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[quote=Amazonne][quote=DJ]I was just about to create a topic on something similiar. I was in an on-off relationship with someone who was initially the sweetest person to me but things have now probably ended and ended badly because as soon as we got close, he did not treat me well plus I had a lot of insecurities and fear. My question is that I want him back but I cannot let go of the hurt and pain caused by him. Sometimes I remember the bad times and I get really upset & confused. I do not know how do I fix my relationship/friendship with him. Even I dont want a relationship and commitment immediately but I want us to be on good terms. Also, I do want him to atleast admit his fault since he is the one who kind of used me & pushed me away from his life and has not contacted me yet. I am still confused. How did you manage to let go of the bad memories and believe that he would contact you? I do only PW and not BWD as he was not so emotionally close to me and I want the emotional connection between us to grow. Also, a psychic told me that he will not call me for atleast 6 months and that has really bummed me out. I know it sounds crazy and I shouldnt believe it but what if she is right? Please advise on my situation.[/quote] Hello :) Firstly, psychics are only going to reflect your fears/beliefs- so what s/he said to you is irrelevant, unless you choose to believe it. You create your future- no one else. Second, I do understand getting over the hurt and pain and all. What was tough for me to come to terms with was accepting that I'd attracted it. Go back and assess what you were feeling at the time- you said you had insecurities and fears? That's EXACTLY what I had when involved with this guy, it's no wonder it turned out negatively. You know how different people can have totally opposite experiences of the same person? It's the same principle, expect negative, and that's exactly what you will receive.  Find a way to get out all that anger- write it out, write him an angry letter that you'll never send, tear it up, throw it away, listen to some sassy Beyoncé tracks, whatever you need to do. You are human. After that, decide what you want with him and imagine that had happened instead. The easiest way for me to let it go was to just replace it with something else- I revised the whole situation. But some may imagine an apology, a heartfelt conversation- whatever feels best to you. But realize that people can really only be to you what you expect them to be. I know it's hard! But totally worth it. ❤️[/quote]