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[quote=Oasiscalm][quote=Indigo][quote=Aphrodite11][quote=Indigo]       If you just started doing PW 3-4 days ago, you need to work on your patience.  These meditations are not an instant gratification tool.  Honestly, I don't have much advice for you ladies in these long- distance cross-country relationships.  Everyone knows that long-distance relationships rarely work.   There is the occasional success story but for the most part they don't work because [b]a man needs a woman taking care of him, not skyping him or talking to him over the phone[/b].  I think that you all are setting yourselves up for failure by getting involved with someone that is not in your proximity.   Anyway, maybe someone else will post about how you should handle this relationship.  Meanwhile, I recommend that you read all of Lanie's For Women Only series, you can use them to learn about dealing with this situation as well as other men in the future.             [/quote] Long distance relationships are difficult and they rarely work This is true. But it is this very thinking that has made this true. And a woman too wants a man who will be with her, not someone who will skype her or talk over the phone all the time or just write letter or send the raven. If you want him to be near you, then add that in your PW. Hear him wanting to get a job in your country.  And don't you say nothing is working. You manifested this break up and whatever you did to manifest it worked even though you couldn't see it. You realised it only when you broke up. So whatever you are doing to manifest him back will work whether you see it or not. Have some patience. It has only been three to four days.   [/quote]       Yes, but women can take care of themselves.  Women do NOT need a man.  Women can earn income, take care of the household, raise their children alone, fix the car, cook, clean, do laundry, and take care of a ALL aspects of their lives.  Men cannot.  Most of them are sad and helpless creatures.  That's why men hook up with another woman as soon as they break-up/divorce and women take a break between relationships.  And please don't reply about how men can do all the things that a woman can.  They CANNOT.  We all have mothers and fathers, and which one of them does everything???  Exactly.  MOM!!!  And that is the main reason why long-distance DOES NOT work.    [/quote] It always makes me sad to read things like this pseudo men bashing. To see you write "...men are sad and helpless creatures." Breaks my heart. Why would you waste time trying to attract some of these helpless creatures. Where is the love in that. Women can take care of themselves, yes and so can every single creature in the animal kingdom. A relationship is about a union. It's not about loss of self. A man or woman should be with someone because they want to share the experience of love & life together. You make some very generalised blanket statements to differentiate men and women. There are plenty of women who jump straight into relationships one after another, with no breaks. It may also be good reading to look up how men and women process break ups differently. As for long distance not working. I've had a successful long distance and I have five good friends who are now married to men who they were in long distance relationships with. A LDR is hard but like any other relationship it will work of the two people (man & woman) are committed to making it work. I look forward to the day when we stop having the man v woman argument. I'm a little confused, I thought the whole point to applying LOA to your life was to empower yourself to change and create your reality. How does one do that with rigid beliefs that x is x and will never ever change.[/quote]