why let me know anything about your life? What I also felt was that he has moved ahead in his life. He has gotten married. And here I am still dealing with all that happened and picking myself up. He moved ahead and am stuck here !!!!!!! How can someone move ahead so easily, so quickly? I want to know how he did that !!!! So that I can do it so quickly too. 7 months and I am still recovering !!!![/quote] Why are we still talking about this. Let look at this objectively. 1- He is now married. The reasons behind his marriage has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is his life not yours. 2- He can post whatever the hell he wants. He is not responsible for your happiness. Why should he block you in order to post his happy moments. It you don't want to see his posts unfriend him, block him, don't look at his posts. 3- Your feelings are your responsibility, not his. He is not obligated to life his life to your ideals. He is not responsible for how you feel. His objective is to please himself and your objective is to please yourself. 4- Move on. Step away from all this anger. It's eating away at you. How can you expect to attract joy when all you are projecting is anger and hate. There is no set time in which someone can move on. Where is the contract that says we must wait for a specific time to move on.[/quote] I agree with everything you have said. And I know these things. I am the one who gave away all my power. I allowed myself to be affected so much. And I trying to work on it. It just hasn't been easy. hopefully I will move on.[/quote]