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[quote=Indigo]      Hello.  Since you have children you need to take them into consideration also.  BF can't have it both ways. He wants you to move on with your life but he wants you to stay in touch once a month.  Are you supposed to put your life on hold, looking at the calendar and counting the days until you make contact?  I wouldn't. I would continue to meditate upon him with the phrases that Lanie suggests such as "I love you, I need you, I can't live without you."  Not "I am well now, I'm going to go to therapy" or whatever.   If you decide to get back together with him, you might consider going to therapy together.  Make sure you get Lanie's PP, it's free today so take advantage of that and make sure to read it.  I think it's her most important book, if you don't do the things she says in PP the other things you're doing are irrelevant.          [/quote]