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[quote=wanderlusting]I only say those things because these are all the things that he keeps telling me. I have done visualizations of different things being said and also writing in my journal positive affirmations and things that I want to happen and be said but I always get the opposite response from him no matter how positive and optimistic I try to be. But you're absolutely right, I do need to change my mindset, despite what he may be telling me or how he may be behaving right now. How long do you think I should do NC? I did that right after the break up and 3 weeks in, he was showing up at my house. But I do worry, which I know I am not supposed to do, that if I do NC again, that he will completely give up and disappear for good. [/quote]