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[quote=lildreamer]Okay, I've been on and off with the PW and Burn because I still am pretty angry at my guy (been doing it since last May; with varied success because of my attitude and our long, bad history). I'm angry because he's not been a good father to our son since he moved away. He moved another woman in with him in November; was paying her way; but did not send our son a birthday or Christmas present; or even a card ( he pled poverty..he DOES pay my car payment since he's on the loan for it; so I can't say he does absolutely *nothing* for us). It's been very contentious between us. I do PW mostly now; because I am hoping to change that dynamic. I understand that this man may not be someone I want to continue concentrating on;but without getting into the WHOLE story; I have sat down with myself and decided that I still want to work on him some. It's just now been a year since we split up (very VERY badly!) and I assessed how I feel. I love his soul; who he is underneath all his BS;but I am VERY AWARE he has a LOT of BS (again;I'm aware that I'm affirming this. Just using this to explain how it's been so far). These days; when I do the PW I imagine that I am talking to his soul; his true self; instead of the person he pretends to be on the outside ( he is an alcoholic and has BPD ..and I also realize - before you say anything about that - that those things are also things I am reaffirming here; and I would like to say I'm just describing what I've already manifested. I'm aware of that; and of the fact I should move beyond them). At the least; I am hoping to manifest a better parenting relationship with him; even if my love is in vain and I'm being foolish still caring about him. **I would like to take this time to say that I do NOT have large self-esteem problems. I am perfectly happy with who I am. I know I am attractive; worthy of good love and respect; and I am content alone right now. I don't chase after anyone; I take care of myself and my autistic son by myself every day. I am not longing after this man because I am being co-dependent or anything of that sort. I belong to several support groups and have a good network of wonderful friends. I just feel that this man is someone who is in my soul group. I feel that he was sent here to help me grow spiritually;by giving me lots to learn and to help me grow. But he was also my best friend.  Okay, here's the issue: After weeks of minimal (because of our son; I was not talking to him at all; I used texts if I needed to tell him something; he is blocked so he can't text me back. Blocked on social media and on the phone AND primary email) to no contact; he emailed me on our anniversary (Feb 7th) to beg me to call because of taxes. So I did,because I needed to make sure we were on the same page about them. He was EXTREMELY nice;and did not bring up the other woman at all. At the end of the call; he said "I love you with all my heart". I did not reply, but was friendly as I said goodbye. He has not said this to me in a YEAR. Things got a little sour a few days later because he didn't do something for our son that I was expecting him to; and I sent him a firm and pissed off text about it. He did not email back or anything.  Then, on Valentine's Day; he posted a picture of him with balloons in a suit down on one knee with the other woman. I know this because a friend sent it to me today. However; according to one person who knows him; he swears he did NOT propose..he just wanted to make a very romantic gesture. And my friend says it does NOT say anything about engagement on his page or the pictures.  My question is this: I thought I manifested a good reaction with the phone call using PW; so how did THIS happen? I know I should just ignore it;and I'm going to;but I want to make sure I don't need to adjust my approach any more than I have already. And do you think he posted the pictures so that it would get back to me? In other words; how did the energy of the PW I'm doing result in him reacting like that? One other note; I ONLY do the PW when I am not feeling angry at him. I only do it when I can feel loving towards him.I am also using the heart forgiveness meditation and the Ho'oponopono that I posted. If I am feeling angry and resentful; I forgo doing the PW at all, and wait until I've gotten into a better vibration.[/quote]