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[quote=Anti-Social][quote=Indigo][quote=Anti-Social]Just wondering if theres a reason behind having no contact with your target. I already don't have much contact with him as he's very rarely on social media and I only see him when his band plays shows 1-3 times a month, every few months. By having no contact does that also mean not going to his gigs? (i already have a ticket for his next one) his band will be on tour for a few months after that so there already will be no face-to-face contact but I know ill be tempted to contact him via social media. I have been using "Cut The Cord" meditation and it has been working so far with feeling needy and knowing he'll come to me sooner or later. What are your thoughts? **Update** ive just bought Lanie's new book and read the 'no contact' chapter however my target is not an ex.[/quote]       No contact is used for specific reasons.  If he's not an ex, why do you feel the need to be in NC mode? You probably need to read Lanie's Book 3, PP, also. There's a difference between NC and not chasing, throwing yourself at him, and acting desperate.   Not saying you're doing that, but those actions are definite no-nos.        [/quote] Thanks for replying. I guess im overly paranoid about coming across as desperate or throwing myself at him. I thought if I go NC it might help. I do own PP however ive only read it once. I'll make sure to read it again today![/quote]