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[quote=duvetwitch]Hi I'm new to this. I bought PW and the meditation MP3 and did it for the first time last night. Before doing the meditation I also did another remote contact meditation that I read about (and added to myself). It was very strong. So was the PW meditation. This morning I did the cord cutting meditation too, although I am sure I will need to do it again. I do feel very much better in myself, and I know this will work. I have a few questions, and I think that first I will give some background. My boyfriend and I were together for nine months, but he has a very troubled past. He was semi unfaithful to me in the summer/ autumn and realised he needed to go back into therapy as, in his words, he was sabotaging the the relationship. However, during therapy his therapist told him that he should not be in a relationship right now. But he did not tell me that, he wanted to be with me so much. Of course, he continued to sabotage the relationship by picking fights and just being odd in general. I stuck with it. But over Christmas I suggested taking a break, as he was not coping with the relationship, which he reacted very badly to. Things went downhill from there and I ended the relationship four weeks ago. I have regretted ending it ever since. We saw each other just over two weeks ago, and talked for hours (as well as sex). He said he doesn't want to cut me out of his life altogether, but he cannot be my boyfriend - despite the fact that he does love me. He says he will continue to sabotage the relationship until he gets better, but he doesn't know how long that will take. Therefore he wants me to move on with my life. He feels he has nothing to offer me - my life materially is better than his (I own my own house, have two kids etc). So we left it that we would maybe (maybe) see each other or talk to each other once a month. Ive not been in contact with him, as he asked for no contact. I said I would be in touch in a month and he agreed. My questions therefore are these: 1. Should i contact him in two weeks, or just leave it to him? I did say that I would contact him, and due to his massive insecurities and that it was me that broke things up maybe I should stick to what I said I would do - to show consistency and follow through? 2. Within the PW framework is there some way I can help him with his healing process? I'm thinking that because it works on the subconscious mind that it may be possible to get him to feel, subconsciously, that he IS well and that he HAS put his past behind him and that he DOES NOT sabotage anything good that comes to him. What things can I plant there? 3. If it is possible to help him - what would I do during the meditation? Would I just have him say those things e.g. 'I am well now'? Or would there be more to it? 4. How do I judge that he has had enough time to work on himself? But then again, if the problems are in his subconscious mind (which believes him to be unworthy and unloveable) - if I could access it and help reprogramme this? In the meantime I am seeing a therapist myself, and also a clinical hypnotherapist - to put myself in a better position as I have found this to be a very damaging experience. He is the love of my life, and I know what we have is worth saving. At 42 years old I don't want to lose this chance. I'm so sorry for the long post - this one is tricky! By the way, I am also an astrologer, so I asked myself a question about the 'communication' with him - whether it worked or not. The answer was a clear yes. So anyone with any doubts should start to get rid of them. Thanks all. x[/quote]