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[quote=donna89][quote=Indigo][quote=donna89]Hi guys I am really new to RS PW and BWD i bought lanies books the other week and thought i would give this a go, i was first however introduced to loa and the secret 4 months ago and i have to say it didnt really work for me so i thought lanies books etc might do the trick as i have heard such amazing stories and succes from this my background with my ex is we were together for 3 years and in that time we broke up 3x but always got back together coz of me this time i thought no way am i contacting you have to me i wanted him to show me he loves me so my question is will this work on a really stubborn ex who is seeing someone else, in 5 months has made no attempt to contact me not even 1% which is hard coz i have really tried to keep the faith.  I am followin the method of lanies and i jus wondered after 3 breakups will this work? am i to keep going with it bcause when i do the rs i cnt feel any connection to him only a massive barrier ??  thanks guys for your help in advance :)      [/quote]     It will work but you have to do it everyday.  You also have to abide by all of Lanie's other teachings in PP (Bk 3).  But I wonder why the two of you keep breaking up and getting back together again, and when the two of you get back together - as you said because of you, have you chased him, pleaded with him, and acted desperate to get him back?  If you have done those things then he probably feels that he can treat you any way that he wants to and that you will take him back whenever he wants to come back because you are sitting around moping and waiting for him.  If that has been the case, you should change your entire stance.  Start doing PW consistently every single day.  Don't worry about connections and barriers.  And in the meanwhile, don't make yourself available to him whenever he wants you, get busy doing other things and having other interests so that he gets the message that YOU are in control of whether you accept him back or not.       [/quote] we broke up mainly because of me to be honest thats why i felt the need to always try and make it right. but actually im not desperate because i haven't chased him this time i thought u know what u come begging to me and tell me you love me and yes absolutely right i will continue with lanies method and I will be in control  thanks   [/quote]