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[quote=Mcleanie77][quote=Amazonne]Hey ladies 🤘🏽 So I dated this super-hot foreign guy for about a month but things ended quite badly. It was great at first but I was confused about what I wanted at the time (story of my life, honestly) AND I had those messed-up beliefs about men (the reason I started [url=http://laniestevensforum.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=643]this thread[/url] a few months after this). He said some low-key offensive things about women, not realizing it obviously, but instead of calling it out straight away I built up the anger. When he started avoiding me, I got really mad and exploded all the anger I'd repressed and went off at him over text. We argued back and forth, he denying everything obviously, and I just ended it, honestly feeling quite embarrassed. Okay, REALLY EMBARRASSED. I spent a lot of time being mad at him, at myself, at the situation, at the world, but eventually accepted that I had attracted this. It wasn't easy! I blamed society for a long time, but when I remembered that we only attract what we believe, I began the process of letting it go.  Upon the advice of an awesome LOA friend, I revised the situation. That first time he said those things was after we first slept together- I revised that whole thing. Imagined him saying he really liked me and wanted to see me again, and that was it! From there, I could easily imagine the months that followed as awesome- he wanting to spend time with me, us going out, being each others' plus-ones for events, etc. I revised this in November I think, and each time after that, when I thought of him it was mostly positive. As an active feminist I struggle to place my focus on building the new rather than shouting at the old, but I'm working through it and I've taken the responsibility off him. Well, lo and behold, just this Saturday I get a message from him! He was only in town for a few months so he's definitely moved somewhere else at this point, and I'd deleted him off FB so to get a message from him on Messenger meant he REALLY went out of his way to search for me. He said despite our misunderstandings, he remembers me as smart, beautiful and nice. Said he thought of me that day and felt he had to message me! Hopes I'm doing well, etc etc. He mentioned in the text that he didn't expect me to reply, but just felt he HAD to say what he said. I mean??!! Pretty incredible. I gave a curt response at first, but that was because I was listening to my "real-world fuck-him" friends. I then asked where he was and we caught up so nicely! He was insanely excited over text. I was very calm, not putting too much into my responses but he was very curious about me. So yeah, pretty cool! I mean after that, to remember me only positively?  No, I don't see us going anywhere. I just wanted that situation to have had a sweet ending, and I wanted us to be on good terms. Who knows, maybe we'll meet up in a city someday and have a good night 😉[/quote]  You're amazing beautiful girly❤️[/quote]